So what's a guy to do?

[FireDoc]

Here's the deal. I'm in my mid-20's and engaged to a girl I've been with for 5 plus years. Needless to say, we've been together for awhile and I've only been with 2 other women my whole life. Sad to say, the sex life has become non-existent and dull as a pencil after a ACT test. Has been getting that way for several years, and it's because one of us just doesn't have time it seems. I've tried everything, and I do mean EVERYTHING, to get things fired back up and no can do. I've always been a pretty sexual person, and had a killer sex life back in my late teen years. I miss it.
The problem is I find myself realizing that mid 20's is waaaaaay to young to be talking about sex like some cut off senior citizen who is relegated to remembering the glory days, and I find myself thinking of a sexual affair of some sort. But I have the moral issues, and needless to say those can cause problems but at the same time I'm human just like anyone else and have sexual needs that need fulfilled. Let me tell you, surfing the porn sites is only so erotic for so long, and a guy's hand gets too familiar after a bit.
So now I've turned to looking for suggestions from others who may have been, or are in the same boat.
Any suggestions anyone? And PS, glad to be on the Board.

 

[Sparky Kronkite]

Hmmmmmmm??????????????

Just a slight suspision here.....

Docisin? FireDoc? Looking for women, or advise from women?

Hmmmmmm???????

FireDoc my ass! Ow! Hot! Damn!

 

[Expertise]

Take two aspirins and run away screaming...

It aint gonna' get any easier big fella'

 

[BlondeBeauty]

Welcome FireDoc

Without knowing all the details surrounding your relationship with her, FireDoc, the only advice I can offer is to sit down and talk with her. I have one big question though-if things aren't working out, why on earth would you marry her? My guy and I are getting married because we are head over heels in love with each other, and we know that we can discuss anything that might become an obstacle in our relationship. How can you plan to marry a girl when you're already considering an affair? That just doesn't seem right to me. If you have any doubts at all, I would seriously urge you not to rush into marriage...if I think of any other suggestions, I'll post back to you...

 

[KillerMuffin]

She's probably feeling the same way darlin. Telling her friends, I love him but he just doesn't do it for me anymore. Tried open communication? Asked her what turns her on and makes her hot and bothered? What her fantasies are? Maybe there is stress happening, stress can kill a libido. Or exhaustion, working too much. Would she share maybe the erotic romantic stories on the site with you?

 

[FireDoc]

Sparky: The name's related to the Fire Service. Hope that clears up things for ya....Has nothing to do with the earlier post I just scrolled over from another fella. Thanks for the quick assumption, no interest in your ass though. Sorry.

BlondeBeauty: Thanks for the reply. It's not that all the other things in regards to our relationship aren't working out, just this one. We do discuss everything as well, and this topic has been covered several times. And it sounds odd I'm sure, but I am head over heels in love with her. I'm quite sure there's no one else I would want to marry. Have been for quite some time, but sex is not always about love and I think that may be where the problem is. Somewhat like that old Bryan Adams song, "Run to you." Thanks again

KillerMuffin: Thanks for replying. Your post made me think of something, and it pertains to sexual tastes I guess. I'm more of a spur of the moment, go at it when you want to, vary the routine type person and she's more of a plan it out, lots of things that need to be "checked off" before you go at it, and a keep it the same type. Maybe she just likes plain cupcakes, and I'm a chocolate cake with special frosting, candles and special treats inside. Thanks again though!


[Edited by FireDoc on 10-30-2000 at 12:47 PM]