So this idea ...

[Rob_Royale]

A young man and an older woman enter into a business arrangement. It's not long before they start getting closer as they are both rather alone. They sort of enter into an ersatz mother/son relationship which then evolves into a sexual thing. She's a widow nurse and compassionate by nature. He's an Afghan vet with ptsd and traumatic brain injury that causes issues. And now they are co-habitating at her home.

So I'm thinking that fetish is the category and some solid tags necessary. Sound right? I think it's too different for the mature category and too tame for T/I. Thoughts?

Edit- I'm going gentle femdom with breast appreciation throughout.

 

[RocketGrunt]

That sounds like a straightforward entry in the Mature category.

Also the first paragraph really seemed like it should end ...THEY FIGHT CRIME!

 

[PennyThompson]

Hmm, what about that scenario doesn't belong in Mature? That category is largely about age gaps, may/december, connections between generational cohorts, right?

 

[MrPixel]

They're not related, so T/I doesn't enter into the discussion. Age difference does, so Mature is where I'd put it.

 

[SmilingLez]

He's an Afghan vet with ptsd and traumatic brain injury that causes issues.

As a reader, I would like it specified that the dude with the TBI is sane enough to give his consent.

 

[Rob_Royale]

Hmm, what about that scenario doesn't belong in Mature? That category is largely about age gaps, may/december, connections between generational cohorts, right?

They're not related, so T/I doesn't enter into the discussion. Age difference does, so Mature is where I'd put it.

And if he starts calling her mom and it starts feeling a little more taboo?

As a reader, I would like it specified that the dude with the TBI is sane enough to give his consent.

He has a condition where his internal clock is shot and he's a insomniac.

 

[ElectricBlue]

A young man and an older woman enter into a business arrangement. It's not long before they start getting closer as they are both rather alone. They sort of enter into an ersatz mother/son relationship which then evolves into a sexual thing. She's a widow nurse and compassionate by nature. He's an Afghan vet with ptsd and traumatic brain injury that causes issues. And now they are co-habitating at her home.

So I'm thinking that fetish is the category and some solid tags necessary. Sound right? I think it's too different for the mature category and too tame for T/I. Thoughts?

Sounds like Mature, from the little you've said.

Where's the incest, where's the fetish, where's the taboo?

 

[Ianus4]

It depends on the details. If, for example, you want breastfeeding or gentle femdom, then Fetish is better; if you want a more traditional love story, then Mature. Definitely not T/I.

 

[PennyThompson]

And if he starts calling her mom and it starts feeling a little more taboo?

A while ago I tried to make the case that there should be more non-incest in the Taboo category, more stories about tricky relationships and power dynamics... and I got thoroughly shot down and talked into publishing my "problematic workwife situation" story into a different category

 

[Five_Inch_Heels]

Almost might could fit in Romance.

 

[Rob_Royale]

It depends on the details. If, for example, you want breastfeeding or gentle femdom, then Fetish is better

This is where I'm heading.

 

[ElectricBlue]

This is where I'm heading.

Probably should have mentioned that, up the top. You mentioned a widow, a war veteran with PTSD, a quasi mother and son nursing caring thing, but again, where's the fetish?

 

[ChuckWolf]

The widow-vet relationship kinda reminds me of Boogie Nights, where Julianne Moore's character takes on a maternal role with her porno co-stars.

 

[Rob_Royale]

but again, where's the fetish?

This is why I'm asking. If you're just gonna poke at what I didn't say, don't bother.

 

[MelissaBaby]

A young man and an older woman enter into a business arrangement. It's not long before they start getting closer as they are both rather alone. They sort of enter into an ersatz mother/son relationship which then evolves into a sexual thing. She's a widow nurse and compassionate by nature. He's an Afghan vet with ptsd and traumatic brain injury that causes issues. And now they are co-habitating at her home.

So I'm thinking that fetish is the category and some solid tags necessary. Sound right? I think it's too different for the mature category and too tame for T/I. Thoughts?

Edit- I'm going gentle femdom with breast appreciation throughout.

If you switched the genders, would you even consider fetish?

 

[ElectricBlue]

This is why I'm asking. If you're just gonna poke at what I didn't say, don't bother.

I'm seeking clarification as to what you are asking, is all.

You came seeking advice, you've got some, but now you're saying, "Wait, there's something else I didn't mention." As I say, where's the fetish?

 

[ChuckWolf]

Sounds like an "incest-roleplay" type story.

Don't know how strict the T/I readers are on "incest-purity", but I suspect that if you publish the story in that category, they'll punish you for it with downvoting.

Mature (which I'd recommend) or Fetish category would be the best options.

 

[Rob_Royale]

If you switched the genders, would you even consider fetish?

Well based on a Google search, I guess 'daddy' is more of a kink.

 

[PapaRomantic]

The T/I crowd generally doesn't like any kind of non-familial relationship. In many step-whatever stories, they will comment that it's not real incest. So I'm afraid they'd look at this even more harshly.

You've not said the specific ages of the two. I'm getting ready to start on a WIP that has a younger 20's something man getting involved with a 40 year old woman. In my case, i think the mature section qualifies even though technically neither of them are what I would consider to be of mature age. It's the gap in ages that to me makes it a story for the mature category.

 

[anthrodisiac]

A young man and an older woman enter into a business arrangement. It's not long before they start getting closer as they are both rather alone. They sort of enter into an ersatz mother/son relationship which then evolves into a sexual thing. She's a widow nurse and compassionate by nature. He's an Afghan vet with ptsd and traumatic brain injury that causes issues. And now they are co-habitating at her home.

So I'm thinking that fetish is the category and some solid tags necessary. Sound right? I think it's too different for the mature category and too tame for T/I. Thoughts?

Edit- I'm going gentle femdom with breast appreciation throughout.

I think you're on the right track. T/I I don't think really fits very well. But Mature is a pretty broad category. Light femdom and breast appreciation are, and someone can correct me if I'm wrong, pretty big staples in Mature category, especially older women and younger men. I'm not familiar enough with Fetish to be able to say whether it belongs there, but I'm not sure it's an especially "fetish" fetish, if that makes sense. It's not particularly niche, I suppose is what I mean. Or not niche enough that it would feel out of place in Mature. Not a criticism of the story or your style, just trying to give useful feedback, since you asked.

And if he starts calling her mom and it starts feeling a little more taboo?

He has a condition where his internal clock is shot and he's a insomniac.

There's a more nuanced argument about whether it's taboo, based on the fact she's his primary caregiver and it's extremely unethical for her to be involved with a patient. But I still think you're probably better off in Mature.

He's an Afghan vet with ptsd and traumatic brain injury that causes issues.

I would like to preface the following advice by stating I'm not assuming this is where you're going. I'm not making assumptions about the story based on the information you've provided thus far.

Also, this is something you want to handle very, very carefully.

You don't want to infantilize the guy. Disability is a sensitive topic (as someone with several, including PTSD). TBIs have a lot of different symptoms, but you want to be careful that it's not treated as a mentally- or developmentally-regressive state, because there are legal concerns about consent around mentally impaired individuals, as @SmilingLez mentione. Though I'd say it's less a question of sanity and more that he has the cognitive capacity to give legally consent. I'm not sure what the rules for Lit are around around cognitive and development impairements, but in the real world, most places have laws around this, so having him be too much of either impairement would make this entirely illegal, treated in a similar category as underage. I would definitely avoid having him regress to an entirely child-like state. That said, he can certainly roleplay the "little boy." It's a common mature femdom trope (hell, I've used it). But make sure it's just roleplaying, not actually being in that mental state.

Your goal should be to treat him compassionately. The caretaker should be (and sounds like she will be) kind and doting, probably respectful and appreciative of his sacrifice. His reasons for viewing her as more a Mommy figure should be less mental impairment, and more along the lines of:

1. He's secretly had a Mommy fetish his whole life, and maybe he lets it slip. It could potentially be TBI-related, since TBI can have tics or Tourette-like symptoms. Or he could be on strong narcotics, tranquilizers, or other impairing medications and it comes out.
2. His own relationship with his mother was strained and he never had a mother figure in his life. So having one now, while he's feeling his lowest, the most vulnerable (perhaps even feeling discarded by his country; this is a not uncommon sentiment among veterans who've been injured in combat, to feel like the government should be doing a better job taking care of them), gives him a closeness to someone he's never felt in this way, and it's not a big leap to sexualize that.
3. She secretly has a Son fetish, and she eases him into it, and given that he might feel fairly isolated, it's a connection he craves and conforms to it. Maybe at first he's a little reluctant, because it makes him feel less of a man, but as they do it more he starts to realize how much he enjoys it. This does run into more ethical issues than if he initiates, and you would have to make sure that it doesn't come across as predatory (unless you want to go that route).

Those are just a few examples. There are all sorts of reasons why this particular encounter might go that way, and it's entirely up to you how that happens. It's your story after all, you know your characters better than anyone: their motivations, hopes, fears, etc. My main point is that you want to make sure you are handling the disability portrayal respectfully and in a way that doesn't invite someone to question whether he's mentally fit to consent.

 

[RejectReality]

If there's anything resembling incest roleplay, you're going to take hits in Mature. Even a whiff of it gives some the heebie-jeebies. They're a friendly audience overall, but that's one thing that can draw you some commentary. That being said, I've pushed the edge a few times ( albeit more in a father daughter angle ) and come out of it without too many bumps and bruises. It just depends upon how heavily the story leans on it. It's a big readership to leave on the table if you think you're not too far over the line.

Absent any genuine familial relationship ( even step ) you're going to get ignored at best in I/T.

Everything mentioned leans toward a dommy mommy in Fetish, IMO.

 

[Writer61]

Sounds like E/C to me.

 

[Rob_Royale]

Everything mentioned leans toward a dommy mommy in Fetish, IMO.

Thanks to everyone for their input. This is where I'm going with it.
For the record, the MMC suffers from extreme Delayed Sleep Phase Disorder due to his ptsd and tbi. Aside from being nearly perma-jetlagged he's perfectly mentally competent.

 

[VerbalAbuse]

So you're writing this? Not just another idea?

 

[Rob_Royale]

So you're writing this? Not just another idea?

Yes. I have already started it.