So, Question...

[BiBunny]

You know ... there's lots of them "wide open spaces" in Texas. You know what I mean. Where you could stake someone out in that oh so hot Texas sun and just walk away. He's the Top, right? You have to do what he says, right? Well, who's to say he didn't tell you to do that? And he just "happened" to be dead when you got back? <giggles quietly> <angel smilie>

We're both switches. He ordered me to Top him, and I did. That exonerates me, right?

this is the guy you decided to stick with after all the shit that he put you through, right?

*hug*hug*hug*

Yeah. I guess everybody can bring on the "I told you sos" now. 'Cause, after all, I brought it on myself. Thanks for the hugs.

 

[HottieMama]

Bunny...How are things today? Have you had any contact at all or are you still getting the cold shoulder?

 

[BiBunny]

Bunny...How are things today? Have you had any contact at all or are you still getting the cold shoulder?

Nope. Nothing. If I weren't certain I'd be branded a crazy woman, I'd drive the two hours down there, bang on the door 'til he finally opens it, and demand to know what the fuck his problem is. Barring that, I'll sit here and feel sorry for myself.

 

[CutieMouse]

Nope. Nothing. If I weren't certain I'd be branded a crazy woman, I'd drive the two hours down there, bang on the door 'til he finally opens it, and demand to know what the fuck his problem is. Barring that, I'll sit here and feel sorry for myself.

Ya know love, there is something about certain kinds of guys that makes them really get off on the power trip of driving us this crazy. They intentionally do dysfunctional shit, just because it triggers a reaction, and we end up getting sucked in that much deeper.

You did not do one fucking thing worth feeling sorry for yourself for. This is HIS dysfunction; it has NOTHING to do with you, unless you let it. You know that this is a habitual cycle, and he isn't man enough to stop it - which isn't fair and sucks ass, but it's the truth. the only thing you can control is how you decide to deal with it.

Feel sorry for his shit attitude and how it impacts your life, feel sorry for allowing it to impact your life, but don't feel sorry for yourself - you're too damned wonderful to waste energy on that. And if that pep talk didn't work, go read some choice theory books or something.

 

[BiBunny]

Ya know love, there is something about certain kinds of guys that makes them really get off on the power trip of driving us this crazy. They intentionally do dysfunctional shit, just because it triggers a reaction, and we end up getting sucked in that much deeper.

You did not do one fucking thing worth feeling sorry for yourself for. This is HIS dysfunction; it has NOTHING to do with you, unless you let it. You know that this is a habitual cycle, and he isn't man enough to stop it - which isn't fair and sucks ass, but it's the truth. the only thing you can control is how you decide to deal with it.

Feel sorry for his shit attitude and how it impacts your life, feel sorry for allowing it to impact your life, but don't feel sorry for yourself - you're too damned wonderful to waste energy on that. And if that pep talk didn't work, go read some choice theory books or something.

*Hugs the Mouse* Thank you. You're totally right. I'm going to give myself (and him) some time to cool off and go from there.

*Tells self, "The only person's behavior you can change is your own. The only person's behavior you can change is your own. The only person's behavior you can change is your own."*

 

[northwoods_sub]

ya know, they say that Lake Superior never gives up her dead........

Just sayin'

 

[myinnerslut]

Yeah. I guess everybody can bring on the "I told you sos" now. 'Cause, after all, I brought it on myself. Thanks for the hugs.

no i told you so's. just understanding. i get upset at A also sometimes and wonder why i put myself through what i put myself, but in the end we have our reasons i suppose. *hugs* feel free to pm me if you want to talk ever.

 

[BiBunny]

no i told you so's. just understanding. i get upset at A also sometimes and wonder why i put myself through what i put myself, but in the end we have our reasons i suppose. *hugs* feel free to pm me if you want to talk ever.

Thanks, mis. In the end, for me, it always comes down to it being less painful for me to accept his considerable shortcomings than to kick his ass to the curb. We're tentatively talking again now.

But I'm damn sure going to remember that about Lake Superior, northwoods_sub...you know, just for future reference.

 

[myinnerslut]

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[graceanne]

Thanks, mis. In the end, for me, it always comes down to it being less painful for me to accept his considerable shortcomings than to kick his ass to the curb. We're tentatively talking again now.

But I'm damn sure going to remember that about Lake Superior, northwoods_sub...you know, just for future reference.

My other always said that people will stay with their SO's until they're more miserable with them than without them.

That said, if he's getting a power trip off of ignoring you, I'd remove the power trip. Stop calling, and if you're gonna stress, don't let him know you are. I bet he'll be calling you ASAP. And if you do that everytime he plays this little game with you, he won't do it anymore. Take the reward, and they stop doing the action.

 

[BiBunny]

My other always said that people will stay with their SO's until they're more miserable with them than without them.

That said, if he's getting a power trip off of ignoring you, I'd remove the power trip. Stop calling, and if you're gonna stress, don't let him know you are. I bet he'll be calling you ASAP. And if you do that everytime he plays this little game with you, he won't do it anymore. Take the reward, and they stop doing the action.

I did. He caved. Good enough for me, at least at the moment.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

I did. He caved. Good enough for me, at least at the moment.

Good for you! Good for both of you, actually. Maybe he's starting the learning process

 

[Evil_Geoff]

There's a saying we have here on Lit...

Don't feed the drama llama's!
Refering to you feeding B's dysfunction, not your sharing here!
'Nuff said, Bunny honey!

{{{{{HUG}}}}}