So many firsts...

[catalina_francisco]

Bumpity! *grins*

Last night I did another cutting on janey... first time using an object/device for the pattern. I used a shotglass to cut around to get the circles to come out right!

https://forum.literotica.com/attachment.php?attachmentid=738039

Very nicely done. Will that one mark permanently on Janey? I know for me it would, but I tend to have keloid scaring more often than not.

Catalina

 

[callinectes]

i was also publicly humiliated which i didn't enjoy at all and rightly so. He used this as a punishment and it was completely unexpected. We went to the store and bought diapers and then he asked the cashier where there was a bathroom so that i could change. i was SO angry, shocked, and humiliated that i almost started crying right there on the spot. i changed and then had to walk passed all those cashiers again. J new how much this bothered me. i really deserved it though. i ended up breaking down in tears when we got home. It was a huge mental blow. This was within an hour of having that beating too so i was already feeling a bit overwhelmed. This was not a fun experience and not something i want to experience again.

This may be none of my business..but what did you do that you keep saying was so awful that you deserved this punishment? And what did the poor cashier do to that he felt like she had to be punished as well by involving him/her?

 

[Kailey_86]

This may be none of my business..but what did you do that you keep saying was so awful that you deserved this punishment? And what did the poor cashier do to that he felt like she had to be punished as well by involving him/her?

i am without a job right now and i was told to go to this temporary job agency. We talked about it ALL week long because i was very unhappy about having to go for certain reasons. i didn't end up going for other reasons that were within my control. i was punished for not going. After this punishment he told me that there are worse things that i can be told to do than having to go to the job agency. This punishment proves it. He made sure that we went late so there weren't many people and we went to a store where i didn't know anyone. i appreciate these things however it didn't lessen my humiliation.

As for the cashier, how is this punishing her? It has nothing to do with her. For all she knows, i could have some sort of bladder control problem. All she had to do was point me in the direction of the bathroom.

 

[CutieMouse]

*****

 

[callinectes]

i am without a job right now and i was told to go to this temporary job agency. We talked about it ALL week long because i was very unhappy about having to go for certain reasons. i didn't end up going for other reasons that were within my control. i was punished for not going. After this punishment he told me that there are worse things that i can be told to do than having to go to the job agency. This punishment proves it. He made sure that we went late so there weren't many people and we went to a store where i didn't know anyone. i appreciate these things however it didn't lessen my humiliation.

As for the cashier, how is this punishing her? It has nothing to do with her. For all she knows, i could have some sort of bladder control problem. All she had to do was point me in the direction of the bathroom.

I interpreted your post as him actually saying to the cashier "where is the bathroom so she can change into her diapers" and you standing there red-faced and on the verge of tears. IMHO, that could be embaressing and disconcerting for the cashier. If that's not how it went down then I offer my apologies.

Involving others in any way at all is one of my pet peeves so I am probably overly critical of it. I don't like seeing heavy PDA, clothing with offensive or obscene messages, and subjecting others to personal discussions, relationship issues, etc. I guess I'm an uptight prude. *shrugs*

ETA..didn't see CutieMouse's post..she said it better than I.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

wow, its lovely!!

Thank you! I thought about going for the whole olympic symbol thing but I kept it simple with just the three interlocking circles... That and I didn't want to cut over any of janey's tats...

 

[Evil_Geoff]

Very nicely done. Will that one mark permanently on Janey? I know for me it would, but I tend to have keloid scaring more often than not.

Catalina

Did you see the pics of the first cutting I did? That's about a month ago now. You can still see a bit of pinkish tissue from the original, but I don't think it will be terribly visible in another 3 - 4 weeks. The circles, if they heal at the same rate will be gone in a couple of months.

I use anti-bacterial ointment and a bandage the first night after, rub a bit of aloe in now and then after to promote healing. *grins* Think of it as a slow recovering etch-a-sketch!

 

[lil_slave_rose]

i am without a job right now and i was told to go to this temporary job agency. We talked about it ALL week long because i was very unhappy about having to go for certain reasons. i didn't end up going for other reasons that were within my control. i was punished for not going. After this punishment he told me that there are worse things that i can be told to do than having to go to the job agency. This punishment proves it. He made sure that we went late so there weren't many people and we went to a store where i didn't know anyone. i appreciate these things however it didn't lessen my humiliation.

As for the cashier, how is this punishing her? It has nothing to do with her. For all she knows, i could have some sort of bladder control problem. All she had to do was point me in the direction of the bathroom.

i'm not sure 'punishing' her was the right word, but it did involve someone in your relationship, which like you said 'it had nothing to do with her'. i guess the point is, the bathroom could have waited or he could have found it for you without having to ask her where it was so that you could change those words didn't even have to be involved ..he could have just asked where the bathroom was. i'm not chastising or putting you down, i just don't agree with this kind of public involvement, nor do i agree that after a very intense scene, that you should have been punished, but that is just me.

i do see your side about though, that she wasn't none the wiser, but i woulda been pissed at P and honestly probably would have lost alot of trust in Him, but i'm not much of one for public shows of affection, let alone public humiliation.

 

[Kailey_86]

i'm not sure 'punishing' her was the right word, but it did involve someone in your relationship, which like you said 'it had nothing to do with her'. i guess the point is, the bathroom could have waited or he could have found it for you without having to ask her where it was so that you could change those words didn't even have to be involved ..he could have just asked where the bathroom was. i'm not chastising or putting you down, i just don't agree with this kind of public involvement, nor do i agree that after a very intense scene, that you should have been punished, but that is just me.

i do see your side about though, that she wasn't none the wiser, but i woulda been pissed at P and honestly probably would have lost alot of trust in Him, but i'm not much of one for public shows of affection, let alone public humiliation.

Well, J didn't want to just ask where the bathroom was because that would take away most of the humilation that he was trying to achieve. Maybe it was wrong to involve another person. Still, if i were the cashier, i would have thought it was a bit strange but i wouldn't be bothered by it. i wouldn't think twice about it after the customer left.

i was pissed at J for a while and i didn't want to be around him but i got over it. We are both still learning about all of this. He said that he understands that it was a lot for me to handle right after a scene. We are making mistakes along the way and learning from them. Because of this whole episode, he has decided to leave the diapers out of the picture for a while. We are learning.

 

[lil_slave_rose]

Well, J didn't want to just ask where the bathroom was because that would take away most of the humilation that he was trying to achieve. Maybe it was wrong to involve another person. Still, if i were the cashier, i would have thought it was a bit strange but i wouldn't be bothered by it. i wouldn't think twice about it after the customer left.

i was pissed at J for a while and i didn't want to be around him but i got over it. We are both still learning about all of this. He said that he understands that it was a lot for me to handle right after a scene. We are making mistakes along the way and learning from them. Because of this whole episode, he has decided to leave the diapers out of the picture for a while. We are learning.

of course you are, you will always be learning . if i were the cashier i would have been embarrassed, and i don't think it's something i would have just forgotten about after the customers were gone. *shrugs* like i said i'm just really really not into involving the public in my relationship, at all. even kissing, unless its' a small peck, but i see no reason to stick my tongue down his throat right there in front of god and everyone it's none of their business, just as the fact that you were putting a diaper on, was none of that poor cashier's business and i'm sure she really didn't want to know but i'm glad that you do talk about it, and He knows how you feel about it and what happened won't be repeated....sounds like you've got it down.....

 

[Netzach]

Uh, I hate to point out that it's completley feasible that the cashier has dealt with the occasional incontinent under the age of 80.

This is a good example of NOT going out of your way to freak people out and building in some plausible deniability in a humiliation scene. It's horribly embarrassing, but it's not outside the scope of normal life.


Carry on, just sayin'.

 

[Honeybee80]

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[Netzach]

Having worked as a cashier for years in lots of different places, I've seen all kinds of things. Depending on how it went down, I can tell you that not only did she not forget about it instantly, she went and told all the other cashiers about it too.
I really think that it was inappropriate to involve her in your scene, however small a role she played. The bottom line is that you would not have been so upset or embarrassed if he had just taken you to the bathroom and told you to change. He used her to punish you.
I guess I am something of a prude as well, when it comes to involving the general public in your kink. I agree that this instance is relatively minor, because there are many younger people with bladder or bowel issues. I have a much bigger problem with people who give spankings in public or who do things intentionally to make others around them uncomfortable. This seems to happen with younger people, IMO. It seems that girls especially get involved in this and then treat it as some sort of club where they can gain a sense of belonging... then they want to show off to everyone. (not saying this is what happened here as you clearly were really upset by this)

I think the advice you recieved in the other thread was good, but I will add that because you identify as a sub and not a slave, you are well within your rights to make this kind of thing a hard limit. AND that it's prefectly normal to feel some resentment after a punishment. As a child you HATED your parents for punishing you, but you got over it and you still loved them. Punishment is not fun and isn't supposed to be. You just have to get to a place where you accept that YOU choose to give him the right to punish you.

Good luck to you. Even though you and he are covering a lot of BDSM ground, your relationship is still very new. It will just take some time to get all the little details worked out. :hugs:

I've worked retail, I've seen weirdness and I'm not scarred.

And I agree with you, in general, it's not cool to inflict your dynamic on people in really overt ways especially when kids might be around.
Brevity has something to do with my ideas of what's ok. This was skirting OK. Having one of my sissies go to Victorias secret and tell her allll about his panty fetish and ask for help with sizing - NOT ok. Although I know people who do this one and the VS girls must probably get some corporate training on CD's because almost all these guys were disappointed that she didn't care or really pleased that she was sooo happy to help and wound up with 8 pairs of bras AND panties.

I guess I'm biased having grown up in NYC. I was involved visually and verbally in all KINDS of people's bizzare whatever without really knowing what was involved and what the motives were and it's made me the person I am, I'm sure.

 

[Honeybee80]

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[CutieMouse]

*****

 

[Kailey_86]

If one can pull off something that is a gray area of plausable deniability sort of thing, I'm less bothered by "involving the public" (although it still tweaks me)... but IMO it takes a certain degree of poise and finesse to pull it off in such a manner as to fulfill the humiliation/whatever aspect of things for the kinky people involved, without imposing on the non-kinky people being exposed to said event.

i agree. i saw the cashier's face on the way out. She didn't seem to be bothered by what happened. It was a mix of confusion and sympathy. i don't think there was too much damage done.

 

[lil_slave_rose]

i agree. i saw the cashier's face on the way out. She didn't seem to be bothered by what happened. It was a mix of confusion and sympathy. i don't think there was too much damage done.

having a Master who works in retail, i can pretty much assure you that she has told everyone about this, and that she was probably atleast a little uncomfortable with the situation, whether she showed it or not. *shrugs* again i'll say different strokes for different folks, but if it happened to me, i would be very very uncomfortable with it and would probably call up my friends, Master whoever and say you are never going to believe what a 'guest' did today....

 

[Kailey_86]

Another couple of firsts...

Watersports. Yuck, yuck, yuck! i wasn't expecting it when it happened. It was an interesting experience though. It wasn't as bad as i expected it to be. i would be perfectly happy not ever experiencing it again but i know J wants to do it again. i think it helps to not think about what it is that i am drinking. Bleck!