So many firsts...

Chicklet said:
kailey, congrats.

needle play and cutting are hard limits for me - i get squeamish about any sort of skin penetration.

You never know. I always said the same thing, but all it took was K talking to me about cutting twice and I was like 'ok, we can try it' . . .

I'm so weak. :eek: Now I just don't say I won't ever do anything (well almost anything) cause I know if he wanted to there's a REALLY good chance I'm gonna do it anyway.

Hell, I always said I'd never have sex outside marriage. Look how long that lasted upon meeting K. :rolleyes:
 
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Needle play is wonderful. As long as everyone takes the necessary precautions (gloves, sharps container, making sure no one has evil diseases) it is most enjoyable. Unless you have a massive needle phobia, but heck I got my former submissive over that once the first needle went in (big grin). You can make such pretty designs.

There is a wonderful Sir, Sir Top, and she's a nurse. She does demonstrations at different conventions. At SPICE last month, we did some "wings" on my former submissive and She was mentioning how cool it would be to attach feathers to the non-sharp end of the needle, to make it look like it really was wings.

Anyway, imagination is always a good thing. :)
 
malcah_ms said:
She was mentioning how cool it would be to attach feathers to the non-sharp end of the needle, to make it look like it really was wings.

Anyway, imagination is always a good thing. :)

Ah, my daughter is working on doing this to make a plume for a photo shoot...my biggest concern is the drag from the weight of the feathers, but she says she is going to make sure it doesn't rip so I trust her good sense.

Catalina :catroar:
 
Way cool! If you get pictures, would love to see how it turned out. I would think the feathers would not be toooo horrible. But then again, if she likes pain, what's not to like about a lil extra drag :) :cool:
 
More firsts this weekend!!! Not as many but still great.

Asphyxiation..sorta, kinda. i wasn't expecting it at all. He placed His hand gently on my neck and then slowly starting squeezing tighter and tigher. It didn't get to the point where i couldn't breath at all but close. Just His hand on my neck alone was driving me crazy...then He squeezed. *shudders* i didn't think something like this could turn me on so much.

Exhibitionism. W/we were in the car and He had me drop my pants and panties. Nothing too big but it made me very nervous nonetheless. i trusted Him though and everything was fine. i got into trouble for pulling my pants back up without permission though. Lesson learned. i learn far too many lessons the hard way. *shaking head*
 
Being in my relationship with Sir has given me a few first. At one time I expressed my desire to try anal play and so one day we got a few plugs. I have used the smaller on off and on, but it was this week that I go the larger one in all the way. Now just got to train myself to keep it in longer.
 
leeroy jenkins said:
Being in my relationship with Sir has given me a few first. At one time I expressed my desire to try anal play and so one day we got a few plugs. I have used the smaller on off and on, but it was this week that I go the larger one in all the way. Now just got to train myself to keep it in longer.
Good luck!
 
Another fabulous weekend with J. i miss Him already. More firsts!!

-i HAVE BEEN GIVEN A NAME! :heart: ella...isn't it beautiful? i am offically owned. i am His beloved pet. *happy sigh*
-Fisting. This didn't go so well. W/we aren't giving up though.
-Having a belt used on me. He was testing it out. Yup...nice and sturdy Sir.
-Ben wah balls. He was torturing me with these. He kept tickling me to make them move.
-Anal beads.
-Diapers. :eek: i am embarassed to mention this one but leaving it out would be lying by omission.
-Causing pain to someone else...to my Dom. i didn't like doing this at first but i couldn't stop laughing when i saw His facial expressions. i must have a streak of evil in me. :devil:
-Using a hot tub in the dead of winter. There was 4 feet of snow surrounding the tub. Having snow put on your nipples and then being dunked in hot water is a crazy feeling.

Soooo...alcohol + a hot tub + 2 dirty minds =
A snowman with a penis and balls and a snow woman pleasuring herself. i have pictures but i can't figure out how to add them in here. Can someone help?
 
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Kailey_86 said:
-Using a hot tub in the dead of winter. There was 4 feet of snow surrounding the tub. Having snow put on your nipples and then being dunked in hot water creates a crazy feeling.

omg, I'm jealous! I LOVE hot tubs in the snow.
 
Damn I feel so inadequate. You have covered more territory in a month than I have in over 2 decades of being sexually active.
 
callinectes said:
Damn I feel so inadequate. You have covered more territory in a month than I have in over 2 decades of being sexually active.
Well...J and i are eager to get our feet wet i guess. We trust each other enough to do these things. There is something VERY different about Our relationship compared to any other relationship i've ever had. Is it love? i don't know yet but it's something.
 
Kailey_86 said:
Well...J and i are eager to get our feet wet i guess. We trust each other enough to do these things. There is something VERY different about Our relationship compared to any other relationship i've ever had. Is it love? i don't know yet but it's something.
something is good.... something is really good
 
Kailey_86 said:
Well...J and i are eager to get our feet wet i guess. We trust each other enough to do these things. There is something VERY different about Our relationship compared to any other relationship i've ever had. Is it love? i don't know yet but it's something.

that's great kailey, but do be careful and remember to take it slow you dont' have to try out EVERYTHING right now...how long have you two been 'together'? not that long, right? i am not trying to put you down or discourage you but i do feel that maybe you jump into things entirely too fast. but it does sound like J knows what He's doing and that you do too, just reiterating to be careful *smiles*alcohol+anything BDSM=bad in my opinion so be careful there too. is He new to all of this also?? just curious because one of your comments was something about both of you wanting to get your feet wet.

i am happy that you've found someone to explore with and it sounds like it's going great! isn't being 'named' awesome? Master 'named' me also. i started out 'dream' and became 'rose' after He decided 'dream' just wasn't what fit me *grins* and now it's strange sometimes to hear someone call me 'April' because i'm SO used to rose....anyway..awesome on the new stuff you've experienced and good luck for it to continue! oh and attaching pictures is easy...when are in the 'post' box, scroll down and you'll see a button that says Manage attachments, click on it..and then follow the prompt.
 
lil_slave_rose said:
that's great kailey, but do be careful and remember to take it slow you dont' have to try out EVERYTHING right now...how long have you two been 'together'? not that long, right? i am not trying to put you down or discourage you but i do feel that maybe you jump into things entirely too fast. but it does sound like J knows what He's doing and that you do too, just reiterating to be careful *smiles*alcohol+anything BDSM=bad in my opinion so be careful there too. is He new to all of this also?? just curious because one of your comments was something about both of you wanting to get your feet wet.

i am happy that you've found someone to explore with and it sounds like it's going great! isn't being 'named' awesome? Master 'named' me also. i started out 'dream' and became 'rose' after He decided 'dream' just wasn't what fit me *grins* and now it's strange sometimes to hear someone call me 'April' because i'm SO used to rose....anyway..awesome on the new stuff you've experienced and good luck for it to continue! oh and attaching pictures is easy...when are in the 'post' box, scroll down and you'll see a button that says Manage attachments, click on it..and then follow the prompt.

We haven't known each other for that long, that's true but there is something very different about Our relationship. He does know what He is doing. Before We try anything We both research it and then talk about it. We never mix alcohol and BDSM together. We were just hanging out in the hot tub that night. We are being careful though. Thanks. It feels GREAT to have a name. It's such a beautiful name too. :D
 
Kailey_86 said:
Well...J and i are eager to get our feet wet i guess. We trust each other enough to do these things. There is something VERY different about Our relationship compared to any other relationship i've ever had. Is it love? i don't know yet but it's something.

This is good kailey, but then every relationship we have is different simply because it involves a different mix of people each time, and in a different phase of our life, and unfortunately or not, we nearly always think the current one is the one most different and perhaps right for us because at that point in time it is. As rose and I have both said though, you still seem to me to be rushing through a list of things you can say you have tried more so than actually experiencing them. Sort of like comparing the experience of someone who has a short stopover in Rome for the night on their way to somewhere else, and someone who takes an extended period of time there and takes the time to meet and get to know the people, eat the food, cook it, understand some of the culture, learn more than a few words of the language, and actually live withojn that culture as opposed to passing through and taking a snapshot...both might enjoy the experience, but the one who lives there for a time has a better idea of what it is really like as opposed to the one who sees it in the blink of an eyelid before moving onto the next new and exciting place.

After all, you are still 20, so you have a short history of adult relationships to compare this too, and each one teaches (hopefully it does anyway) you something more about yourself and what you need/want long term, and each one at this point is going to have it's moments of excitement and newness. Take some time to smell the roses along the way and really feel that which you are doing, not just go through the motions and actions required. You can become very jaded very quick if you rush things.:rose:

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catalina_francisco said:
This is good kailey, but then every relationship we have is different simply because it involves a different mix of people each time, and in a different phase of our life, and unfortunately or not, we nearly always think the current one is the one most different and perhaps right for us because at that point in time it is. As rose and I have both said though, you still seem to me to be rushing through a list of things you can say you have tried more so than actually experiencing them. Sort of like comparing the experience of someone who has a short stopover in Rome for the night on their way to somewhere else, and someone who takes an extended period of time there and takes the time to meet and get to know the people, eat the food, cook it, understand some of the culture, learn more than a few words of the language, and actually live withojn that culture as opposed to passing through and taking a snapshot...both might enjoy the experience, but the one who lives there for a time has a better idea of what it is really like as opposed to the one who sees it in the blink of an eyelid before moving onto the next new and exciting place.

After all, you are still 20, so you have a short history of adult relationships to compare this too, and each one teaches (hopefully it does anyway) you something more about yourself and what you need/want long term, and each one at this point is going to have it's moments of excitement and newness. Take some time to smell the roses along the way and really feel that which you are doing, not just go through the motions and actions required. You can become very jaded very quick if you rush things.:rose:

Catalina http://members.home.nl/animation.world/index/dolzz/Dolzz05.gif

very well said cat, and is what i was saying as well. not that the times Master and i had together that we didn't try alot of new things, but we also didn't jump into the things we really really want to try simply just to say 'we've tried them' like cutting, mock rape scene, etc...we are taking it slowly and defiantly enjoying the journey instead of trying everything all at once and the being left to say 'ok, what now??' or not reading up on something and just doing it only to have a problem arise because we weren't prepared for what happened because we didn't explore we just jumped. i hope that i'm making sense LOL....just early morning ramble really *smiles*
 
Kailey_86 said:
More firsts this weekend!!! Not as many but still great.

Asphyxiation..sorta, kinda. i wasn't expecting it at all. He placed His hand gently on my neck and then slowly starting squeezing tighter and tigher. It didn't get to the point where i couldn't breath at all but close. Just His hand on my neck alone was driving me crazy...then He squeezed. *shudders* i didn't think something like this could turn me on so much.

Exhibitionism. W/we were in the car and He had me drop my pants and panties. Nothing too big but it made me very nervous nonetheless. i trusted Him though and everything was fine. i got into trouble for pulling my pants back up without permission though. Lesson learned. i learn far too many lessons the hard way. *shaking head*


I remember my first experence with asphyxiation. *grin*

Was actually a kilt payment. One of my friends was trading his domly expertice for my sewing skills. The deal was 5 2hour session where he pretty much did what he liked to me, and I'd make him a kilt. Durring, I think the second session it was, I'm standing there infront of him naked as a jay bird as he's looking off in another conor decided what to do with me. Suddenly he reaches up with one hand and wraps it tightly around my neck, still looking off in the other direction and says "humm how should we start". I could feel myself getting excited by the fact that he held my life in his hand at that moment (I could not gasp any air at all), and when he released me I nearly orgasmed on the spot.

Ofcourse he realized this and then grabed me again, looked me in the eye and whispered "this time you will cum when I let go".....*purr* :cathappy:
 
the captians wench said:
I remember my first experence with asphyxiation. *grin*

Was actually a kilt payment. One of my friends was trading his domly expertice for my sewing skills. The deal was 5 2hour session where he pretty much did what he liked to me, and I'd make him a kilt. Durring, I think the second session it was, I'm standing there infront of him naked as a jay bird as he's looking off in another conor decided what to do with me. Suddenly he reaches up with one hand and wraps it tightly around my neck, still looking off in the other direction and says "humm how should we start". I could feel myself getting excited by the fact that he held my life in his hand at that moment (I could not gasp any air at all), and when he released me I nearly orgasmed on the spot.

Ofcourse he realized this and then grabed me again, looked me in the eye and whispered "this time you will cum when I let go".....*purr* :cathappy:
Wow....that turned me on just reading it. J seems to really like asphyxiation so i'm lucky because i love it. He has tried it in all sorts of forms. This past weekend He held me under water for a while. Of course He made sure that i knew what to do if i needed to come up. This wasn't when We were drinking alcohol either so no worries there.
 
catalina_francisco said:
This is good kailey, but then every relationship we have is different simply because it involves a different mix of people each time, and in a different phase of our life, and unfortunately or not, we nearly always think the current one is the one most different and perhaps right for us because at that point in time it is. As rose and I have both said though, you still seem to me to be rushing through a list of things you can say you have tried more so than actually experiencing them. Sort of like comparing the experience of someone who has a short stopover in Rome for the night on their way to somewhere else, and someone who takes an extended period of time there and takes the time to meet and get to know the people, eat the food, cook it, understand some of the culture, learn more than a few words of the language, and actually live withojn that culture as opposed to passing through and taking a snapshot...both might enjoy the experience, but the one who lives there for a time has a better idea of what it is really like as opposed to the one who sees it in the blink of an eyelid before moving onto the next new and exciting place.

After all, you are still 20, so you have a short history of adult relationships to compare this too, and each one teaches (hopefully it does anyway) you something more about yourself and what you need/want long term, and each one at this point is going to have it's moments of excitement and newness. Take some time to smell the roses along the way and really feel that which you are doing, not just go through the motions and actions required. You can become very jaded very quick if you rush things.:rose:

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i understand what you're saying but we don't feel like we are going too fast. Your comparison to traveling makes sense. i would say that we are traveling to lots of places to see which place we like best. Then we go back to our favorite places to stay for an extended amount of time. Just because i say we are trying all these new things it doesn't mean that we do them once and then it's forgotten. We have done several of these activities several times. i only talked about the first time that we did them because it was new and exciting.


Edited to add: What is too fast for you might be just right for us. It's different for everyone.
 
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More firsts for me this weekend as well.

i was bound and spanked until i cried. We wanted to see how much i could take. i am sitting on a mottled black and blue bottom right now. At the beginning i honestly didn't think i could be spanked to the point of crying but i guess i was wrong. He used the cane on me a couple of times as well. It hurt like hell but it was definately an enjoyable experience.

i was also publicly humiliated which i didn't enjoy at all and rightly so. He used this as a punishment and it was completely unexpected. We went to the store and bought diapers and then he asked the cashier where there was a bathroom so that i could change. i was SO angry, shocked, and humiliated that i almost started crying right there on the spot. i changed and then had to walk passed all those cashiers again. J new how much this bothered me. i really deserved it though. i ended up breaking down in tears when we got home. It was a huge mental blow. This was within an hour of having that beating too so i was already feeling a bit overwhelmed. This was not a fun experience and not something i want to experience again.

On a lighter note, i learned another lesson. Do not use your Dom's nipple as a doorbell. His penis will come out and play when he wants to, not when i want him to. This was all in jest. We had a good laugh over it.
 
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Kailey_86 said:
i understand what you're saying but we don't feel like we are going too fast. Your comparison to traveling makes sense. i would say that we are traveling to lots of places to see which place we like best. Then we go back to our favorite places to stay for an extended amount of time. Just because i say we are trying all these new things it doesn't mean that we do them once and then it's forgotten. We have done several of these activities several times. i only talked about the first time that we did them because it was new and exciting.


Edited to add: What is too fast for you might be just right for us. It's different for everyone.

Cool....and no, I could race through activities just as fast, but fortunately for me he is into creating and savouring the experience and layering it with slowly built anticipation as opposed to sampling it and feeling I know what it is like then. For most activities, I have to earn them, so it takes time. I have found that over the almost 5 years together, there are many things we do which can feel completely different to previous times we have done them...must be something to do with moods, body at the time, and to an extent also weight....I have found that has been something which can make a huge difference in painplay activities.

Catalina :catroar:
 
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