So I'm in the shoe dept at walmart....

[the captians wench]

Yesterday to kinda get me out of my funk mom and I went shopping. At one point we ended up at Walmart. She was checking out some dvds and I wondered off on my own to the shoe dept. I start to head back to her when some one stopped me and asked about my collar. We got to talking just a bit and it sounds like he might be able to introduce me to some of the local life closer to where I live, rather than me having to drive half hour to an hour to some night club.

So I gave him one of my business cards (for the costumes) and didn't really think too much of it again. Until I got a phone call today. again was a short chat as I'm extreamly shy on the phone, but just sort of a I remember you kinda thing.

Of course I want to talk to J about the whole thing before I talk to this guy too much, and I realize that I'm probably a bit volenerable right now with how I've been a bit down. Still i can't help but think about how nice it would be to get out and mingle again.

But a couple of things do bother me already. One, while we were at wally world, he kind of stayed hidden a bit, like he didn't want to be seen. The second is that he mentioned that he was there with some one (he didn't say friends or anything he said some one). And when he called it sounded like he must be at work or something like that because another phone rang and he quickly said we'd talk more later. These are kind of sending up some warning flags for me, but I also kind of feel like maybe I'm just being paranoid. i'm very paranoid about meeting some one and finding out they are attached. I found a play partner once who was married and had lied to me about it. I'm just not the kind of girl that can be the other woman.

Course for all I know J will nip this in the bud anyway.

 

[graceanne]

Hm. I can see why this'd send up warning signals to you. But I can also see why you might think you're being paranoid. He might just still be firmly in the closet and doesn't want anyone to find out. The 'someone' he was with coudl have been a parent or sibling or work-mate. Or, on the negative side of things, a wife.

I'd say use the same caution on this as you would if you were meeting a date online. As for the phone number of two or three of the othe rpeople at this munch. Make sure it's going to be in a public place. Give your mother (or J) the phone number of him, along with his address and a picture. Arrange a safe call, etc.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Hmmmm, personally if I were you I would give it all a miss, but that is just me. Before we got together in RL, F gave me permission to keep playing with those I trusted, and he was also free to play with subs until we could meet, but we both found we just didn't want to once we realised what we had was something special. I know it is just our way, but it did strangely enough make it that much more special when we finally got to meet and play together, and there was no need to worry about others getting in between us either intentionally or just unexpectedly. There can be a lot of fun in waiting and anticipating. Does sound to me though like this guy was doing a line on you...he asked about your collar and then gets around to how he might be able to introduce you to people closer than you have at the moment? Sounds like he had a purpose in mind before he even spoke to you, so perhaps not the most innocent of meetings. Be careful.

Catalina

 

[the captians wench]

Hmmmm, personally if I were you I would give it all a miss, but that is just me. Before we got together in RL, F gave me permission to keep playing with those I trusted, and he was also free to play with subs until we could meet, but we both found we just didn't want to once we realised what we had was something special. I know it is just our way, but it did strangely enough make it that much more special when we finally got to meet and play together, and there was no need to worry about others getting in between us either intentionally or just unexpectedly. There can be a lot of fun in waiting and anticipating. Does sound to me though like this guy was doing a line on you...he asked about your collar and then gets around to how he might be able to introduce you to people closer than you have at the moment? Sounds like he had a purpose in mind before he even spoke to you, so perhaps not the most innocent of meetings. Be careful.

Catalina

I should say that he didn't mention that it would be closer, he just mentioned a group here locally and I recognized that it would be closer to me than where I usually go.

I'm not really interested in new play partners. But i do like to socialize, which is the only reason why i even entertained the idea. And I get the impression from what little we have spoken that he is deffinitly interested in something particular.

Like I said, I really need to talk to J about all this before I talk to this guy too much and I really have a feeling he'll put an end to it anyway. But he's surprized me before.

 

[the captians wench]

Hm. I can see why this'd send up warning signals to you. But I can also see why you might think you're being paranoid. He might just still be firmly in the closet and doesn't want anyone to find out. The 'someone' he was with coudl have been a parent or sibling or work-mate. Or, on the negative side of things, a wife.

I'd say use the same caution on this as you would if you were meeting a date online. As for the phone number of two or three of the othe rpeople at this munch. Make sure it's going to be in a public place. Give your mother (or J) the phone number of him, along with his address and a picture. Arrange a safe call, etc.

I'm not even sure I really want to meet with this person anyway. I think I've been more wrapped up in the "hey somebody noticed me" thing. It's nice to be noticed.

 

[graceanne]

I'm not even sure I really want to meet with this person anyway. I think I've been more wrapped up in the "hey somebody noticed me" thing. It's nice to be noticed.

I hear that. *hugs*

 

[Evil_Geoff]

*gives wenchie one of those "Hey, I noticed you" kinda grins and waggles his eyebrows*

Meet me in the Lonely old doms club For a spanking after I get done with gracie's. *weg*

 

[Inconsequential]

Yesterday to kinda get me out of my funk mom and I went shopping. At one point we ended up at Walmart. She was checking out some dvds and I wondered off on my own to the shoe dept. I start to head back to her when some one stopped me and asked about my collar. We got to talking just a bit and it sounds like he might be able to introduce me to some of the local life closer to where I live, rather than me having to drive half hour to an hour to some night club.

So I gave him one of my business cards (for the costumes) and didn't really think too much of it again. Until I got a phone call today. again was a short chat as I'm extreamly shy on the phone, but just sort of a I remember you kinda thing.

Of course I want to talk to J about the whole thing before I talk to this guy too much, and I realize that I'm probably a bit volenerable right now with how I've been a bit down. Still i can't help but think about how nice it would be to get out and mingle again.

But a couple of things do bother me already. One, while we were at wally world, he kind of stayed hidden a bit, like he didn't want to be seen. The second is that he mentioned that he was there with some one (he didn't say friends or anything he said some one). And when he called it sounded like he must be at work or something like that because another phone rang and he quickly said we'd talk more later. These are kind of sending up some warning flags for me, but I also kind of feel like maybe I'm just being paranoid. i'm very paranoid about meeting some one and finding out they are attached. I found a play partner once who was married and had lied to me about it. I'm just not the kind of girl that can be the other woman.

Course for all I know J will nip this in the bud anyway.

I think it would send up warning flags for me too, but at the same time you should at least try the opportunity at least once. If it seems like you go somewhere way too out of the way, or he seems really closed off in that place too then I would reconsider and the hour drive might not be that bad.
But give it a chance once, it can only show you what you don't want if nothing else.

 

[A Desert Rose]

Your whole post flashes a red neon STOP sign to me. If I were in your shoes, (pardon the pun on your thread title) I would get the time and location of the "local life" he's talking about and then keep/get him out of the picture.

Attention and being noticed is nice. Socializing is fun. You don't have to miss out on all of that. If he has a line on a real "local life" scene in your area, it can be easy enough for you to attend alone and find out for yourself. But if it were me, I'd not include him in my plans. At least, not at this point.

What did your gut originally tell you? he kind of stayed hidden a bit, like he didn't want to be seen.

I agree with catalina. Be careful, be safe and you can still find your own fun.