So, I'm doing this blowjob thing...

[FallingToFly]

And I can't remember what it was like the first time I actually -did- decide I wanted to go down on a guy. (Odd, I remember the girls just fine.) I do know that it's a one in a hundred shot that a first-timer would dive right into giving a deep-throat, tricked out blowjob that would have the guy's eyes rolling back in his head and him cumming like a fire hose- but I can imagine that she (my girl in the story) wouldn't completely blow it either (and to hell with the pun there).

So... any suggestion on how to ease a first timer into giving decent, not spectacular head? The way it's currently set up, she started by just exploring with her fingertips, and when that was wel recieved, stroking him a little firmer, and then decided that if he liked that, maybe he'd like it if she licked the head of his cock like an ice-cream cone while she was petting him.

Very eager to please girl- even if she is a complete n00b.

 

[snooper]

... So... any suggestion on how to ease a first timer into giving decent, not spectacular head? ...

Rest your hands lightly on her shoulders and press a little when necessary, meanwhile saying how wonderful she is and how wonderful it is.

 

[FallingToFly]

*odd look*

Sorry.. I just had a mental image of myself trying to show my FC how to give a blowjob on myself... *glances down* Oh that so would not work without rummaging through my toy box.

 

[3113]

So... any suggestion on how to ease a first timer into giving decent, not spectacular head?

Any chance that she's been practicing in secret? By that I mean, she's a first timer, but she'd imagined giving head to a guy, read the erotica on how to do it, and while in her room has licked and sucked on all matter of things while fantasizing about it. Like bananas, popsicles, sticks of candy, even soda bottles? If she's fantasized about it and "practiced" it with other items, then she can use that. Suck it like a popsicle, take it into her throat as she did the banana, etc.

It will still (realistically) be different from what she envisioned--because of texture, shape, size and taste of the guy--but she can still give him a darn good--if not expert time of it. She'll also do better if the guy isn't huge. The more modest he is in size, especially if he's slender rather than thick, the better time she'll have of managing it.

Whatever elese, keep in mind that sucking is one of those natural, human responses that we're born with. We can all suck

Does that help?

 

[Guest]

Considering how prevalent they reportedly are among teens these days (over 18 of course), maybe she's seen one given in a stairwell at school or something, so has visual cues better than a porn film might give her.

 

[Guest]

 

[Selena_Kitt]

just use your/her senses... what does it smell like, taste like, feel like, look like? All for the first time...

a little acrid... that slight smell/taste of urine until the saliva washes it all away... the spongy, soft head... I'm always amazed how velvety soft it is... if she's eager to please, like I was <grin>, she'll be encouraged by the sounds and movements he makes... she might notice him groan a little louder when she runs her tongue around the head, or when she gets it as far back into her mouth as she can. You might have her choke a few times (I know I did!) before wrapping her hand around the base and realizing that she can keep herself from drowning in cock that way <grin>... more control... and he seemed to like that combination hand/mouth thing... and then there's the swallow/spit question... *gulp* I was so surprised when he came that I felt like I couldn't do anything BUT swallow... what else was I going to do with it??

 

[impressive]

Suck it like a popsicle, take it into her throat as she did the banana, etc.

Gotta watch those bananas. They break. My life nearly ended at 14.

 

[FallingToFly]

how about if she shows her innocence by asking him what she should do next? he tells her....and she's eager to do it.

He's arguing with me (doesn't anyone else have this problem- sassy characters that argue with you?) because he's too shy to tell her what he really wants, so left her to fumble through it on her own.

3113- She's been exposed, marginally, to references to sex in general, and snuck a peek at a few of the raunchier porn mags that the MC has.. but she's still clueless. "Babe in the woods" doesn't even begin to summarize how completely clueless the chick is... if it wasn't necessary to have her this naive for the storyline, she'd be much more experienced. I firmly believe in practice makes perfect.. if only she knew she even wanted to practice.

 

[S-Des]

A young woman I lived with used to do something that to this day is my favorite. I have tried putting it in a couple of my stories (although I don't know how successfully I described it). She put her hand against my stomach, behind my erection and held it, kissing the shaft with her lips slightly apart. Then she turned her head sideways and dragged her mouth up and down the shaft, darting her tongue between her lips. Finally she would open her mouth a little more and suck lightly, still moving up and down the shaft, occasionally nibbling with her teeth.

It had a wonderful mixture of eroticism and innocence (I think it was her way of avoiding me trying to get her to try to deep throat me). Anyone could do it and to me, it felt like she was expressing something emotionally (sort of like intense making out). She could make me cum faster that way than anything else she did.

 

[FallingToFly]

A young woman I lived with used to do something that to this day is my favorite. I have tried putting it in a couple of my stories (although I don't know how successfully I described it). She put her hand against my stomach, behind my erection and held it, kissing the shaft with her lips slightly apart. Then she turned her head sideways and dragged her mouth up and down the shaft, darting her tongue between her lips. Finally she would open her mouth a little more and suck lightly, still moving up and down the shaft, occasionally nibbling with her teeth.

It had a wonderful mixture of eroticism and innocence (I think it was her way of avoiding me trying to get her to try to deep throat me). Anyone could do it and to me, it felt like she was expressing something emotionally (sort of like intense making out). She could make me cum faster that way than anything else she did.

Oh, I like this... hehhehe.. I'm beginning to think maybe we should just have threads titled: "To write a BJ" or "To write Anal" and have all the authors leave tips and tricks and ideas on them. Research threads or something? eh, probably wouldn't work... but damn, you guys are more creative than I am, I think... I normally just write them as I tend to give them.

 

[3113]

3113- She's been exposed, marginally, to references to sex in general, and snuck a peek at a few of the raunchier porn mags that the MC has.. but she's still clueless. "Babe in the woods" doesn't even begin to summarize how completely clueless the chick is... if it wasn't necessary to have her this naive for the storyline, she'd be much more experienced. I firmly believe in practice makes perfect.. if only she knew she even wanted to practice.

Take a read of this story: Justin's Jock, it's a gay guy's first time and one of the best first time blow jobs I've read (all the gritty sloppy, details)--though I'm guessing it's a bit raunchier and rawer than the delicate, shy relationship you're creating here. I mean, a shy guy and a naive girl? I imagine she's treat the penis like a wild creature she's petting and kissing and trying to domesticate rather than something she's going to swallow.

 

[3113]

Gotta watch those bananas. They break. My life nearly ended at 14.

LOL! What a way to go. You're right, of course. Much safer with a cucumber.

 

[Aurora Black]

He's arguing with me (doesn't anyone else have this problem- sassy characters that argue with you?)

Nope. All my characters are my bitches and they know it. *wobbly smile*

 

[Lauren Hynde]

...she licked the head of his cock like an ice-cream cone...

Whatever you end up doing, for all that is sacred, just don't write anything that clichéd in the actual story, please.

 

[3113]

Whatever you end up doing, for all that is sacred, just don't write anything that clichéd in the actual story, please.

I always wondered about that description. It immediatley made me think that the cock was feeling very cold and melting--and somehow it didn't sound like fun for the guy for that reason...because his cock was cold.

I guess I'm too literal that way. Ice cream is cold, so if you lick something like ice cream, you're licking something that's cold.

Then again, I don't think I'd feel the same way about a description invovling a popcicle...not sure why.

 

[FallingToFly]

Whatever you end up doing, for all that is sacred, just don't write anything that clichéd in the actual story, please.

I didn't, lol, it was just the mental image I had while trying to write that first contact.

I try to avoid cliches where I can.

 

[FallingToFly]

Nope. All my characters are my bitches and they know it. *wobbly smile*

*hugs*

 

[Guest]

 

[3113]

And have them make eye contact while she's doing that. He see's her, with the head of his cock partially in her mouth, pre-cum on her lips, and then she reaches down to start rubbing her clit.

I"m sure that would work for you, but I wouldn't believe it. Not if she's a "babe in the woods." The fact that she's taking it in her mouth at all is a stretch of fantasy for a first-timer, babe-in-the-woods.

The primary response of a girl who is that naive isn't to wrap her lips around and lick at the tip--and certainly not to gaze up loving at the guy with precum on her lips. In your dreams, baby. A babe-in-the-woods is wide-eyed and saying, "You want me to put what in my mouth? Are you kidding? You urinate through that thing and it spits out cum.... Put it in my mouth? Who thought of that?"

She's going to be shy and hesitant and scared and uncertain. She's not going to look up, that's for sure, not if she's that nervous.

And if she does do it, the rubbing of the clit ain't gonna happen. In her mind she's going to be thinking, "This thing is awful big and weird and slippery and it tastes strange and smells strange and I've got a pubic hair up my nose!"

The last thing on her mind is how erotic this is and how she wants to masterbate.
Or were you speaking from experience of the first time you gave a guy a blowjob?

That's "REAL"--with certain exceptions, of course, but usually those exceptions have done the research and practiced/fantasized about it. That's not the decription of this girl. So the best you're gonna get...in your dreams...is probably what S-Des descripes...hesitant licks and shy sucking as she gets used to it, decides if she likes it, decides if he likes it, etc.

 

[Guest]

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

Falling... I wrote my own personal "First time BJ" in a story here on lit, called Car Ride Caress. You're more than welcome to read it and it could help give you some ideas.

 

[FallingToFly]

Oh wow... I have more ideas than one woman probably should about giving head now... you guys are incredibly cool. I owe you, big time.

 

[Guest]

 

[impressive]

This woman reads my mind:

http://prettydumbthings.typepad.com/chelseagirl/2006/06/what_it_feels_l.html