So.........i'm bi-curious

[kiten69]

Yes i am finally admiting it...

So here is my question...i can pick up a guy with no problem...but how in the world do you go about picking up a woman...hmmm...i would love to have the experience of being with another woman but not sure how to approach the topic...any suggestions?

 

[rgraham666]

Can't help you.

My pick up techniques are so poor I count myself lucky if I end the attempt with the same number of teeth I started with.

 

[TriggerHippie]

Yes i am finally admiting it...

So here is my question...i can pick up a guy with no problem...but how in the world do you go about picking up a woman...hmmm...i would love to have the experience of being with another woman but not sure how to approach the topic...any suggestions?

Perhaps you could go to a Lesbian bar with a lesbian friend/relative. My gay cousin delights in taking me out with her when she has the chance; she runs interference (cos I'm all about men) and I get to dance my little heart out without trying to impress anyone. It's fun, all women primarily, and you'll likely get hit on, but you still can say, "I'm with her," if you get uncomfortable. To me, being straight, it's like those junior high dances when none of the boys would dance so all the girls danced together. Not really sexual so much, but fun; all in all, not a bad thing at all.

Much luck!

 

[Roxanne Appleby]

There have been threads on the LBGT chatter started by women in your position asking exactly that question. It's not a hugely active forum, so hopefully you can find these without much difficulty. I think there have been some useful suggestions there.

 

[kiten69]

Perhaps you could go to a Lesbian bar with a lesbian friend/relative.

if i had a lesbian friend/relative that is a very good idea...but alas the only lesbian friends i have are members of Lit and none live near me...darnit all

 

[Jenny_Jackson]

Short of hanging a sign around your neck advertising the fact, there are a lot of ways it can be done. There are many more women in your position than you know. Just get yourself to a place where women gather and chat. Someone will gently hit on you. Always works for me.

 

[privyjo]

if i had a lesbian friend/relative that is a very good idea...but alas the only lesbian friends i have are members of Lit and none live near me...darnit all

do you have a male gay friend? take him with you - lots of gay/lesbian bars are mixed - male and female - maybe more one way or the other but usually coed to some degree ...

just my 2 cents

 

[kiten69]

Short of hanging a sign around your neck advertising the fact, there are a lot of ways it can be done. There are many more women in your position than you know. Just get yourself to a place where women gather and chat. Someone will gently hit on you. Always works for me.

Thanx Jenny...

 

[impressive]

Buy this book: Ultimate Lesbian Erotica, 2006

Carry it with you -- openly -- wherever you go. Sit in a restaurant reading it.

Wait for the magic.

 

[kiten69]

do you have a male gay friend? take him with you - lots of gay/lesbian bars are mixed - male and female - maybe more one way or the other but usually coed to some degree ...

just my 2 cents

nope that is my problem, outside of Lit i know of no one who is gay/bi...and where i live at i am not sure where the closest gay/lesbian bar is, but if i find one i may try to rope my BestFriend into going with me...she is a bit of a free spirit...and quite pretty to boot

 

[kiten69]

Buy this book: Ultimate Lesbian Erotica, 2006

Carry it with you -- openly -- wherever you go. Sit in a restaurant reading it.

Wait for the magic.

LOL...what an idea imp, TY!

 

[privyjo]

nope that is my problem, outside of Lit i know of no one who is gay/bi...and where i live at i am not sure where the closest gay/lesbian bar is, but if i find one i may try to rope my BestFriend into going with me...she is a bit of a free spirit...and quite pretty to boot

ah - well - that was my next suggestion - take an open-minded female friend - google gay/lesbian bars in your area - that's what i do when i travel about - depending on how rural you are may mean a drive but it will be worth it! good luck!

 

[kiten69]

ah - well - that was my next suggestion - take an open-minded female friend - google gay/lesbian bars in your area - that's what i do when i travel about - depending on how rural you are may mean a drive but it will be worth it! good luck!

i'm only about 30 mins from the city...i am sure there must be at least one that is not too far away...

 

[privyjo]

i'm only about 30 mins from the city...i am sure there must be at least one that is not too far away...

so heaven is close by

 

[S-Des]

You should set something up with the right woman, then invite me! I'll bring the candles, music, massage oils, and beverages. I'll even be content to let you explore your fantasies while I wait on you and your partner, hand and foot. Then I'll offer to step in if either of you needs a break (or anything a bit harder ).

Aren't I thoughtful?

 

[Ravlicious]

You should set something up with the right woman, then invite me! I'll bring the candles, music, massage oils, and beverages. I'll even be content to let you explore your fantasies while I wait on you and your partner, hand and foot. Then I'll offer to step in if either of you needs a break (or anything a bit harder ).

Aren't I thoughtful?

Hehe. Pretty much every man's fantasy, eh? Good luck with that ever happening.

 

[Guest]

 

[angelicminx]

I'm feelin' your pain, Kiten. I haven't got a clue, but the SO and I are members of swinglifestyle.com... there are LOTS of bi and bi curious women on there.

 

[rgraham666]

Hey minx. Nice to see you back.

 

[vanelane]

I'm feelin' your pain, Kiten. I haven't got a clue, but the SO and I are members of swinglifestyle.com... there are LOTS of bi and bi curious women on there.

I'll second that one, and if you're interested in being with a couple you can pretty much write your own ticket. The swinger folks call single bisexual women unicorns, 'cause they're so rare...

 

[CharleyH]

Yes i am finally admiting it...

So here is my question...i can pick up a guy with no problem...but how in the world do you go about picking up a woman...hmmm...i would love to have the experience of being with another woman but not sure how to approach the topic...any suggestions?

can help in this department. PM if serious.

 

[AchtungNight]

Even though I've written about this very topic (Passion Ch.3), I don't think I can help you much with the reality of it. I know little about the reality, being a man and all. But I can and will wish you the best of luck.

 

[kiten69]

Aren't I thoughtful?

so very thoughtful indeed S

 

[kiten69]

The swinger folks call single bisexual women unicorns, 'cause they're so rare...

i'm a unicorn...

 

[Guest]

i got a bumper sticker: Nobody knows I'm a lesbian.

my daughter has it on her car now.