So..I met this guy...

[mytasteislikecandy]

So..I met this guy...

And we haven't even went out once yet. We've talked on the phone several times, and have made plans to hang out, but I haven't been able to pull them off yet. I'm always too busy or tired after work to drive to meet him. *I don't want him at my house yet, it's just safer that way* So, the other night, I told him I couldn't come over to his house when I got home cuz I was too sleepy to drive the 40 mins to get there. Honestly, tho, I just wanted to go out with all my friends from work. I ended up spending the night at my *friend's* house, and got home at like 11 am on Saturday. My new guy had called at 10:30 and I wasn't home, and my roomate told him this. So I called him back, and he was all mad because I hadn't been home when he called. He was kind of pushy, so instead of being honest I told him that I'd woke up at 10 and went to the store. He believed me, and became nice again.

Now, here's the problem...

I've known this guy one week exactly...and already he's calling me 3 times a day, and trying to check out where I am when I'm not home. I asked him if he was a control freak, and he laughed, and told me no. That he just doesn't like having plans broken.

I know I should just tell him to fuck off, but he's FINE FINE FINE...and finally a man older than me, with his own place, and a good steady job. Most of the other boys I've met lately are useless. Should I wait it out, go out with him a couple of times to see if this "controlling" part of him is always so apparent, or should I just run now? I need some objective insight, and my friends ain't helping. Maybe you guys can...

Thanks again,

MTILC

 

[honeylick]

trust your gut feelings.

 

[mytasteislikecandy]

trust your gut feelings.

Sheesh, even they're torn. Part of me, the romantic sweet side, wants this to work out. He's EVERYTHING I've been looking for....and I think I can make it work.

Then the sensible, smart side says, "RUN bitch RUN!!"

*sigh*

 

[honeylick]

i am an optimistic person, one who often lets matters of the heart cloud the brain... but, controlling is bad. real bad. especially this early in the game.

keep a safe distance, and remember your reservations. you have them for a reason.

 

[Sillyman]

He sounds like an asshole. Try again.

 

[just pet]

What happened to the not hot guy you wanted to sleep with?

Are you sure you're over 18?

 

[Sillyman]

Responsible is good. Don't get me wrong there, but this man sounds more than a little desperate, and does not seem to be the easygoing type.

 

[mytasteislikecandy]

What happened to the not hot guy you wanted to sleep with?

Are you sure you're over 18?

Girl, I'm 26...

The "not hot guy" is my friend, who has some extra benefits. I'm trying to decide if I should keep the booty call or not. This is another guy...no sex, nothing yet...but could be something. Hell, if I could mix the two together he'd be PERFECT!!

 

[pointless]

what kind of social life does the guy have? is he a loner or what? he might just have a whole of a lot of time on his hands. a lot of time to think the same thoughts over and over again.

does he have anything else going on in his life?

 

[mytasteislikecandy]

i am an optimistic person, one who often lets matters of the heart cloud the brain... but, controlling is bad. real bad. especially this early in the game.

keep a safe distance, and remember your reservations. you have them for a reason.

I think you're right....

*sigh*

Thanks Honey you're mahvelous

 

[just pet]

Girl, I'm 26...

The "not hot guy" is my friend, who has some extra benefits. I'm trying to decide if I should keep the booty call or not. This is another guy...no sex, nothing yet...but could be something. Hell, if I could mix the two together he'd be PERFECT!!

And really fat

sorry

 

[Frimost]

I think I probably speak for everyone here when I say the answer is simple and quite obvious when looked upon from a sensible and rational impartial jury. Fuck him to death! Dr. Holmes and Watson themselves would concur with my sound advice and the logic of my assessment.

 

[Your name here]

HI MyTaste

When I couldnt get ahold of you on the phone, i thought I would try here. Lucky I ran into you...so what are you doing? Who are these people you are talking to? They dont love you like I do. Maybe I should come over and we can talk about it. I think that is a good idea. Im coming over okay? See you in a minute...

signed


Fine but Psycho new guy in your life.

 

[mytasteislikecandy]

what kind of social life does the guy have? is he a loner or what? he might just have a whole of a lot of time on his hands. a lot of time to think the same thoughts over and over again.

does he have anything else going on in his life?

Yeah, he has a 4 year old son, he works 40 hours a week, he has a motorcycle he rides a lot....and he goes out with his friends. I think he just wants a girlfriend, and maybe a new mom for his son. I don't know...

 

[mytasteislikecandy]

HI MyTaste

When I couldnt get ahold of you on the phone, i thought I would try here. Lucky I ran into you...so what are you doing? Who are these people you are talking to? They dont love you like I do. Maybe I should come over and we can talk about it. I think that is a good idea. Im coming over okay? See you in a minute...

signed


Fine but Psycho new guy in your life.

LMAO

LMAO

LMAO

 

[mytasteislikecandy]

I think I probably speak for everyone here when I say the answer is simple and quite obvious when looked upon from a sensible and rational impartial jury. Fuck him to death! Dr. Holmes and Watson themselves would concur with my sound advice and the logic of my assessment.

hehe

That was my FIRST plan lol

then my mind overrode my hormones. Dammit!

 

[mytasteislikecandy]

And really fat

sorry

haha

true

 

[RoughPlay]

and he was all mad because I hadn't been home when he called. He was kind of pushy,

and already he's calling me 3 times a day, and trying to check out where I am when I'm not home.

This sounds bad to me. I think you should dump him now before he
boils your bunny.


> but he's FINE FINE FINE...and finally a man older than me,
> with his own place, and a good steady job. Most of the other
> boys I've met lately are useless.

Isn't Lit full of nice men for you to meet ?

 

[Sexy_lawyer03]

Re: Re: So..I met this guy...

This sounds bad to me. I think you should dump him now before he
boils your bunny.


> but he's FINE FINE FINE...and finally a man older than me,
> with his own place, and a good steady job. Most of the other
> boys I've met lately are useless.

Isn't Lit full of nice men for you to meet ?

Totally agree anyone who phones that much this early bad news - He's always going to control you - know where you are etc......besides looking at you if you need a man you can easily find one! Dump him

 

[peachykeen]

Honey, walk AWAY.

 

[IronPhantom]

....... he'd be PERFECT!!

You wanna know how many 40 year old women once thought the same thing about the slob drooling on the pillow next to them last Sunday morning?

 

[Lovepotion69]

Girl, don't even go there if your gut instinct tells you not to. You've only known him for a week, it's not like you wouldn't get over him. Also, a week and calling three times a day is really excessive. Heck, for me going out for a year and calling three times a day is a bit overdoing it! (but that's just me).

The thing is, go with your instincs. Yes, he's FINE but trust me you'll meet plenty of even FINER men. Posessiveness is NOT good. I was "involved" for a while with a guy who didn't seem like that at all. Then all of a sudden he started telling me that he didn't want my male friend to visit from Sweden (one of my close friends) as he didn't like the thought of another guy sleeping in the same room as me. Later on when I told him I had a date with a guy he told me he didn't want me to meet that guy. I of course told him it's none of his business. On the day he called my and said the same thing. I finally shut the phone off. When I got home I had three messages on my cellphone and another three on my normal one. All angry messages and kinda threatening.

Later on he continued by sending threatening texts, leaving heaps of messages on my phones and even by email. I finally got so tired of it all so I saved heaps of them, wrote down every date etc and told him I could go to the school and police. Told him we could solve it in a civilized way, but that got me more messages. Just to be prepaired I got the school to write a warning letter, spoke to someone from my department and a police too. He finally backed off and we've been civilized towards each other since, but I won't be with him alone.

 

[Luxlips]

This one's rotten too.

Girl this guy sounds like a total spazz case. Run! Run! If all was well then you wouldn't have these feelings of doubt. Like everyone has said previously on this thread-"go with your gut." Don't ignore yourself.

 

[mytasteislikecandy]

Ok guys....

Thank you ever so much for all the help....

I've definitely decided not to meet him again.

Looks like caller id is gonna be my lifesaver once again

Thank you again,

MTILC

 

[Carp]

Run. Run Fast. Run to Minnesota and don't stop till you get to my house. PM me for directions.

Seriously. Judging by my experience, I suck at relationships. And even I think you should avoid this guy...