So how do you know?

[sweetbabygirl85]

Ok so this post may seem stupidly naive. That's just what I am.

I'm with a man and love him, but he isn't interested in me, as my other posts have stated. He's more into online porn - just other chics.

Me? I dunno, I get more aroused looking at females online, but I love males, too. Does that make me bi? I can't see myself having sex with a chic, but at the same time, I'd let her go down on me. Does that make me a complete jerk or what?

 

[Night_Jasmine]

No, that doesn't make you a jerk at all. Honestly, I didn't snap to the fact I was a lesbian until it was shown to me.

People are as they are. There's no sense in judging them or yourself for what turns you on (as long as it's legal - lol).

Maybe indulging that curiosity and see if you're comfortable with it and enjoy it.

 

[not22yet]

Hi Sweet.....

I'd say if your hubby isn't into you that's his problem, not yours. If he is more interested in fooling around with imaginary people on the net than being with a real person who loves him and wants him, then he should question what's up with him, but it shouldn't impact negatively about how you view yourself.

Being turned on watching other women may just be exciting because it is new and very different from what you are used to.......or maybe there is something there that you may want to explore--you will have to decide on that. I'm a bit similar in that I love women and I've only ever been with women, but I do have to admit that watching another man masturbate online can be exciting. Is that because it's easier to find men doing this than women, or because it is so different from what I am used to seeing, or is it because it's something I'd want to see in person????? I don't know.

Anyway, feel free to ignore my ramblings. Good luck with whatever you decide upon!

 

[not22yet]

Hi again sweet....

I just noticed your picture thread.....wow, wow, wow! I'd say your hubby has a big problem if he doesn't appreciate what he has! And happy belated birthday! I've got 10 years on you and I still feel like a 'youngster' and you should too. A little positive attention on the home front would help with that, but if he's not interested I'm sure there are *lots* of men and women here that would love to step up to the plate!

take care.

 

[SometimesNever]

Hi again sweet....

I just noticed your picture thread.....wow, wow, wow! I'd say your hubby has a big problem if he doesn't appreciate what he has! And happy belated birthday!

No kidding!!!!

Hmmm, I try to stay away from labels really. You feel the way you feel and thats that. Maybe its fitting to one label but not another or half and half and you feel like your riding the fence between the two labels...thats a pain.

So I do not go there. I label my feelings not to a label that may group a bunch of feelings or thoughts together.

I do not think there is anything wrong with your thoughts or feelings, they are yours, embrace them.

For your hubby being the way he is and why he is not giving you attention, I can't imagine wht. Why he chooses porn over you, I am clueless. I would think he would want to spend all day looking at you in comparrison to online stuff that he can not have.

Like Not22 said....sounds like he has the problem.

 

[Guest]

Hi Sweet.....

I'd say if your hubby isn't into you that's his problem, not yours. If he is more interested in fooling around with imaginary people on the net than being with a real person who loves him and wants him, then he should question what's up with him, but it shouldn't impact negatively about how you view yourself.

Being turned on watching other women may just be exciting because it is new and very different from what you are used to.......or maybe there is something there that you may want to explore--you will have to decide on that. I'm a bit similar in that I love women and I've only ever been with women, but I do have to admit that watching another man masturbate online can be exciting. Is that because it's easier to find men doing this than women, or because it is so different from what I am used to seeing, or is it because it's something I'd want to see in person????? I don't know.

Anyway, feel free to ignore my ramblings. Good luck with whatever you decide upon!

I'd say not22yet pretty much nailed it.

 

[playwithlezli]

Good luck sweetie, I know how hard it is on your self-esteem when someone doesn't want you. But like others have said, it is generally from within their own personality.

As to whether or not you are bi-well, only you know what is in your heart-it can be confusing, but it can be fun too! And there are a lot of beautiful women out there to gaze upon while you are deciding!

 

[sweetbabygirl85]

Thanks for the responses. I'm actually pretty confused about everything but I guess time always tells, doesn't it? I didn't expect to actually stay around this site, but I might actually do so after all. Maybe I'll learn something about my own sexuality and it will become less about revenge and more about something else. Thank you for the compliments. I think there's something wrong with me or my head or your eyes or something..... but I do say that in the nicest way.

 

[Cumaddict]

Thanks for the responses. I'm actually pretty confused about everything but I guess time always tells, doesn't it? I didn't expect to actually stay around this site, but I might actually do so after all. Maybe I'll learn something about my own sexuality and it will become less about revenge and more about something else. Thank you for the compliments. I think there's something wrong with me or my head or your eyes or something..... but I do say that in the nicest way.

I was in the complete opposite situation (except i'm not insanely hot as you). MY gf wasn't interested in me as she once was and I was curious about being with guys at the time, then I finally did it and it answered all my questions. I like to fantasy and hook up with guys but could not live the gay lifestyle (i respect it but its not for me)

btw, there is nothing wrong with you. You are your own person and you will learn who you are sooner or later. trust me its worth the wait.

don't hesitate to pm me if you want to talk more.

 

[gar9101]

Sweetbabygirl85

I haven't posted much here but wanted to reply to your post. Men and women some times think just because they have sex organs between thier legs, that it should mean it turns the the other sex(or the same sex) on. NOT TRUE. most people who have been with thier other half for awhile need to be stimulated and just because its there doesen't mean you can be turned on by that. I find that adding excitment to a relationship and making it fun and exciting helps. Try to turn him on insead of just being there. I know it sure adds to our life both in and out of the bed room.
If you want to try same sex, by all means go for it. You never know what turns you on if you don't try. GO FOR IT.

 

[BiaTcHiNFiRe]

No, it just makes you yummy!!

I can't see myself having sex with a chic, but at the same time, I'd let her go down on me. Does that make me a complete jerk or what?

I look at your sexy pics and want to go down on you! and up your boddy from toes to ears, and back down, repeat!

 

[fauconier]

You're not a jerk at all

Sorry your guy isn't appreciating you. Did he ever? How long has he been more into online stuff than into you? I do understand the kind of hurt feelings you have. It could be that something about real intimacy scares him. That's pretty common for guys. He could even have fears about sex or his performance in bed that you may not be aware of. How are you guys about talking things out? Might be worth a try, even if it hasn't worked before.

Revenge feels good temporarily, but hurts everyone in the end. I do think it's pretty common for women, and for a fair number of guys, to be turned on by same-sex erotica but not to really, deeply want to act on their feelings, at least in terms of changing their lifestyle. Maybe taking some time to think about your feelings will give you even more perspective on a wise way to handle your situation. Good luck!

 

[irishff]

Hey Sweetbabygirl

I saw your pics and am very interested!!! PM me and we can chat!!!