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[demoncity]

my boyfriend is rather small, small, like i had to get birth control cause condoms don't fit him ( i guess overall he's proportionate to himself, he's just this really skinny, boney guy ;p )

anyway, small like to the point where there's kinda not a whole lot of friction and the fact that he gets me really wet doesn't help much either =/ anyone out there got some maybe better positions or things i could do to increase the amout of friction? cause sometimes i almost can't feel him and it sucks ;(

also i've noticed he really doesn't get as hard as other guys i've been with is that just kinda the norm w/ smaller guys?

thank in advance for help, i really wanna do all i can fer him <3

 

[SweetErika]

What are we talking here, like 2 or 3 inches? Or is it just really skinny? Both?

You might see if you can do reverse cowgirl or doggy style, though if he's really little, that may be difficult.

How about anal and toys?

Is he giving you orgasms with his hands, mouth or toys?

His size shouldn't have an impact on his erection at all. How old is he? Does he take anti-depressants, blood pressure medications or have a condition like Diabetes? Does he eat well and exercise? Has he been checked out by a urologist or even had a regular physical lately? Erection problems can indicate poor cardiovascular function and other problems, so he likely needs to get that checked out by a urologist.

 

[demoncity]

about 4ish, skinny too. he can get me off and he gets off too, sometimes i think it can just be frustrating (fer both him an me) where there's a lot of grindin an not much comin from it =/ he's 33, about 5'8ish an can't be more than like 130 (i could probably pick him up an throw him cross the room ;p), and he's in pretty good shape, goes out hiking an camping a lot. i don't think he's been to a doctor in quite some time however =/ no insurence

 

[SweetErika]

Well, you have to look hard sometimes, but most areas have free or low cost medical care for the uninsured in lower income brackets. He needs to get checked out because a softer erection can indicate serious medical conditions and get worse if left untreated.

Have fun trying different positions and angles until you find what feels best. As I implied, small cocks are great for anal, and you can have a blast with toys, from slipping one in with his cock to using one vaginally while he's in your ass or vice versa. Just say you thought it'd be fun to try some things you've read about that really turned you on, or similar - don't mention anything about not feeling enough because I can almost guarantee he worries about it constantly. Don't lie, but do tell him what a great lover he is and/or what he does best.

 

[demoncity]

thanks fer yer help he's still kinda shy (hasen't gotten any in a few years an now i'm driving him crazy ;p) i'll work on gettin him to see a doctor i don't want anything bad happenin to my baby <3

 

[SubNebGuy]

sounds like he's not even getting fully erect. he's likely self conscious about his average size because he's seen a few large dicks in the locker room.

or he's a 'grower' like me. flaccid I have a little dick...nothing special at all. but when I get hard, I grow about 5x the length, and gain a lot of girth (to the extent my wife complains it makes her jaw hurt).

erect I fall into the 'average' category, right about 6", but thick. like, regular condoms make my dick turn purple after a few minutes.

give him time...or get him some l-arginine supplments which can help get more nitric oxide into the erectile tissue, which equates to 'easier' erections...harder and easier to keep up.
(every 'herbal penis pill' out there includes a form of arginine for this reason)

 

[salsalicious]

I just wanted to let you know that I feel your pain, or lack thereof! I've been in the same situation with someone who doesn't like anal or toys...so sex was not all that thrilling. Shoot, creativity is good regardless of size!

That said, once I was with a guy who was really really small, and I got on top (couldn't tell if he was in or not--seriously) and rubbed myself off that way. He was the best kisser in the world...

I hope your guy has some imagination! Good luck!

 

[rthnck]

you can get condoms in smaller sizes at condommania.com and you can get cyberskin sleeves which willincrease length and/or girth at almost any online adult toy store.

womon on top will probably give you a good amount of penetration and control.

 

[golfdude1233]

ya i would check out smaller condoms for him - he must be really tiny if you cant feel a thing

 

[SweetErika]

Yeah, they may even have "snugger fit" condoms in the stores, though your best bet for selection is online. Google 'smaller condoms' or 'snugger condoms' and click me.

It looks like Lifestyles Snugger Fit are among the snuggest, although Beyond Seven and Kimono are thinner and offer more features, like ribbing and studs, which might give you more sensation. Just about all of the condom retailers offer sample packs of the smaller condoms, so you can try a bunch out and see works best.

 

[seattlelevel27]

honestly sounds like he's so psychologically embarrassed about his size that he's not even getting fully hard. Talk to him, tell him you don't mind his size, build his confidence...

 

[versatile1]

My suspicion is that as he grows more comfortable and confident, the regular condoms will fit fine.

 

[golfdude1233]

ya its got to also be a mental thing thats why hes not gaining a fuller erection

 

[wellnow]

This was posted on one of the forums sometime ago.

This was posted on one of the forums once and might be helpful to you both. It may help him put his size in perspective and help him understand that he isn't alone.

http://www.erectionphotos.com/softHardGallery/SoftHardGalleryP02.htm
from
http://www.erectionphotos.com/frames_index.htm

I would also suggest reading Mr. G's Try This & Report Back thread:

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=70892

If it sounds good to you, you might want to read it together and do some lab work. You may both completely forget the size issue.



good luck,

wellnow

 

[4x4in]

thanks fer yer help he's still kinda shy (hasen't gotten any in a few years an now i'm driving him crazy ;p) i'll work on gettin him to see a doctor i don't want anything bad happenin to my baby <3

Hi, demoncity. Being small myself, your looking for a solution that will work for you both is a breath of fresh air. It is not common to see a woman that admits that a small penis can be a mutually frustrating sexual problem usually compounded by a lack of communication and trying to pretend that it doesn't matter.

Have you considered sharing this thread and the lit "How To" forum with him? There have been some very good suggestions here such as adding toys, sleeves, oral, Mr G's excellent thread, positions, etc. If you live where there is a nice toy store, you might even want to go shopping together.



4x4in

 

[Countryboy1981]

Like others said, it does sound like he's not getting fully hard. Maybe try more forplay to get him really worked up.. Let him know that your ok with his cock size.. Maybe role play some..

Also yall might want to try a cock ring.. Not the cheap, soft ones, but a metal or plastic ring thats a pretty tight fit over the base of his cock.. That will help him to get harder, and stay hard longer along with causing the girth to get larger.

For postions.. Have him to find and rub your G spot 1st, then take you from behind in doggy.. That away his cock will hit and rub on your G spot.. Backwards cowgirl works for that too.

Make sure he reachs around and rubs your clit at the same time (or if he don't then you should rub it yourself)

 

[nowitzki41]

that sucks maybe you should make him wait and tell him not to jack off and thatll surley get him hard

 

[wellnow]

Has sex improved ?

Just wondered if your love making had improved after the discussion here?

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