Small Penis

[mathpro18]

I know I am probably outing my self for writing this but I don't care. I have a 4'' cock and was wondering what I can do to make sex more enjoyable with the few women who don't laugh me out of the bedroom.

 

[CherryBomb24]

I know I am probably outing my self for writing this but I don't care. I have a 4'' cock and was wondering what I can do to make sex more enjoyable with the few women who don't laugh me out of the bedroom.

show them your cat?


lol i'm just kidding
on a serious note, practice.
I dated a guy who was 4inches on a good day and he was probably one of the most enjoyable encounters i've had.
I asked him how he knew what to do, he said he read a lot of sex books and online stories and just "wing it"
But in the end - i think it was the practice that made all that reading pay off.

 

[Eilan]

Do a search for a Litster named testosterone1. Whatever he says, do the opposite. And listen to the ladies who have posted in his threads.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

Hi mathpro18 and welcome to Lit.

I'm guessing that the '18' on the end of your username is your age? In that case, you already have a little advantage because girls in your age group have little or nothing else to compare you to. Keep that in mind. If you act apologetic because you're a little under-average, you'll probably put ideas in her head that weren't even there. I think the average in the USA is 5 and a half inches. DO NOT pay any attention to the donkeycocks toted by male porn stars. You might as well take your opinion of average breast size from porn too.

Consideration, romance, being good company, treating her with respect... these things will get you a lot further than a 10inch dong and an arrogant attitude.

Becoming skilled at foreplay is a good idea but don't get obsessed about it or feel that you have anything to compensate for. People come in all shapes and sizes. Being petite myself, I really don't enjoy sex with men who are above average in size because it hurts me. A tip I heard once for oral sex if you're not all that practised is to trace the alphabet over her clit and then repeat the letter shapes that get a positive response from her.

I know you feel conscious of your size but keep this in perspective and remember what you do have to be grateful for. There are men who would give a great deal for 4inches of fully functioning cock. What about servicemen who come home paralysed or maimed and have a life of that to deal with? Don't let this become a mental block for you. I swear some guys give themselves dysmorphia over cock size because they have no frame of reference except porn.

ETA: Ok, 23. Sorry. I wasn't far wrong anyway.

 

[mathpro18]

Hi mathpro18 and welcome to Lit.

I'm guessing that the '18' on the end of your username is your age? In that case, you already have a little advantage because girls in your age group have little or nothing else to compare you to. Keep that in mind. If you act apologetic because you're a little under-average, you'll probably put ideas in her head that weren't even there. I think the average in the USA is 5 and a half inches. DO NOT pay any attention to the donkeycocks toted by male porn stars. You might as well take your opinion of average breast size from porn too.

Consideration, romance, being good company, treating her with respect... these things will get you a lot further than a 10inch dong and an arrogant attitude.

Becoming skilled at foreplay is a good idea but don't get obsessed about it or feel that you have anything to compensate for. People come in all shapes and sizes. Being petite myself, I really don't enjoy sex with men who are above average in size because it hurts me. A tip I heard once for oral sex if you're not all that practised is to trace the alphabet over her clit and then repeat the letter shapes that get a positive response from her.

I know you feel conscious of your size but keep this in perspective and remember what you do have to be grateful for. There are men who would give a great deal for 4inches of fully functioning cock. What about servicemen who come home paralysed or maimed and have a life of that to deal with? Don't let this become a mental block for you. I swear some guys give themselves dysmorphia over cock size because they have no frame of reference except porn.

ETA: Ok, 23. Sorry. I wasn't far wrong anyway.

Yes I am 23, but you were right, when I first used the pen name I was 18, I just haven't updated it.

As my ex-girlfriends can testify to I am GREAT at foreplay. Oral is my one down fall because I also have a short tongue so I can't get in deep with it, but I'm great at working the clit. I also got hounded counstently when I was with them to finger them as I have very talented fingers, and they are a little thicker than normal.

And because of my size I prefer foreplay over anything else but eventually things lead to sex and I just need to get over it but its hard...pun intended.

 

[working_girl]

You really don't have anything to worry about. I work as an escort and see lots of different guys of all shapes and... ahem... sizes.

I also have a lot of bloody awful sex, simply because the guy doesn't know any better and has never bothered to experiment much. Once a guy hits 30 he has an established MO that has worked on a number of women adequately and he never deviates from it. I am not there to tell him he's useless, I am there to rock his world so I perform as though he's Adonis, even if he's not.

Good oral sex skills put you well ahead of the game. I wouldn't worry about the size of your tongue either... unless all your fingers have been amputated. Girls would far rather have a considerate, skilled lover with a 4in cock than a guy who's clumsy, unskilled and with an enormous dick. Guys with big cocks often put far less effort into learning good foreplay technique, because they think they don't have to.

If you're after party tricks though, try this thread.

 

[infinity706]

Hi mathpro18 and welcome to Lit.

I'm guessing that the '18' on the end of your username is your age? In that case, you already have a little advantage because girls in your age group have little or nothing else to compare you to. Keep that in mind. If you act apologetic because you're a little under-average, you'll probably put ideas in her head that weren't even there. I think the average in the USA is 5 and a half inches. DO NOT pay any attention to the donkeycocks toted by male porn stars. You might as well take your opinion of average breast size from porn too.

Consideration, romance, being good company, treating her with respect... these things will get you a lot further than a 10inch dong and an arrogant attitude.

Becoming skilled at foreplay is a good idea but don't get obsessed about it or feel that you have anything to compensate for. People come in all shapes and sizes. Being petite myself, I really don't enjoy sex with men who are above average in size because it hurts me. A tip I heard once for oral sex if you're not all that practised is to trace the alphabet over her clit and then repeat the letter shapes that get a positive response from her.

I know you feel conscious of your size but keep this in perspective and remember what you do have to be grateful for. There are men who would give a great deal for 4inches of fully functioning cock. What about servicemen who come home paralysed or maimed and have a life of that to deal with? Don't let this become a mental block for you. I swear some guys give themselves dysmorphia over cock size because they have no frame of reference except porn.

ETA: Ok, 23. Sorry. I wasn't far wrong anyway.

Well, I have had 3 donkeycocks and 2 of them have been spectacular. It was actually in spite of that, though. They're above average kissers that give killer blowjobs. Being kinky as hell doesn't hurt either. Actually, the biggest strike against them is the unweildly dick. They're extremely hard to blow, need special, unflavored condoms, and it certainly becomes time consuming and difficult to do penetration. I'd definately prefer 4 inches. That's just a little bigger than ideal blowjob size.

 

[fabricator]

Here we go again............ welcome to the 'small parts' club.

Get used to it, get over it, because NOTHING you do will ever make your penis bigger - without permanent damage.

Make the best of the talents that you already seem to have developed - good on you!!! You'll find, as you grow older, that most women could give a shit less about the size of your penis. The biggest sex organ in your body is your brain, and from what you've said, you're already figuring that out. You'll also find that women will be more willing to put your smaller penis in other 'parts' of their bodies that well endowed men can never go. Take heart in that, you may get to enjoy some of the best oral and anal sex that the 'big boys' wont!

'Nuff said. Next?

 

[satindesire]

Yes I am 23, but you were right, when I first used the pen name I was 18, I just haven't updated it.

As my ex-girlfriends can testify to I am GREAT at foreplay. Oral is my one down fall because I also have a short tongue so I can't get in deep with it, but I'm great at working the clit. I also got hounded counstently when I was with them to finger them as I have very talented fingers, and they are a little thicker than normal.

And because of my size I prefer foreplay over anything else but eventually things lead to sex and I just need to get over it but its hard...pun intended.

"Get in deep"? I don't understand this...depth of tongue penetration has almost nothing to do with sexual pleasure in oral, for a good portion of women. For most women, all you need to do is concentrate on stimulating her -clitoris-.

A short tongue can stimulate a clitoris just as well as Gene Simmon's freakishly long tongue.

 

[CWatson]

Go to this thread here, started by a man whose cock is too big, and talk to him about swapping.

Alternately, remember that most of the vagina's nerve endings are concentrated in the outer third--you know, the side with the entrance in it. So as long as you can penetrate at all, you can stimulate a woman well. (Heck, she probably thinks of it as an advantage. I wouldn't know for certain, being 1) male, and 2) a virgin male. But it seems to me that while men might like to go balls-deep, women won't necessarily be pleasured any better by that.)

 

[SweetErika]

Yes I am 23, but you were right, when I first used the pen name I was 18, I just haven't updated it.

As my ex-girlfriends can testify to I am GREAT at foreplay. Oral is my one down fall because I also have a short tongue so I can't get in deep with it, but I'm great at working the clit. I also got hounded counstently when I was with them to finger them as I have very talented fingers, and they are a little thicker than normal.

And because of my size I prefer foreplay over anything else but eventually things lead to sex and I just need to get over it but its hard...pun intended.

So, what exactly is the problem then?

I mean, apart from your low cock-esteem/confidence, which is never attractive?

Or are you just looking for validation?

 

[shiny5437]

Here's a site with lots of people measuring their sexing pieces to use as a handy pocket reference.

http://www.showyourdick.org/?cat=5

Note:

1. This site is biased towards exhibitionist guys with larger members.

2. Overall there is a wide range of cock sizes.

3. However small you feel, there are people smaller than you on there.

4. Most people measure their cock size wrongly - for surveys it's from pubic bone to tip (eg along the top) which does give you slightly shorter distance than if you measure it along the side.

5. Erections just look gnarly. I'm sure yours is much prettier than some of the big lumpy ones. What do people actually see in them?

 

[ImpishSeraph]

I prefer them on the smaller side. Average is best for me because I have a short inside. I like to get pounded and if a guy is longer than 5 1/2 inches, it hurts too much to do this. I have turned down guys for being too big but never turned down anyone for being to small.

I once was with a guy who was one inch, and this was fully hard. I actually asked him if he was deformed (I did it in a nice way ) I could not feel him, but he did have great fingers.

I have also seen extenders. You slide it over you and are supposed to feel it on your end too. I've never tried it though.

 

[Eilan]

I don't understand this...depth of tongue penetration has almost nothing to do with sexual pleasure in oral, for a good portion of women.

Pfft. . . speak for yourself. If my cervix isn't getting battered by a tongue, I'm just not that interested.

 

[whoknew1212]

You really don't have anything to worry about. I work as an escort and see lots of different guys of all shapes and... ahem... sizes.

I also have a lot of bloody awful sex, simply because the guy doesn't know any better and has never bothered to experiment much. Once a guy hits 30 he has an established MO that has worked on a number of women adequately and he never deviates from it. I am not there to tell him he's useless, I am there to rock his world so I perform as though he's Adonis, even if he's not.

Do you find any correlation between how good a man is in bed and his dick size?

 

[CWatson]

Do you find any correlation between how good a man is in bed and his dick size?

Knowing nothing but male insecurities, my guess is that you might. The smaller he is, the harder he'll work at it. ...Either that or he'll get so self-obsessed with his size that he gives up on being a good lover, and sucks miserably.

Who knows. Reality will prove me right. ...Or wrong.

 

[intrepid_romy]

here's another related thread:
http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=659027
it discuses average size and the myths that surround it. only a short thread so it's an easy read.
I really suggest checking out
http://www.erectionphotos.com/
a site of a study on erection size. the visitor pics gallery and the soft/hard gallery are particularly interesting. They have not only pics but a few sentences from the men submitting. many men feel the same as you, whether they're 7 inches or 3, and I think seeing what other guys are working with and hearing their stories might help you feel more confident. in real life, penis size just isn't a big deal for many ladies. Personally, I hate having my cervix bumped and don't cum from just penitration so I would rather have a guy with a short penis than a long one, all other things being equal, and I know I'm not alone.

 

[inku]

So, what exactly is the problem then?

I mean, apart from your low cock-esteem/confidence, which is never attractive?

Or are you just looking for validation?

well his "low cock-esteem/confidence" can come from the fact that he may have read what other women say about penis size

 

[oldkinky]

I know I am probably outing my self for writing this but I don't care. I have a 4'' cock and was wondering what I can do to make sex more enjoyable with the few women who don't laugh me out of the bedroom.

My dick is 5 inches long(below average) and 5.5 inches in cicumference(above average). Must be OK since my wife cums 2 or 3 times every time we fuck. She says that it is much easier to do deep throat on a 5 inch dick rather than a longer one(she has had longer ones).

Before I was married I was dating this gal and we were making out-finally to the bedroom. When she saw my 5 inch dick she said "Is that all you have?" I said "Yes". We proceeded to fuck and she came twice. Afterwards she said "Those are the first orgasm I ever had. Your dick is wonderful". We proceeded to date and fuck for several months and she enjoyed every fuck.

So there are distinct advantages of a 5 inch dick.

 

[Eilan]

I don't think there's a tongue in the world long enough to touch a woman's cervix. At least not a human tongue.

You're just jealous.

 

[shiny5437]

I don't think there's a tongue in the world long enough to touch a woman's cervix. At least not a human tongue.

I'm thinking... prolapse

I'm thinking ... procidentia

I'm thinking better eat your dinner before you google that last one

 

[Firebrain]

I'm thinking... prolapse

I'm thinking ... procidentia

I'm thinking better eat your dinner before you google that last one

Me too. Either that, or Gene Simmons...

 

[mathpro18]

well his "low cock-esteem/confidence" can come from the fact that he may have read what other women say about penis size

Yeah thats part of it. And I've been with girls that make a HUGE deal about it...this one time I was at a party and she was trying to give me a hand job and she said "Where is it" and 1. it was in her hand and 2. there were like 30 people around...very embarassing. When she started giving me the hand job she asked me "How do you do this?"

 

[CWatson]

this one time I was at a party and she was trying to give me a hand job and she said "Where is it"

When she started giving me the hand job she asked me "How do you do this?"

Well, there's your problem. I mean, I never thought I'd have the chance to use the phrase, "She wouldn't know a dick if she was holding one," but...

 

[mathpro18]

The thing that made me mad is she had just given one to one of my friends so she knew what she was doing, she was just making fun of me. Though that was back in highschool it still keeps me from trusting women now.