Slut training my wife tips without alcohol

[naughtoldperv]

My younger and much more conservative Asian wife does have a little sut in her, but it only comes out when under the influence of alcohol. Problem is that I get turned off by almost all drunks.
On occasion I have found that magic and thin line, where she is a happy and sexy drunk, but the edge is so sharp that one drink too many and she becomes an ugly turnoff.
What to do???

 

[Asian_Flower]

Possibly start by not referring to her, as you so eloquently put it, an ugly turnoff.

 

[naughtoldperv]

Possibly start by not referring to her, as you so eloquently put it, an ugly turnoff.

All I was trying to express is that we all have 2 [or more] sides to ourselves and when I stated 'an ugly turnoff', I was just referring to that one side of her [or anyone else for that matter].
How else can I phrase it when she gets so sloppy drunk that she knocks over drinks and drinks enough to puke all night?? any other terms??

 

[loveupskirt]

Possibly start by not referring to her, as you so eloquently put it, an ugly turnoff.

I can relate to what he is saying. My own wife is sexy and attractive with some kinky desires that stay well covered due to her upbringing. A bit of alcohol relaxes her inhibitions a bit but its a very fine line. She can become overbearing and annoying very quickly, losing any sexiness in the process.

 

[naughtoldperv]

I can relate to what he is saying. My own wife is sexy and attractive with some kinky desires that stay well covered due to her upbringing. A bit of alcohol relaxes her inhibitions a bit but its a very fine line. She can become overbearing and annoying very quickly, losing any sexiness in the process.

Well put.............thanks.
Maybe my wording was a little harsh, but she does make me loose any desire I would normally have. Alcohol and sex is a complicated mix and we all have different tolerances, personality changes.

 

[Corbal]

My younger and much more conservative Asian wife does have a little sut in her, but it only comes out when under the influence of alcohol. Problem is that I get turned off by almost all drunks.
On occasion I have found that magic and thin line, where she is a happy and sexy drunk, but the edge is so sharp that one drink too many and she becomes an ugly turnoff.
What to do???

Feed her booz from a measuring cup, a 1/4 at a time. When she gets sexy, drunk slut level, note the amount, precisely, and what she ate hours before you gave it to her.

Then...magic.


Or, just tell her how you feel and that you're a slut-fucker. Words are powerful, bonehead. Use them to tell her what you want.

 

[pplwatching]

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[Nezhul]

Why did you marry her if you are unwilling to accept her for who she is?

Do you even understand how stupid that argument is?

I mean, why live at all then, if you aren't gonna change anything and anyone around you?
Kids behave badly? Fuck them, let them be who they want to be.
You love your wife but there's a small little thing that you want fixed? Don't tell her, keep it inside. Leave her be, she is who she is. Or divorce her, because you are abusing her with your desires.

Stupid-ass comment, in other words, pplwatching.
A comment brought by fake care and sexual unfulfillment, willingness to suck-up and be the model of tolerance and mediocrity, so that you would be praised for your reproachful views.

naughtoldperv
On topic now.
All such things become with a talk to determine if she even wants to undergo the changes that you ask of her, if she's okay with that. Don't call this training - it's a poor chose of words that triggers morons in this thread.

So if she wants, you go about it the same way as you go with every learning experience - slowly pushing the boundaries and moving forward when the previous step became normal and doesn't cause negative feelings any more.

Ask her to do something that borders on her comfort level but does not overstep it. Something that she feels ashamed about or humiliated of doing because of her uptightness, but is still okay of doing it without hours of you convincing her.

Then talk to her after sex, praise her, tell her how much you liked it, ask her to talk to you and tell you what she feels about it. Reward her in other ways.

Ask her to repeat this thing regularly. It won't happen fast, but after several times or weeks that thing will becone a routine thing, and she will be reassured by your words that there's nothing wrong with what you did. The bad feelings will go away, and you can move one step further, ask something else - and you will find that over time her boundaries broaden and expand.

It's not a fast process, you won't get the results you want over a week. But you'll get there eventually.

Also depending on the character of your wife, some other methods can be used to push her faster and further. If she likes gambling, you can gamble with her and ask her to do something naughty (but be prepared to follow-through if you lose). If she has strong desires of her own, you can trade with her - you do one thing, and she does the other.

Just e careful not to ask too much too fast so that not to stress her, and you will be okay.

 

[pplwatching]

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[pplwatching]

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[naughtoldperv]

Do you even understand how stupid that argument is?

I mean, why live at all then, if you aren't gonna change anything and anyone around you?
Kids behave badly? Fuck them, let them be who they want to be.
You love your wife but there's a small little thing that you want fixed? Don't tell her, keep it inside. Leave her be, she is who she is. Or divorce her, because you are abusing her with your desires.

Stupid-ass comment, in other words, pplwatching.
A comment brought by fake care and sexual unfulfillment, willingness to suck-up and be the model of tolerance and mediocrity, so that you would be praised for your reproachful views.

naughtoldperv
On topic now.
All such things become with a talk to determine if she even wants to undergo the changes that you ask of her, if she's okay with that. Don't call this training - it's a poor chose of words that triggers morons in this thread.

So if she wants, you go about it the same way as you go with every learning experience - slowly pushing the boundaries and moving forward when the previous step became normal and doesn't cause negative feelings any more.

Ask her to do something that borders on her comfort level but does not overstep it. Something that she feels ashamed about or humiliated of doing because of her uptightness, but is still okay of doing it without hours of you convincing her.

Then talk to her after sex, praise her, tell her how much you liked it, ask her to talk to you and tell you what she feels about it. Reward her in other ways.

Ask her to repeat this thing regularly. It won't happen fast, but after several times or weeks that thing will becone a routine thing, and she will be reassured by your words that there's nothing wrong with what you did. The bad feelings will go away, and you can move one step further, ask something else - and you will find that over time her boundaries broaden and expand.

It's not a fast process, you won't get the results you want over a week. But you'll get there eventually.

Also depending on the character of your wife, some other methods can be used to push her faster and further. If she likes gambling, you can gamble with her and ask her to do something naughty (but be prepared to follow-through if you lose). If she has strong desires of her own, you can trade with her - you do one thing, and she does the other.

Just e careful not to ask too much too fast so that not to stress her, and you will be okay.

Wise words Nezhul,
After 15 yrs married, I don't want to start all over again.
One thing to complicate my situation is that she has recently immigrated to our country [US] and I'm in the process of 'teaching/training/integrating' her into our brave new world and the new freedom and complications that she didn't have in her simple Asian homeland. That's just a small part of the process.
Meanwhile, I have my needs and am always ready to compromise/bargain/deal to make us all happy. that's my life now.
Also, we're all getting older and more set in our ways and have drawn our lines in the sand, but sometimes need to brush the sand away to draw new lines before they get cemented.
She has played 'my slut' on a couple of special birthday occasions and it was both good and bad, but we did it together to please the other. That's the name of the game, 'mutual pleasure' and keeping an open mind to new things so the marriage doesn't go stale and get boring......................then the troubles begin.

PPL stated that 'she is not a child'..............wrong, my friend. She is as much of a child in my world as I was in her world and she taught me the ways of Asia and I listened, obeyed, but still made my own choices based on my background and experiences and morals..................compromise??

This discussion would never happen in an Asian relationship, where the man wears the pants and draws the lines, so over here she has a lot more freedom than she would have had if she stayed and this whole discussion is about freedom, right?

thanks for the feedback............

 

[Nezhul]

His wife isn't his child. The responsibility to correct bad behavior and teach acceptable behaviour is a bad analogy. She isn't broken and her behaviour doesn't need to be fixed. By all means express desires and encourage, but respect her boundaries.

blah blah blah.

You affect and change people around you all the time. With husband and wife it's even more pronounced, and ALWAYS some sort of adjustments will need to be made from both sides to fit better together.

Your suggestion that you should never try to change anything is ridiculous. Yes, wife is not a child, but you forget that we grow and learn for our entire lives. "bad" behaviour needs to always be corrected, BUT it is always relative to the situation. It is natural to try and please your partner more, to try and learn some skills that make your partner happy - and it is also natural to ask the same from your partner.
Granted, your partner is an adult and can refuse, but they are equally likely to be willing to change a few things up.

Bottling up your needs and wants and staying silent about them is just about the worst thing you can do in a relationship.

You are just too bent on tolerance and accepting everyone's personality as it is to open your fucking eyes and see how real life works. It never remains static.

 

[curvycutie39]

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[Nezhul]

start by not referring to her, as you so eloquently put it, an ugly turnoff.

treat people nicely and with respect rather than referring to them as ugly turn offs.

I don't know what problem people are having here.
For me, drunk people ARE a major turn-off. And they do not look appealing in the slightest. It's just the way it is.

If I saw my girlfriend drunk, I'd say I wouldn't be attracted to her. Doesn't mean I stop liking or loving her in general, but in that instance she'd be rather repulsing to me.

What's wrong about that? It's just how life works. I hate drunk people - they are ugly and disgusting. Even if they are my wife or the love of my life.
And even if I won't necessarily use those words when talking to her - here, on forums, I can state the fact as it is.

So again, you are triggered by words without ever thinking about the context they are used in.