sleeping with someone

[Munachi]

i mean, sleeping in the same bed... i am just curious how others feel about that...

because personally, i really like to share a bed with my partner (or also in the cases of less serious encounters, with the person i had sex with) but feel very awkward about sharing a bed with a friend for lack of more beds...

i know some people (some of them guys i had been involved with) who couldn't sleep at all if they were in the same bed with someone else, so they would basically wait till i fell asleep and then go to sleep on the sofa...

other people i know (especially my friends from romania and peru, where i guess people just have less space because rent isn't cheap for them) often share beds and expect me to do the same when i visit them...

 

[cloudy]

I don't sleep well in a bed by myself, not after sleeping with my youngest child for so long.

There's something inherently intimate about sleeping, just sleeping, in a bed with someone else. It requires a great deal of trust, if you think about it for a sec. We are at our most vulnerable when we sleep.

I like it.

 

[Miyana Books]

very normal

Yeah, I would expect you to sleep in my bed if you were staying with me. What's more I would expect you to have sex with me, or at least lie there while I had sex with you. Of course, I'm South American, Pan-American, and you are probably a gringo, and I would expect you to be a little thrown by this. But you would get used it. We latin lovers are known for throwing caution to the wind.

 

[cloudy]

Yeah, I would expect you to sleep in my bed if you were staying with me. What's more I would expect you to have sex with me, or at least lie there while I had sex with you. Of course, I'm South American, Pan-American, and you are probably a gringo, and I would expect you to be a little thrown by this. But you would get used it. We latin lovers are known for throwing caution to the wind.

I'm not sure who you've directed that to, but gringo? Not me....you must have me confused with someone else.

 

[Miyana Books]

You may remember

I'm not sure who you've directed that to, but gringo? Not me....you must have me confused with someone else.

You called me a racist. And this is the second time that you have thought that I am replying to you and not the thread's author. Are you baiting me again to call me a racist again?

 

[Munachi]

Yeah, I would expect you to sleep in my bed if you were staying with me. What's more I would expect you to have sex with me, or at least lie there while I had sex with you. Of course, I'm South American, Pan-American, and you are probably a gringo, and I would expect you to be a little thrown by this. But you would get used it. We latin lovers are known for throwing caution to the wind.

well, this is not what i meant... sharing a bed is seen as very normal for people who have two or three beds in a family of five or six people, apart from that i could hardly expect all of them to sleep in one so i can have the other one...

 

[logophile]

Anthropologically speaking, we were not designed to sleep alone. Sleeping in pairs (or more) makes more sense on so many levels.

Incidentally, we were also not designed to sleep for a continuous eight hour stretch. Rather, we are programmed to fall asleep around sun-down (regardless of season), sleep two or three hours, wake for a bit and sleep again until sun-rise (regardless of season). This pattern requires a mid-day rest which many of us still crave, though few of us allow ourselves to have it.

 

[kendo1]

Someone has a chip on their shoulder, again.

 

[Munachi]

Anthropologically speaking, we were not designed to sleep alone. Sleeping in pairs (or more) makes more sense on so many levels.

Incidentally, we were also not designed to sleep for a continuous eight hour stretch. Rather, we are programmed to fall asleep around sun-down (regardless of season), sleep two or three hours, wake for a bit and sleep again until sun-rise (regardless of season). This pattern requires a mid-day rest which many of us still crave, though few of us allow ourselves to have it.

that is interesting, i always thought it wasn't good if your night sleep got interrupted... i do however often get quite tired in the afternoon and early evening and a lot more awake around midnight...

 

[Wildcard Ky]

I have no problems with any sleeping arrangements. I can sleep alone, or sleep with someone in a completely platonic way. The only thing that bothers me is if they snore, or toss and turn all night.

 

[Liar]

Anthropologically speaking, we were not designed to sleep alone. Sleeping in pairs (or more) makes more sense on so many levels.

Incidentally, we were also not designed to sleep for a continuous eight hour stretch. Rather, we are programmed to fall asleep around sun-down (regardless of season), sleep two or three hours, wake for a bit and sleep again until sun-rise (regardless of season). This pattern requires a mid-day rest which many of us still crave, though few of us allow ourselves to have it.

Yep. What is it... six hour sleep cycles, or something like that. Hany who have problem with feeling tired through the day do so because they didn't get the right timing in their bed time to hit two full peiods of deep-sleep with a light-sleep perod in the middle (the one where it's ok to wake up). They get light-deep-light, which is only half as much quality downtime as deep-light-deep.

 

[Liar]

I have no problems with any sleeping arrangements. I can sleep alone, or sleep with someone in a completely platonic way. The only thing that bothers me is if they snore, or toss and turn all night.

Yeah, there's that. I don't mind sleeping close to someone more than I mind sitting close to someone if there's a reson for it. But I also want a little peace and quiet when I sleep.

 

[cloudy]

You called me a racist. And this is the second time that you have thought that I am replying to you and not the thread's author. Are you baiting me again to call me a racist again?

My, my....assume much?

I was asking you a question. How you took it sounds like a personal issue to me.

 

[kendo1]

Cloudy's back!

Another Happy Snoopy Dance.

 

[Alessia Brio]

deep-light-deep.

Damn. That registered in unintended ways.

 

[McKenna]

I grew up sharing a bed with my sister. It seemed natural. My parents say she used to use me as a teddy bear.

I've never had much of a problem sharing a bed with a girl friend. I've never shared a bed with a guy friend, but I probably wouldn't have a problem with it. I've slept in a tent with guy friends not more than 6 inches away. It was no big deal.

I enjoy the snuggling and touching that occurs while sharing a bed with a significant other. It's warm and comforting just knowing he's near and all I have to do is reach out to touch him. His presence is as comforting as his body is.

 

[Alessia Brio]

I grew up sharing a bed with my sister. It seemed natural. My parents say she used to use me as a teddy bear.

I've never had much of a problem sharing a bed with a girl friend. I've never shared a bed with a guy friend, but I probably wouldn't have a problem with it. I've slept in a tent with guy friends not more than 6 inches away. It was no big deal.

I enjoy the snuggling and touching that occurs while sharing a bed with a significant other. It's warm and comforting just knowing he's near and all I have to do is reach out to touch him. His presence is as comforting as his body is.

McK!!!!!!!

FLYINGLEAPINGTACKLEHUGS! Good to see you!

 

[McKenna]

McK!!!!!!!

FLYINGLEAPINGTACKLEHUGS! Good to see you!

Your av looks delicious. Can I have a bite?!

 

[Alessia Brio]

Your av looks delicious. Can I have a bite?!

Absolutely!

 

[McKenna]

Absolutely!

*nibble, nibble, BITE!*

 

[Munachi]

Yep. What is it... six hour sleep cycles, or something like that. Hany who have problem with feeling tired through the day do so because they didn't get the right timing in their bed time to hit two full peiods of deep-sleep with a light-sleep perod in the middle (the one where it's ok to wake up). They get light-deep-light, which is only half as much quality downtime as deep-light-deep.

ah okay, so how do i make sure to get these sleep cycles?

and is there anyone here who could never ever share a bed, or at least get sleep when they do so?

 

[Goldie Munro]

I always feel a little bit uncomfortable when sharing a bed with someone that I would not normally share a bed with! Mostly because I like to sprawl, snore and yes probably fart a lot when in bed - it does put some people off!

 

[rgraham666]

ah okay, so how do i make sure to get these sleep cycles?

and is there anyone here who could never ever share a bed, or at least get sleep when they do so?

Me. I can't sleep in a strange bed at all. Not unless I'm completely exhausted.

Probably couldn't sleep with another person in the same bed.

In both cases it's because I have major trust issues. Somewhere out of my comfort zone is very stressing for me.

However waking up against something warm and snuggly is the only thing I miss from my marriage. That was nice.

 

[McKenna]

I always feel a little bit uncomfortable when sharing a bed with someone that I would not normally share a bed with! Mostly because I like to sprawl, snore and yes probably fart a lot when in bed - it does put some people off!

Gas happens.

 

[SeaCat]

I have no problems at all with sleeping arrangements. I have slept alone, which I dislike, and once I slept with six other people in the same bed.

The only thing is there has to be an understanding of expectations. Is there or is there not going to be sex? What is acceptable? What is not acceptable?

Cat