Slang to describe women's sexual experience

[Gorza]

Writing erotica, I am often searching for the right word.

Medical terms rarely sound right or feel sexy, so we revert to slang. Yet it seems so much of our slang is focused on the male experience: men have 'wank', 'cum', 'jizz' and 'fuck' among other things. Of course, women can wank and come and fuck like the men, but there is the sense that these are borrowed words. We can make silly phrases like 'flicking the bean' and 'jilling off', but they don't really have the punch of a good Anglo-Saxon monosyllable.

Rather gloriously, Sweden decided that its language needed a proper word for female masturbation that wasn't just borrowing the boys' love of wanking or resorting to poetic phrases. They chose 'klittra', a combination of the words 'clitoris' and 'glitter' (http://www.theguardian.com/society/shortcuts/2015/jun/22/klittra-sweden-new-word-female-masturbation). Although the new article is a little anti-klittra, I quite like it.

I think English needs a few slang words for a woman's sexual experience. Any suggestions?

 

[Handley_Page]

Writing erotica, I am often searching for the right word.

Medical terms rarely sound right or feel sexy, so we revert to slang. Yet it seems so much of our slang is focused on the male experience: men have 'wank', 'cum', 'jizz' and 'fuck' among other things. Of course, women can wank and come and fuck like the men, but there is the sense that these are borrowed words. We can make silly phrases like 'flicking the bean' and 'jilling off', but they don't really have the punch of a good Anglo-Saxon monosyllable.

Rather gloriously, Sweden decided that its language needed a proper word for female masturbation that wasn't just borrowing the boys' love of wanking or resorting to poetic phrases. They chose 'klittra', a combination of the words 'clitoris' and 'glitter' (http://www.theguardian.com/society/shortcuts/2015/jun/22/klittra-sweden-new-word-female-masturbation). Although the new article is a little anti-klittra, I quite like it.

I think English needs a few slang words for a woman's sexual experience. Any suggestions?

Would that be a Noun ?

 

[oggbashan]

More slang words?

Beside my screen I have a fat dictionary of slang. A third of the words in it refer to sex.

 

[Gorza]

Would that be a Noun ?

I am guessing, with my non-too-expert knowledge of Swedish, something like 'klittri' is the noun.

 

[Gorza]

More slang words?

Beside my screen I have a fat dictionary of slang. A third of the words in it refer to sex.

But, how many of those are solid single words (rather than phrases) that describe purely a woman's sexual experience?

 

[oggbashan]

But, how many of those are solid single words (rather than phrases) that describe purely a woman's sexual experience?

I'm not looking through 1000+ pages!!!

 

[oggbashan]

According to that dictionary, to frig has been used for female masturbation since the 16th Century, and frigging is the act. Since mid 19th Century frigging has extended to mutual lesbian masturbation.

Confusingly, it also covers male masturbation cf The Good Ship Venus "frigging in the rigging"...

 

[Gorza]

According to that dictionary, to frig has been used for female masturbation since the 16th Century, and frigging is the act. Since mid 19th Century frigging has extended to mutual lesbian masturbation.

Confusingly, it also covers male masturbation cf The Good Ship Venus "frigging in the rigging"...

Oh yes, how had I forgotten 'frig' -- and that dirty old song! Perhaps this is the word we should be encouraging more for women's masturbation.

Any women on the list fancy taking up this word, or use it already?

 

[beachbum1958]

Oh yes, how had I forgotten 'frig' -- and that dirty old song! Perhaps this is the word we should be encouraging more for women's masturbation.

Any women on the list fancy taking up this word, or use it already?

When I was at boarding school way back when, the girls from the girl's school we were most associated with used to call masturbating 'squishing', and an orgasm a 'squishy' or 'squishies'; I don't know whether or not this was just their own school slang (and God knows, our school had enough of its own odd words for everyday things) or whether it was in general use through the girl's boarding schools in England, although I have to say, the only person I've ever come across since (no pun intended!) who used that word is MaryR, who writes in the Incest/Taboo genre, and she's an ex-girls boarding school girl herself. Does one black swan mean there's more?

 

[Handley_Page]

According to that dictionary, to frig has been used for female masturbation since the 16th Century, and frigging is the act. Since mid 19th Century frigging has extended to mutual lesbian masturbation.

Confusingly, it also covers male masturbation cf The Good Ship Venus "frigging in the rigging"...

Don't forget that there were women on board the Navy ships in the late 1790s.
There were women on HMS Victory.

 

[oggbashan]

Don't forget that there were women on board the Navy ships in the late 1790s.
There were women on HMS Victory.

But I doubt they were frigging in the rigging.

They were probably fucking in the focosle.

 

[Gorza]

When I was at boarding school way back when, the girls from the girl's school we were most associated with used to call masturbating 'squishing', and an orgasm a 'squishy' or 'squishies'; I don't know whether or not this was just their own school slang (and God knows, our school had enough of its own odd words for everyday things) or whether it was in general use through the girl's boarding schools in England, although I have to say, the only person I've ever come across since (no pun intended!) who used that word is MaryR, who writes in the Incest/Taboo genre, and she's an ex-girls boarding school girl herself. Does one black swan mean there's more?

I haven't come across (!) squishing before. I need to read some of MaryR's squishing tales. Can we get MaryR over to this thread to give us the lowdown on boarding-school slang?

 

[beachbum1958]

I haven't come across (!) squishing before. I need to read some of MaryR's squishing tales. Can we get MaryR over to this thread to give us the lowdown on boarding-school slang?

You could drop her a line, but she's a very quiet, genteel lady, and she may not want to push herself forward on a forum like this; her writing feels like 'naughty' stories from the 1950's; you can hear the chintz curtain rustling and the quiet clink of the sugar tongs in her work, and she likes to keep a low profile, in spite of all the hanky-panky (and sometimes spanky) in her stories. Ask her, the most she could say is 'no'.

Just remembered; the other word they used was 'flushies', which I suppose is kind of self-explanatory.

 

[Gorza]

You could drop her a line, but she's a very quiet, genteel lady, and she may not want to push herself forward on a forum like this; her writing feels like 'naughty' stories from the 1950's; you can hear the chintz curtain rustling and the quiet clink of the sugar tongs in her work, and she likes to keep a low profile, in spite of all the hanky-panky (and sometimes spanky) in her stories. Ask her, the most she could say is 'no'.

I have just sent her a polite PM to ask if she would like to contribute to the discussion.

Your mention of sugar tongs makes me think of Atelier Dreams, a new lesbian BDSM tale. The submissive woman serving tea to her mistress is a significant scene, and I suggested to the author that she describe the tea set, and perhaps include sugar tongs. I never thought that a posh tea service could be quite so sexualised!

Just remembered; the other word they used was 'flushies', which I suppose is kind of self-explanatory.

Maybe I'm slow, but 'flushies'?

 

[oggbashan]

...

Maybe I'm slow, but 'flushies'?

Because masturbation brings on the hot flushes...

 

[Gorza]

Because masturbation brings on the hot flushes...

Of course! I think I need a glossary of this stuff for a story now.

 

[DeYaKen]

But I doubt they were frigging in the rigging.

They were probably fucking in the focosle.

Maybe but it would have been the Fo'c'sle the shortened version of forecastle. If you look at the ships the navy used in those days you can see why it was so called.

As it was usually the place where the lowly seamen slept, that is where most of the fucking would have taken place if women were on board. However, I seem to recall, that women on board ship was thought to be bad luck.

 

[elfin_odalisque]

Because a majority of writers-even lesbian-are male, you get a lot of male slang terms.

Wank is a singular British expression and is best avoided.

There is a difference between male and female climax and a vocabulary to match.

 

[oggbashan]

Maybe but it would have been the Fo'c'sle the shortened version of forecastle. If you look at the ships the navy used in those days you can see why it was so called.

As it was usually the place where the lowly seamen slept, that is where most of the fucking would have taken place if women were on board. However, I seem to recall, that women on board ship was thought to be bad luck.

There were women on board the ships engaged at the Battle of Trafalgar and a couple of the French women were rescued by British ships.

The numbers were lower than used to be thought. There were probably less than a total of a couple of dozen women on ALL the ships.

 

[Gorza]

Because a majority of writers-even lesbian-are male, you get a lot of male slang terms.

Wank is a singular British expression and is best avoided.

There is a difference between male and female climax and a vocabulary to match.

O Elfin Odalisque, it is hard writing a reply to you -- it must be thought of you laid out in some far harem!

As an English gentleman, I am proud to wank, perhaps after reading your My Cute Stumpy Thick End and/or Understand Breasts & Bra Sizes: I need you to educate me!

In my erotic writing, I find myself getting all geographical, topographical, cartographical in descriptions of women's bodies. I love to use contours and rises, to describe a flat abdomen quivering with expectation as a sea that washes on a forbidden shore whose forested interior rises before plunging deep down into a valley lush with dew and caverned with delight. It makes me come over all Magellanic just thinking about it.

So, elfin one, which words do you relish?

 

[jsmiam]

....I think English needs a few slang words for a woman's sexual experience. Any suggestions?

C'mon people... Tap tap tap... Is this thing on?

Words for a woman's sexual experience...

- disappointed
- unsatisfied
- longing
- wishing

Which segues into...

- bradpitting
- clooneying
- depping? (current movie not a dud.. Whoa!)

I'm here till Thursday . Try the veal! (Shrek was misquoted the other day, this was what he actually said).

 

[Gorza]

C'mon people... Tap tap tap... Is this thing on?

Words for a woman's sexual experience...

- disappointed
- unsatisfied
- longing
- wishing

Which segues into...

- bradpitting
- clooneying
- depping? (current movie not a dud.. Whoa!)

I'm here till Thursday . Try the veal! (Shrek was misquoted the other day, this was what he actually said).

* Sighs despondently *

I was hoping for a more cunning linguist!

 

[oggbashan]

Try this:

https://www.powerthesaurus.org/sex

 

[HandsInTheDark]

Your mention of sugar tongs makes me think of Atelier Dreams, a new lesbian BDSM tale. The submissive woman serving tea to her mistress is a significant scene, and I suggested to the author that she describe the tea set, and perhaps include sugar tongs.

Ok, this triggers a minor pet peeve. In a lot of "ladies romance", the female author falls prey to descriptivitis. Pages on clothing, minutely detailed. Opulent this and riotous that and lush the other, involving everything from tea sets to hair pins. What's up with this?

I get that it's a way to slow down the action, and suspense is important in erotica. But there's lots of ways to delay the next sex scene. Like actual plot. Do I need to know about a pale, pearl-hued taffeta gown with black organza trim? That's an awful lot to plough through, for both the character and the reader, looking for the, ah, meat. Because she's going to get thrown over the table and the candlesticks will go flying and I don't care if they are oiled, polished brass or old English silver. Her dress is being torn off and no one, I like to think, is looking at any candlesticks.

Someone explain. I feel like if I can master this I can launch a career.

 

[LadyVer]

Ok, this triggers a minor pet peeve. In a lot of "ladies romance", the female author falls prey to descriptivitis. Pages on clothing, minutely detailed. Opulent this and riotous that and lush the other, involving everything from tea sets to hair pins. What's up with this?

I get that it's a way to slow down the action, and suspense is important in erotica. But there's lots of ways to delay the next sex scene. Like actual plot. Do I need to know about a pale, pearl-hued taffeta gown with black organza trim? That's an awful lot to plough through, for both the character and the reader, looking for the, ah, meat. Because she's going to get thrown over the table and the candlesticks will go flying and I don't care if they are oiled, polished brass or old English silver. Her dress is being torn off and no one, I like to think, is looking at any candlesticks.

Someone explain. I feel like if I can master this I can launch a career.

This is a convention of Romance. The reader wants to visualize the story. Well-written descriptions don't interfere with the plot.