Size Matters

[policywank]

Which brings me back to SlutAddicted's roast example. It depends on how the question is framed. "I loved the potatoes" is an evasive response if the question was "did you like my meat?" It's less so if the question is "did you like dinner?" Sometimes the meat is not the main focus. I mean, I spent years asking my mother to cook pot roast for my birthday and then eating mainly the potatoes and carrots. Those were what I wanted, because nothing makes potatoes and carrots taste as good as being slow cooked with a hunk of beef. And no, that's not a double entendre, pervs!

Yes I think that you are correct. The key is that one has to have the presence of mind or clarity of thought to make that distinction rather than hearing what they want to hear so that they can answer the way they want.

Personally I find that when someone gives a deflecting and/or patronizing response it is worse than just telling the truth. You feel the full brunt of whatever the underlying negative response is, but on top of that is the insult that you are not strong enough to hear the truth.

 

[Cob083]

Larger than average penis size here but nothing cartoonishly big like 10-12 inches. I'm 7.7" in length and 5.5" measured around in girth. Of the women I've been with one, maybe two were actual size queens and really into the size that I have and the rest didn't enjoy sex nearly as much because their lady parts were too small for it, one woman even telling me that sex with her ex boyfriend was actually more comfortable because "it was a lot smaller." So it was telling to me there are some ladies out here who do prefer it smaller. Just my own personal experiences.

 

[NightBirdNYC]

While I’m not a size queen, if I had to state a preference, I would say girth is more of a plus than length. I’ve experience both “small” and “large” (see my Limo ride story for the biggest I have experienced) and I really think that in both cases, it’s how a man uses it that is important!, especially with anal which I adore! As a squirter, girth will usually cause me to squirt harder as well
As for masturbation, never underestimate a nice thick zucchini added to the mix!
https://vlix.io/video/a1df3ca308ad0bf48591/

 

[ParkerSteve66]

While I’m not a size queen, if I had to state a preference, I would say girth is more of a plus than length. I’ve experience both “small” and “large” (see my Limo ride story for the biggest I have experienced) and I really think that in both cases, it’s how a man uses it that is important!, especially with anal which I adore! As a squirter, girth will usually causes me to squirt harder as well
As for masturbation, never underestimate a nice thick zucchini added to the mix!
https://vlix.io/video/cb16c14537e5bc2f2d37/

Night Bird, that is a great video. I had a GF once that used a peeled banana to masturbate with. Afterwards, I ate the banana - great mixture of sweet with tangy.

 

[LMWM321]

... I'm 7.7" in length and 5.5" measured around in girth. Of the women I've been with one, maybe two were actual size queens and really into the size that I have and the rest didn't enjoy sex nearly as much because their lady parts were too small for it, one woman even telling me that sex with her ex boyfriend was actually more comfortable because "it was a lot smaller." So it was telling to me there are some ladies out here who do prefer it smaller. Just my own personal experiences.

Or, perhaps more accurately, they prefer a penis of average length and girth. Your length and girth, like mine, put us squarely in the outlier category.

My wife and I have awesome sex, but it is NOT because of my big dick. Indeed, as I've said there are things we simply don't do because of it's size, but wish we could.

The bottomline: Men need to think more about the person their dick is attached to than it's size.

 

[LMWM321]

Think of it this way: If you're an unappealing dolt, having a HUGE cock could make the idea of sex with you even MORE unappealing.

I once heard a female comedian recall a douchebag who was coming on to her at a bar - eventually boasting about his big dick..

Her reply,

"The idea of having you inside me is gross. The idea of having a WHOLE LOT of you inside of me is even grosser."

Brilliant.

 

[SCRob95060]

At six inches I have always been the smaller guy in the MMFs I have been involved with. Despite being average I feel like I am small, but that’s okay. I’ve had a lot of fun.

 

[Rollinbones]

Very many years ago there was a guy in our squad who was the first person to be allowed wear non-regulation swimwear. On our first day in rescue training, he was taking a very long time coming out of the dressing rooms. We all stood around in our budgie smugglers waiting and the instructors got cranky and sent me in to find him and hurry him up. Coincidently, his name was Richard. I found him standing there with a towel wrapped around his waist and he was looking like he was about to cry. I asked him to explain and he dropped the towel. The budgie smugglers could not contain the wedgetail eagle he was packing. I explained the situation quietly to the instructor who did not believe me and got quite upset at the drama. Even he was forced to accept that Richard would not be fitted his richard in the budgie smugglers and after a conversation with the other instructors, it was decided that he could wear swim shorts. A 'cock' sic and bull story about Richard not wearing briefs due to cultural reasons was constructed. (Richard was an islander).

In later quiet conversations with the gently spoken man he explained that it was eight inches flaccid and ten hard. Most impressive. I expressed a wish that mine was similar and he shook his head. In his experience it scared some women off and others treated it like a curiousity. "They all come for the freak show but none stay for the clowns." were his words. His experience was that once word got out many women wanted 'a go' but not much more. That it was too much for many of them on a regular basis. He'd had otherwise healthy relationships end because of it.

Wah wah, poor me, right?

I hope he found someone compatible. That was a long time ago now.

 

[LMWM321]

it was eight inches flaccid and ten hard. Most impressive. many women wanted 'a go' but not much more. That it was too much for many of them on a regular basis. He'd had otherwise healthy relationships end because of it.

The bigger problem with penis size isn't length, it's girth - which isn't mentioned. And it shouldn't be assumed his dick was girthy just because it's long. Remarkably, girth is only loosely correlated with length - to wit: there are guys with short girthy dicks and guys with long skinny dicks.

A long dick doesn't HAVE to go all the way into a partner. If relationships truly ENDED for him because of his length it would be because he continued to selfishly try to fit it all in when it clearly didn't - thereby jamming it into her cervix. There are LOTS of guys with 7" dicks (still a very long dick statistically) who have the same problem. The solution? Don't shove all of your dick all of the way in. Most lengthy guys learn this very quickly with their very first partner. So, was this guy some kind of selfish slob who was oblivious to the discomfort he was causing his partners?

Much more than length, it's extraordinary girth that's the problem because there's no way to insert just part of your girth. And that has been my issue. My dick is very long - 8 1/8". But my 6 1/4" girth is more of a limiting factor. My partners haven't been able to comfortably take me in their mouth (which they wanted to do) without hurting their jaw, penetrative anal is mostly a non-starter (not everyone's bag anyway) and as women age even PIV sex becomes very very uncomfortable without Estrodial Cream therapy, then tons and tons of lube. I know such comments about my big dick sounds like a humblebrag, but it's the truth. I wouldn't waste my time lying to a bunch of strangers in a forum. And it's not a brag; no one who values comfortable sex should want a dick like mine.

As I've said before, when my wife has fantasies about sex with another man (let's say it's Roger Federer - and who can blame her ), she admits that she fantasizes about his dick being perfectly average in length and girth so all kinds of sex are comfortable and enjoyable. And of course it's probably beautifully shaped, etc... but that's a different topic which you'd think would come up more often than length.

 

[Rollinbones]

As I've said, when my wife fantasies about sex with another man (let's say it's Roger Federer - and who can blame her ), she fantasies about his dick being perfectly average in length and girth. And of course it's probably beautifully shaped, etc... but that's a different topic which you'd think would come up more often than length.

Wow, you're pretty invested in all this. Lot's of bold text. For my mate back then, it was in his words... "like a fucking pringles tube". I never saw it. He also spoke about men who wanted to use him to 'punish' their wives with it. The world is a funny place. I'm pleased that i've never hurt anyone with mine and just enjoyed it along with them.

 

[LMWM321]

Wow, you're pretty invested in all this. Lot's of bold text

yeah.. you're right. All the bold text was kind of annoying, so I removed it. I was frustrated as I typed it b/c I feel like this has all been said before. No one's dick is ever too long for enjoyment unless the dude is a selfish, brutish asshole who insists on smashing it all the way inside his partner regardless of whether or not she's enjoying it. And just as dick sizes can vary, so can vaginal depth. For some women, even a 5" dick may bottom out. So being careful NOT to go too deep is important whether it's 5" or a fictional 20" long. It's excessive penis GIRTH that is more likely to be the joy killer.

As for the "using him to punish their wive's with it" comment... what kind of man would ever say such a thing about his wife, or boast about being asked to be used for that purpose? Ugh.

As I've repeated over and over: I have a huge dick - both length and girth - and it's done WAY more to hinder sexual enjoyment than enhance it. Guys need to stop obsessing over the size of their dick and focus more on the person it's attached to.

 

[lifeis2short2b]

These threads crack me up. The only guys who are obsessed with their small cocks are the big dicks that post about them.
If a woman is at the point where she sees your "small penis" you better be erect. If not you got bigger problems
What about women who have smaller breast's ? Those are displayed on a daily basis not hidden behind a pair of jeans. I don't see them crying on lit about there smaller girls.
It's all about individuals. Some women like big dicks and their penis. And some guys like women with big tit's.
Get over your self pity and buy a potato and stand proud.

 

[cathyk1980]

for me, on here, its all fantasy anyway. i have seen a lot of cocks in my life, and had great sex with men of all sizes and shapes, and bad sex also. But sense online is a fantasy, i like seeing large cut cocks. why not ? its all just to get off

 

[lil_pete]

There has always been arguments about the importance/unimportance of penis size. There are valid points on all sides of the discussion. It all depends on a variety of different factors. I am generally of the opinion that it matters if u make it matter. I have a very small erect penis (a slim 4") and tiny flaccid size of 1.5" My unimpressive erect status has sometimes been a buzz kill for some women but my tiny flaccid size is more damning. Even though most people are aware that flaccid size does not necessarily indicate erect size my soft member is so pathetic it is hard to envision it improving that much. Most times in the public arena be it public showers change rooms urinals where men size themselves up against the competition u gain a rep for being particularly large or small. This can affect your status amongst other males and worse filters out into the female members of work school or social group. Not good if you are in the tiny dick category. I know for certain it has caused more than a few women to have no interest in me sexually. That may seem rather shallow of them but if you line up a group of guys who have equally attractive personalities equally attractive clothed physiques etc etc for the most part The guy who is known to have a tiny cock is probably at a disadvantage.

How true this is, my only disagreement is the beginning. There is NO valid point about anything positive with a small penis.
I too have a very small flaccid penis resembling a pre-pubescent male and yes; public showers change rooms urinals were scary for me but the Worst! I swam competitively high school then tertiary, there is no shorts option, its speedo style and even before hitting the water... Once that cold water hit my wet speedos clung and I filled them like a barbie doll.
I think something we would know that is not really spoken about is the girth thing. Males that love sph or just want to be down about there size, will go on about their small 4 inch penis which you see a picture and it looks like a stump, why? Because it has some girth!
When I was first dating my now wife she had just broken up with a boyfriend, something he wasn't quite getting and they were still having sex for a long time all be it less and less frequency over time.
Why is this relevant? She could tell me by how it fit in her hand, I'm 12.5 cm (a little under 5") he was about 4" from her palm guide. She would say early on without malice how she wished my penis were thicker. Her ex was much thicker.
She is honest, I was better in every way, from looks body athleticism. Romantic, foreplay, going downtown, endurance... Everything! Sex with us was about love togetherness and I guess for a while a sense of obligation.
Rare orgasms with me, always with clitoral stimulation. So what some will say but my wife is very orgasmic.
Ex stumpy nob had her coming during intercourse most times.
A few years on I made a decision which eventually became us remaining socially monogamous, sexually I was still monogamous but she is free to .... It's a perfect dynamic but sticking with the penis size... Yes it's true we males are the ones most concerned BUT we are the ones with said penis so I'm sure we know better.
In the beginning I said to wife I would appreciate that the guys she would get with be well hung endowed as it was the one thing I couldn't give her.

When my darling wife has a big thick cock join her... Multiple orgasms, sometimes so many that it becomes touch painful. And NO it's not from the large size filling her.

 

[CuckToWife]

I'm 7 1/2 inches and slender. My wife is very petite and never had kids. She does like to get stretched slighter more than I provide, but not by a huge amount. She also enjoys slightly longer, say up to 9 inches. Anything above that and her "all I need is more lube" claim just doesn't work for her. For anal, she prefers slender. For oral, she's open to any size as long as it's bigger than mine.

 

[Bianca66]

Very many years ago there was a guy in our squad who was the first person to be allowed wear non-regulation swimwear. On our first day in rescue training, he was taking a very long time coming out of the dressing rooms. We all stood around in our budgie smugglers waiting and the instructors got cranky and sent me in to find him and hurry him up. Coincidently, his name was Richard. I found him standing there with a towel wrapped around his waist and he was looking like he was about to cry. I asked him to explain and he dropped the towel. The budgie smugglers could not contain the wedgetail eagle he was packing. I explained the situation quietly to the instructor who did not believe me and got quite upset at the drama. Even he was forced to accept that Richard would not be fitted his richard in the budgie smugglers and after a conversation with the other instructors, it was decided that he could wear swim shorts. A 'cock' sic and bull story about Richard not wearing briefs due to cultural reasons was constructed. (Richard was an islander).

In later quiet conversations with the gently spoken man he explained that it was eight inches flaccid and ten hard. Most impressive. I expressed a wish that mine was similar and he shook his head. In his experience it scared some women off and others treated it like a curiousity. "They all come for the freak show but none stay for the clowns." were his words. His experience was that once word got out many women wanted 'a go' but not much more. That it was too much for many of them on a regular basis. He'd had otherwise healthy relationships end because of it.

Wah wah, poor me, right?

I hope he found someone compatible. That was a long time ago now.

I would love to meet him

 

[Escierto]

I'm 7 1/2 inches and slender. My wife is very petite and never had kids. She does like to get stretched slighter more than I provide, but not by a huge amount. She also enjoys slightly longer, say up to 9 inches. Anything above that and her "all I need is more lube" claim just doesn't work for her. For anal, she prefers slender. For oral, she's open to any size as long as it's bigger than mine.

How does she find cocks bigger than yours? Yours is already in the top 1%.

 

[CuckToWife]

How does she find cocks bigger than yours? Yours is already in the top 1%.

Well, I didn't really think of mine that way, always thought of my cock as 'average'. Simple. She's into black guys. Many of them are bigger than me. Or at least the ones my wife fucks are bigger.

 

[Escierto]

Well, I didn't really think of mine that way, always thought of my cock as 'average'. Simple. She's into black guys. Many of them are bigger than me. Or at least the ones my wife fucks are bigger.

The average black American man's cock is 6 1/2 inches. I don't know where she finds these guys. Are they porn actors?

 

[CuckToWife]

The average black American man's cock is 6 1/2 inches. I don't know where she finds these guys. Are they porn actors?

No, seems she just has a knack for it. None are porn actors, but she finds ones with beautiful cocks slightly larger than mine.

 

[Escierto]

No, seems she just has a knack for it. None are porn actors, but she finds ones with beautiful cocks slightly larger than mine.

She must spend all her time scoping out the bulges in black guys pants! Does she have time for anything else?

 

[CuckToWife]

She must spend all her time scoping out the bulges in black guys pants! Does she have time for anything else?

Ha! Yea, that's her thing for sure. Also, when we stay at nude resorts, the visual is right there to see.

 

[Escierto]

Ha! Yea, that's her thing for sure. Also, when we stay at nude resorts, the visual is right there to see.

I guess if you make it your life's work, they can be found. I have spent a huge amount of time over the years in locker rooms while playing sports. She would love being a fly on the wall there!

 

[LMWM321]

No, seems she just has a knack for it. None are porn actors, but she finds ones with beautiful cocks slightly larger than mine.

There are NO credible studies suggesting Black men have bigger penises. The few studies that do indicate it rely on self reported data which makes them wholly undependable. And even those studies show only a very small difference, which is to say NOTHING like what appears in porn or is described by knuckleheads in Forums.

These days, the perception that Black men have perceptibly bigger penises comes from Porn. In Porn, ONLY black men with huge penises get hired AND mostly for BBC roles where dick size is a feature of the story. Then they are generally paired with smaller women so their penises look even bigger. This is not merely my opinion. This has been dissected and discussed in countless articles and podcasts about porn including those with actual porn performers weighing in on the discussion. BBC porn is racist and anyone who embraces it is contributing to the problem.

As for what you're seeing in your own life... Well, if the dicks you're seeing on Black men in public bathrooms, changing rooms, nude beeches, and one-night stands are bigger than white guys, then it's probably because only Black Men with bigger dicks are putting themselves in those situations. The Black men w/ average or smaller dicks are not.

And Is there really a lot of peeking at other guys dicks in public bathrooms? WTF people!??

 

[artgorden]

The fist time mrs gorden and I had sex she told me size dosen't matter. Latter on I came out to her as bi. Then I told her she could have sex with any man who would let me blow him. We have shared a few men, all picked by her but all had her all with dicks over 9 inches.