*sigh*

[vffan]

Do you ever find it difficult to be submissive? I mean, when your emotions get the best of you. And you know you shouldn't be acting the way you are but you're so spun up with your emotions you just can't help yourself? And then, of course, you get in trouble.



*sigh*

 

[PrimalGirl]

Umm, yes. I have let my emotions eclipse my rationale before as well. It's not pretty, nor am I proud of my actions. All we can do is take a step back, see things in a calmer, less emo manner. I've let my toungue get myself in trouble and been very snappish. Not very submissive behaviour I know, but, we all are human after all.

 

[vffan]

I've let my toungue get myself in trouble and been very snappish. Not very submissive behaviour I know, but, we all are human after all.

That's exactly my problem now.

Umm, yes. I have let my emotions eclipse my rationale before as well. It's not pretty, nor am I proud of my actions. All we can do is take a step back, see things in a calmer, less emo manner.

Good advice. I'm attempting to calm down and not be so emo.

 

[PrimalGirl]

It's something Ive not had much experience with before. I am not usually an irrational or overly emotional person. While I regret my actions, there is nothing I can do to turn back time. All we can do is move ahead, and make amends. My dad used to tell my sister "Think, before you speak" It's good advice- too bad I didn't follow it myself. ((HUGS)) to you VF Fan, I hope all works out well for you

 

[vffan]

Thank you. Me too.

 

[Netzach]

Do dominants always think before they speak?

Is this a particularly submissive desireable trait?

What happens if he says something without thinking? Does it set both of you back?

 

[lil_slave_rose]

Do you ever find it difficult to be submissive? I mean, when your emotions get the best of you. And you know you shouldn't be acting the way you are but you're so spun up with your emotions you just can't help yourself? And then, of course, you get in trouble.



*sigh*

i don't think it's so much that it's difficult to be submissive, i think it's the fact that we're human. and when our emotions are out of control you can't stop what you're about to say. we're human, we all do it. i know for me, it used to get me into alot of trouble. Him and i would be in a heated disagreement and instead of saying things respectfully, my emotions got the best of me and i'd blurt out some comment or whatever, and He'd just go silent and i knew that was a bad sign. but He also understood that i'm not perfect, and once the punishment was put into place, and it was over, it was over. we never dwell on it.

 

[PrimalGirl]

Whenever emotions are high, it's difficult to think rationally regardless of one's label/status. Does it make it any more right if a Dominant speaks before thinking, no not at all. It does happen though- once again- we're human. I do comprehend where the "am I still submissive" mentality comes from. One does not want to be seen as "trying to top" or be cheeky. As far as set-backs, it doesn't matter which party has committed the emotional offense, it's just something you have to work through, and move on...or re-evaluate altogether..

 

[Yasashii_Kaze]

Do you ever find it difficult to be submissive? I mean, when your emotions get the best of you. And you know you shouldn't be acting the way you are but you're so spun up with your emotions you just can't help yourself? And then, of course, you get in trouble.

Wow. I have this problem a lot, but I thought I was the only one. I feel terrible when I'm like this, like I'm being bratty, but I really DO want to behave. The thing is, I've never doubted that I'm submissive or that this is the lifestyle for me, even in my worst moments. I just know that I push a lot of buttons that I don't mean to push. It's frustrating at times.

 

[Netzach]

I guess what I'm thinking is why not try on "how would I feel if he/she was laying an I just FEEL this way! moment on me?"

 

[FurryFury]

I am the sort of person who often freezes at first with anything new. I have some fears and hang ups, it always helps if I have a little notice to get my thoughts and emotions in line.

This is not to say I don't want to do "it." I'm trying to figure out "how" I can do "it."

Often it is misinterpreted at being reluctant. I can understand that but that is not how I see it or what I mean by it.

 

[SouthernDom]

Do you ever find it difficult to be submissive? I mean, when your emotions get the best of you. And you know you shouldn't be acting the way you are but you're so spun up with your emotions you just can't help yourself? And then, of course, you get in trouble.



*sigh*

Personally..............nothing raises my hackles quicker than hot,bitchy mouthing off from anyone,and especially a submissive I call my own.

It is especially aggravating when these outbursts of emotions are not rooted in first person events,but the reasons behind such actions are irrevelant.

Behavior such as this should be addressed and corrected in short order,with hopes that these situations decline in frequency.

It would be unrealistic on my part to expect perfection from my submissive. However, I do demand respect during any conversations that may take place.

I give much respect to anyone I address, therefore I expect that respect to be returned as well..................

 

[catalina_francisco]

Been there, done that, and still do from time to time...as others have noted, we are human and if fortunate, we have emotions. I often cursed being so emotional, but it is who I have been since I was born and it is not only something other people often find touching, but it is something he loved about me, values, and can relate to from his own personal emotionality. It doesn't mean I don't strive to keep it in check, but I am also fortunate he has realised how much a part of me this is and so usually takes the path of trying to understand and work with me on it instead of coldly bringing out the 'you're supposed to be submissive, control your emotions' lecture...he has learned to use them to his advantage, and value them for making me who I am. For that I am eternally grateful.

Catalina

 

[Netzach]

I am the sort of person who often freezes at first with anything new. I have some fears and hang ups, it always helps if I have a little notice to get my thoughts and emotions in line.

This is not to say I don't want to do "it." I'm trying to figure out "how" I can do "it."

Often it is misinterpreted at being reluctant. I can understand that but that is not how I see it or what I mean by it.

I don't think I could get a better description of my husband.

Fortunately for him I'm not hung up on the letter of the law, more the spirit of the law. And like Francisco, I'm interested in finding ways around it and through it rather than just trying to eliminate something that's going to be more damaging and more hassling to eliminate if at all even possible.

 

[Daddyslilpet]

Do you ever find it difficult to be submissive? I mean, when your emotions get the best of you. And you know you shouldn't be acting the way you are but you're so spun up with your emotions you just can't help yourself? And then, of course, you get in trouble.



*sigh*

Yes, I'm human just like the everyone else. Also, not that this is any excuse for such behavior, but I have some medication that I take that effects my emotions in a bad way. There are many times that I'm "set off" without being able to contain myself. Fortunately, Daddy is most times understanding of my medical conditions. That and I usually am apologizing profusely immediately...LOL.

 

[FurryFury]

I don't think I could get a better description of my husband.

Fortunately for him I'm not hung up on the letter of the law, more the spirit of the law. And like Francisco, I'm interested in finding ways around it and through it rather than just trying to eliminate something that's going to be more damaging and more hassling to eliminate if at all even possible.

This is so Rad!

We are married to each other in a strange sort of way!

I totally want to meet you for a honeymoon though.

*winks*

 

[northwoods_sub]

Wow. I have this problem a lot, but I thought I was the only one. I feel terrible when I'm like this, like I'm being bratty, but I really DO want to behave. The thing is, I've never doubted that I'm submissive or that this is the lifestyle for me, even in my worst moments. I just know that I push a lot of buttons that I don't mean to push. It's frustrating at times.

Thank you so much for posting this.

Being so new to the lifestyle I felt maybe I was just doing something wrong, not trying hard enough to please my Sir, etc. I feel so relieved that I am not the only one who struggles with this from time to time.

Furryfury, most of the time I try to think before I act or say something as well especially if it is something new for me. Sometimes my emotions or fear gets the better of me and I end up blurting something sarcastic or with attitude. *sigh*

Just have to say that it amazes me that anytime I start to think about starting a thread about something I am struggling with, all I have to do is read alittle on this board and I find that someone has already struggled with this or is struggling with the samething. I just wanted to say thank you to all of you!!

 

[SubKekiLee]

Do you ever find it difficult to be submissive? I mean, when your emotions get the best of you. And you know you shouldn't be acting the way you are but you're so spun up with your emotions you just can't help yourself? And then, of course, you get in trouble.



*sigh*

Ive been there done that.. Dont like it..
"my mouth and my attitude get me in more trouble than anything else I say or do"

Ha!

 

[BiaTcHiNFiRe]

Do you ever find it difficult to be submissive? I mean, when your emotions get the best of you. And you know you shouldn't be acting the way you are but you're so spun up with your emotions you just can't help yourself? And then, of course, you get in trouble.



*sigh*

I am geting into this kind of trouble quite often lately Nice to hear i am not the only one.....