CutieMouse
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Sigh. It's been a long month
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Like Vixandra said... there's not much to be said here that can help how you are feeling.
It's the major drawback of adding individuals to a relationship. Personally, I can't be in that kind of thing. But I know many who are and who seem to handle it well.
Therefore, I can't speak from experience, really. The one time it happened to me, and there was another woman involved with my Dom, I walked away from the entire thing.
I do think it's a situation that has to be handled slowly and in small steps.
Good luck and brighter skies above you!
It's the major drawback of adding individuals to a relationship. Personally, I can't be in that kind of thing. But I know many who are and who seem to handle it well.
Therefore, I can't speak from experience, really. The one time it happened to me, and there was another woman involved with my Dom, I walked away from the entire thing.
I do think it's a situation that has to be handled slowly and in small steps.
Good luck and brighter skies above you!
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FungiUg
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Hmmm.
My immediate response is be grateful it didn't all fall apart into a screaming heap. Broadening relationships like that will show up a lot of issues that haven't been dealt with, and you're seeing the results of that. Sad, but very human.
The loss of intimacy is an issue, definately. But it's a temporary thing.
Just be there, be open, be understanding, and watch that you're not pressuring people. In the mean time, make friends with your vibrator!
It sounds like you still have communication open with your friends and your "DH" and your friends (my best friends are M&J as well, by the way... but M is male and J is female). Treasure that. And make sure the friendship stays healthy.
That will create possibilites for the future. But give people the space to deal with themselves first. Patience is a virtue, but it's damned hard to do!
My immediate response is be grateful it didn't all fall apart into a screaming heap. Broadening relationships like that will show up a lot of issues that haven't been dealt with, and you're seeing the results of that. Sad, but very human.
The loss of intimacy is an issue, definately. But it's a temporary thing.
Just be there, be open, be understanding, and watch that you're not pressuring people. In the mean time, make friends with your vibrator!
It sounds like you still have communication open with your friends and your "DH" and your friends (my best friends are M&J as well, by the way... but M is male and J is female). Treasure that. And make sure the friendship stays healthy.
That will create possibilites for the future. But give people the space to deal with themselves first. Patience is a virtue, but it's damned hard to do!
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FungiUg
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Trust me... you all enjoyed it, you maintained your friendships and your relationships, and you're not all screaming at each other and in the throes of breakups.
Yep, it was a good outcome.
The trick is, if you can hang in there, it will likely come up again as a possibility in the future.
Yep, it was a good outcome.
The trick is, if you can hang in there, it will likely come up again as a possibility in the future.
