Shyness

[ShyGuy20]

Im a shy guy, 20 yrs old, and a college student. I feel that my shyness is more of a phobia, because i can never get the courage to ask a woman out. I spend all my time fantasizing rather than trying to go out with a woman..

Does anyone seem to have the same feelings, or am I just a dork for asking???

 

[SexyAmber]

Shy Guy

No you aren't a dork. It is much easier to fantasize then to have courage to face rejection. But you need to remember that everyone gets rejected, so just because a girl may say no it doesn't lessen the value of you has a person. Just dust off and try again.

/xo/A

 

[Wiggles]

No, you're not a dork for asking!

What are you afraid will happen?
Is it an unrational fear? Or is it just the fear of rejection?

Rejection is a tough pill to swallow, but it's also really important to realize that not everyone is going to like you. Say you ask out five girls, only one says yes.

Well, your going out with a girl. You wouldn't have been if you had never asked.

If you think your fear is unfounded, you might want to talk to a counselor.

Your still really young. These things will come to you if you can work through your problems, or face the fear.

I hope you find what you're looking for in the future.

 

[Cibo]

I agree with Wiggles.

Me, I'm not the best looking guy out there...but I have confidence. If I get rejected, so what...its not the end of the world. I'll find someone who will like me for what I am. Keep that in your mind.

 

[ShyGuy20]

Thanks

I appreciate the kind words. Though I wonder what about my appearance. I am a heavy guy not HUGE but i got more than a little meat on my bones. I have a build like a football player broad shoulders but a gut.. I feel that plays a part in my shyness.
I find a lot of women attractive, but because of my weight if I ask woman more attractive than I appear what then???

 

[Coven911]

If you get turned down, so what..

Shyguy, if you get turned down so what? The world isn't going to end! You just ask the next lady..and the next, until one says yes. *S*

Coven911

 

[Black_Bird]

It helps to learn how to flirt... to hang out with a group of people and make a few female friends that you feel comfortable flirting with... and talking to.

Flirting is half of the equation.

 

[Cibo]

Well just because you're a little bit heavy doesn't mean a thing. There's more to love then!

 

[SexyAmber]

and one fail safe trick

Women, at least me, love a man with confidence...it's all about the attitude not the looks

/xo/A

 

[Cibo]

**With LOTS and LOTS of cofindence**

Say Amber...are you free tomorrow night? I was thinking we could get together for a dinner and perhaps a movie.

 

[RawHumor]

LOL@Cibo

Actually, the internet can be a great tool for a shy guy. You can get to know a woman (or women, if you'd like) and let her see what you have to offer on the inside. At some point, which you can both figure out together, you can exchange pictures, if you like each other. If you like each other enough, then your looks (or hers) won't matter too much.

I know it's not the cool confident way that others have suggested, but, believe me, women look differently at a guy that has a girlfriend. So, once you get a girlfriend, your confidence will go up. If things work out with her - GREAT. If they don't, then your confidence level should at least be high enough that walking up to a girl that you find attractive shouldn't be so paralyzing for you.

Do I sound like I talk from experience at all? LOL

.oO(Oh no, did I say that out loud?)