Shy Newbie here needs help PLEASE! :)

[LovesIt!]

Hello all!
I would really appreciate your help!
I've been seeing a guy for about a month now and he loves it when I send him naughty text messages to his cell.
He wants me to keep sending them AND start making them more detailed/graphic.
My only problem with this is that I've never done anything like this before. I'm the shy type but he definitely is bringing out the naughty side of me
I would sooo appreciate if someone could help at least get me started with a few text messages to send. I just don't even know where or how to start!
He absolutely loves texts which include a gf of mine in some way. However, other than kissing I'm really not too comfotable even chatting about doin more with a girl just yet *blushes*
BUT I am more than happy to chat about both of us pleasing HIM! hehe
A few of the things I know he likes to read about are:
him spanking me
him being a little aggressive/rough with me
my best friend watching us have sex
then having my friend join in with us

Again, thank you so much for taking the time to help out an inexperienced newbie!

 

[minsue]

Not my thing so I've no suggestions other than maybe look for ideas in some of the stories here? A search of the keyword text came up with a few and you'd likely find more if you searched more specifically what you're looking for.

Good luck.

 

[rikaaim]

Let me be the first to say welcome and I hope you make many friends and enjoy your stay. You'll find lots of helpful people here on Lit. It is a wonderful place to learn and make some great new friends.

As for your question...just write what you feel. When I started writing, the first thing I did was read. You're just doing small text messages, but you may want to turn them into something more to get his fantasy and imagination a little bit more sparked. Start by reading a few stories yourself. I would highly recommend, for your particular situation, stories from:

lucky-e-leven (lesbian/bdsm)

green-gem (masturbation)

vella (lesbian)

Colleen Thomas (lesbian)

boxlicker101 (a general plethora of wicked goodiness )

impressive (lesbian)

Every single author here in the AH hangout is absolutely fantastic. I just think the lesbian stories will give you some girl/girl interactions to keep his mind frenzied.

Also, just text to him a masturbation session. I am sure that that imagry will also send him into a wild fit. Just lay down on the bed one day, take your time, and text to him everything you're doing.

The bottom line, do what you like. You'll find your own natural nitch as far as the factor of arousal. As for the words and the mechanics, read till your hearts content and you'll start to naturally pick up the feel and the nature of the genre. Then you'll be using the words and praphes without even thinking about them.

That's when you're mind will be in the gutter all day long.

Trust me thought, that's not a bad thing.

Welcome again and I'm sure you'll find more than enough material to help you feel not only inspired, but also rather happy.

 

[Halo_n_horns]

Seems to me that you could just build on the things that you know both of you like to hear.

When you text him, don't think about saying to him what you think he wants to hear. It sounds like he's already done that. Find the common ground in your fantasies and text him your wishes and desires.

The only thing that I would caution against is that it's very easy to over-hype what the reality would or will be should the two of you start exploring these things physically. Leave something to the imagination, and to chance. Always hold back just a little.

Otherwise, be the sexual person that you want to be. You should find out rather quickly that shyness only prevents the real fun from happening.

Don't forget to use common sense also. Everyone needs some boundaries so that certain lines don't get crossed. Those lines are defined by each of you individually, but not by one for the other.

Good Luck!!!