Should You?..

[mrdiscreetshh]

Divorce your wife because she does not at all love to worship your cock and orally pleasure you and the overall sexual passion is gone?

 

[KarlMartinK]

Divorce your wife because she does not at all love to worship your cock and orally pleasure you and the overall sexual passion is gone?

No. My wife loves my cock. She worships it and admires it. Even when she's not in the mood, she loves to pleasure me.

 

[oOMinxOo]

No. my husband went from D to a cross-dressing sub. I just get what I need elsewhere. He is otherwise a great husband and father.

 

[Hypoxia]

Depends on the rules of your marriage. (See What Is Cheating?) Is cock-worship and -sucking the basis of your marriage? Does oral sex on your behalf trump every other part of your relationship? If your shared keynote now is hostility or indiference, then yes, divorce. Or take a mistress or concubine or FWB. Pull a Clinton -- fuck around but stay together for convenience. And don't ask us because we don't know you. Ask yourself.

 

[suckonsimon]

So, this is a man who regards his wife primarily as the woman who should suck his cock? - In that case she should divorce him, no?

But let's ignore the first part of the OP question and take only the general situation of the overall sexual passion gone. That's not a reason for divorce; it's a reason for a guy to seek to identify what it is about himself and the way he's relating and behaving that has caused his woman to lose interest in him, and work out how he may change.

 

[mrdiscreetshh]

No. my husband went from D to a cross-dressing sub. I just get what I need elsewhere. He is otherwise a great husband and father.

I can respect that.

Depends on the rules of your marriage. (See What Is Cheating?) Is cock-worship and -sucking the basis of your marriage? Does oral sex on your behalf trump every other part of your relationship? If your shared keynote now is hostility or indiference, then yes, divorce. Or take a mistress or concubine or FWB. Pull a Clinton -- fuck around but stay together for convenience. And don't ask us because we don't know you. Ask yourself.

Very good reading on that link you posted.
I am a very open minded person and all it takes with me is to talk things out.
The wife is not big on communication as I am, so yes we do have many misunderstandings. I am not basing my reaction just on oral pleasure, that's just something I enjoy the most as many other guys do, but for me it is a huge fulfillment going through the entire act of oral pleasure.

So, this is a man who regards his wife primarily as the woman who should suck his cock? - In that case she should divorce him, no?

But let's ignore the first part of the OP question and take only the general situation of the overall sexual passion gone. That's not a reason for divorce; it's a reason for a guy to seek to identify what it is about himself and the way he's relating and behaving that has caused his woman to lose interest in him, and work out how he may change.

I think you asserted a bit too much judgement.
Relationships and marriages are partnerships, give and takes, back and forths, learning experience.. I mean our whole life on this planet would not be possible if there wasn't relationships or relations of one thing to another.
My main frustration is that we have this precious life we are given and only the individual can define what life means to them and what holds the meaning to them solely.
My short and crude question underlies a bigger argument, a bigger personal concern and not just having my cock sucked like she is a slave every day.
People who have been married a long time can respond with more insight and try digging deeper into the meaning of my question.
Of course it takes two to tango, so I know that it takes effort on my part to get what I want and to give her what she wants. However, if she is just not an oral type of person, am I going to just waste my precious life conforming to only her needs when I know I am willing to try and do everything she asks for?
I just want to know why a woman does not like oral sex?
I assure you I have a nice clean cock and at times I want to devour it myself if I could lol, so why won't she?
Believe me I asked her and I get a vague response every time. I just don't think she likes having cock in her mouth, or she does when it is mixed with other sexual acts, but just having that desire to come home and say I want to suck your cock because I crave it? Is that too much to ask?

Sorry for the long reply but I'd appreciate any NON-JUDGMENTAL feedback.

 

[Dotarsojat1696]

Dude, nothing gets my wife wetter than sucking my dick but she won't swallow, she spits. She is about as vanilla as it gets, whereas I am pretty much up for anything. So we are somewhat incompatible in the sack. I knew this by about year two of our marriage and we are closing in on our twentieth anniversary. We've stuck it out and had some good times. I do tend to get my freak on without her when it builds up and she knows me well enough to not ask. However I make sure that I keep it far away from home and never let her know that it is happening. I would love it if she would play with me, kinda release her inner freak but that aint gonna happen so I choose to maintain the charade of a happy sex life and keep my best friend. A fulfilling sex life is a vital part of a marriage but it is not the most vital. The best thing you can do is ask her instead of asking people who are not in the situation, COMMUNICATE. If you have a problem with your sex life and it is leading you down the road to the big D, you two need to decide what the problem is and work on it together.

 

[evest12]

wife divorce

you won't believe this but I just told my wife last week that we need to have sex again...it's been around 5 years with anything, last 2 1/2 non, barely any before that I mean nothing...I just can't go without it any longer, there's no good reason she can't put out....

 

[suckonsimon]

"My short and crude question underlies a bigger argument, a bigger personal concern ..."

Sorry for my late response to your response to mine. I guess I was responding to the shortness and crudeness of the question, as you put it. Not to you as a person or to the situation of your marriage.

Let me suggest that, if you are looking for a fuller deeper discussion of the issues here, a new thread with a carefully worded OP, and perhaps in Darkroom Lounge or in How To, is going to prompt a deeper discussion which would be of help to probably quite a number of Litsters.

Allow me to set out more subtly my own 'take' on your original question. My view and appreciation is that if a wife gives oral to her husband, that is over and above her commitment to him in marriage. Likewise a husband giving oral to his wife. Porn has instilled in us another perception on this, that oral is mainstream and normal and to be expected. But the real-life fact is that a large number of women, and a large number of men, loving and sexual though they are, desirous of intercourse though they are, cannot get into any sense of pleasure with giving oral. For them, an expression of expectation that they aught to will do only one thing: diminish their sexual appetite all round.

As to how a married man with longings not fulfilled deals with that, ... that's where another kind of thread is needed, I suggest.

If my stark first post was offensive or seemed dismissive, please accept my apologies. I'm all for folk enjoying coming to their threads on Lit. I appreciate your care in replying.