should I ??

[rokerjoker]

I am married with 2 children and thngs arent too great at the moment .A woman at work and I have flirted on and off for sometime now , we have a mutual attraction - the other day she said she wanted me and would I agree to have sex with her no strings attached ....what should I do ..........I am attracted to her and we arent kids ........1 night sounds too good to be true......

 

[drew62]

Did you ever see the movie "Fatal Attraction"

 

[NaughtyLil1]

I am married with 2 children and thngs arent too great at the moment .A woman at work and I have flirted on and off for sometime now , we have a mutual attraction - the other day she said she wanted me and would I agree to have sex with her no strings attached ....what should I do ..........I am attracted to her and we arent kids ........1 night sounds too good to be true......

I would proceed with extreme caution.

Why not try to fix what's wrong on the home front?

Just my opinion.

 

[CutieMouse]

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[SweetErika]

Agreed. If you put all of the effort you're spending on fantasizing and worrying about having an affair into your marriage, your life at home could improve so significantly that you won't need the fling.

Plus, your one night stand could and probably will destroy what's left of your marriage...what if the flame gets jealous or word gets back to your wife or to the people at work that you've had sex?

If it seems too good to be true, you haven't thought about the consequences enough!

 

[rokerjoker]

you're right I know ....just needed someone to tell me what I already knew..........but would you ??

 

[SweetErika]

I would absolutely be tempted, but I know the guilt and other consequences would be so strong after that I wouldn't do it. I'm also guessing that my husband would find out (through someone else or me telling him), and thinking of the pain that would cause him is enough of a deterrent in itself.

 

[Lust Engine]

Tempting yes and the sex might even be great but afterwards, how are you going to feel about yourself? How are you going to explain this to your kids later on? How are you going to teach them about not fooling around when you (the IMMEDIATE role model) have already broken that rule??

It's not just about you. You've got kids to consider. Your few moments of selfishness might fuck them over for years to come.

How would you feel knowing your parents screwed around on one another?

 

[CutieMouse]

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[winkyone]

Dude, this exact thing happened to me. It was weird and very tempting as she was super hot and 10 years younger (in her mid 20's). I didn't really persue her, it all just kinda happened. She said, straight up, lets do it.

Of course I declined, being a happily married individual. However, it was very very tempting even though things on the home front were/are fine. I confided in a friend about this for a couple reasons: (1) to get advice and (2) to brag! I actually didn't care about his advice, even though he brought up things like the 50 mile rule etc etc. It was the bragging that boosted my ego and put me in high esteme with my buds (of course I didn't share her name with them). Actually, that experience awakened my own sexual awareness. It was a good thing.

My advice would be to listen to all the girls who have posted on this subject so far....but..... take solace in the fact that you can beat your chest in front of your friends. Man, it's like high school all over.

We are so sad, eh

 

[fgarvb1]

No strings. Thats like free. Free things can cost a person a hell of a lot of everything sometimes.

I assume you are married and male...I don't really know.

What I do know, is that you will know what you did for the rest of your life.

Suppose she starts trouble? Some people tell everything they know or/and everything they do.

What if she gets mad at you or the company?

Does she or you do this sort of thing often?

Suppose you bring something home?

Adventure is one thing, risking everything for free sex on the QT is another.

 

[catalina_francisco]

The perhaps obvious question might be how would you feel if it were your partner in your position? Presumeably if the marriage is not going great, your SO is also not blissfully inclined......work it out with you two if possible then if that doesn't work, end the marriage before starting anything else.

Catalina

 

[doncarlos]

Winky, what is the 50 mile rule?

 

[sheath]

The perhaps obvious question might be how would you feel if it were your partner in your position? Presumeably if the marriage is not going great, your SO is also not blissfully inclined......work it out with you two if possible then if that doesn't work, end the marriage before starting anything else.

Catalina

That's always my rule of thumb when I consider doing something "questionable"...what if my SO did it? Would I be upset? If the answer is yes, then it's not something I should do, and I don't. Period.

So...ask yourself that question. And make your choice from there.

If you find you wouldn't really give a damn one way or the other, then your marriage is already in much more trouble than even you think it is.

Good luck to you...



S.

 

[winkyone]

Winky, what is the 50 mile rule?

It means if she (or he, depending on your sex and preferences) lives within 50 miles of you...forget it!

I'm not advocating this, just shedding light on a saying. I'm thinking it would have to be 50 light years away! I'm not into green chicks from other planets though.