So I am a 19 yr old guy who likes bdsm nothing too much like, beat me till I bleed... And I like everything except cock and ball torture,needles, blood... I'm semi bisexual meaning I would like to be kinky with a man as long he's not like morbidly obese or anything, but I find my self wanting a relationship with a full blown hetro woman or maybe even a hermaphrodite....I have never been kinky with anyone but myself.. I have never had any vaginal sex with any woman but I have had anal sex with a cute African American at an oldly young age at her house...i also had my first sexual experience with her too.. She jerked me off in a sand box at daycare during the summer... I have Ben with a man and I have sucked him off and he has blown in my mouth and I have blown In his... I fucked him in the ass... I want to know so far i have only had 2 gifriends.. the one was the previously described black girl and one cule blonde girl with freckels(which is a turn on) really if I should find a dominatrix or if I should wait to find me a girl who is as the rapper boondox says is a "freak bitch" (which is something outside of a session I would never dare call a girl).. Because with me I talk to lots of girls and we have fun and what not and a lot of them never end up out right saying no to a relationship, they just say that their lives are too hectic or something and they end up moving away and we still talk but they talk for a lot longer with me but a little bit less often then we did before she moves... So are dominatrix's worth the money or not....? Or should I not do it and should I wait for a girl who loves me and I feel the same about to do it with me/ to me..?
Should I wait for a gf or are doms worth it
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Tryharder62
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I feel so old saying this but wait to find someone you can explore with together. Don't go so fast that you miss the chance to connect with another human being. You can get sex all over the place but that connection of a "friend" makes all the fun memorable. Just my opinion.
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I say, go to a Domme if you have the money. Watching yor posts around and about, your biggest problem is that you try to be an expert when in fact you have no experience-- and you really want the experience. Later, if you find a woman who wants to explore with you, you can do that too.
Just be really honest with the domme that you go to. Don't tell her you've done things that you have not done, tell her you haven't done them but you want to try. You'll have a much better time, I guarantee it.
Just be really honest with the domme that you go to. Don't tell her you've done things that you have not done, tell her you haven't done them but you want to try. You'll have a much better time, I guarantee it.
Kellydude666
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Go for the Domme
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Hey, hey, don't go confusing pro dommes for the rest of us kinky bio-females who like topping guys (and others). If I was the OP's domme, I would be his friend aaaaaaand his nightmare.
Thing is, seems people like me are fairly rare. I've had the pleasure of running into a few genuine women who share my sadistic streak, who provide great conversation and entertainment, and frankly, most of them are taken. Yeah, there is the pro domme route. If you got the money, get some experience the good ol' hard way. Is it worth it? You can decide that yourself, right?
Or you can hold out. You're 19. That's young, still. You've got time to form a relationship with someone who's into topping. You've got time to make, break, have your heart broken, and do it all over again. So take it easy, meet people, treat them as people, and well, I don't doubt you won't find people interested in at least trying kinks on once. Sure, some people are heavily prudish, or they NEED to submit or they NEED to dominate, but a lot are just regular plain ol' kinksters too. Think about it. Think about yourself. Do you NEED to submit? Or do you just want kinky sex? Because if that's what you want (which is fine!), a pro domme might not be the way to go. I would instead look for someone who wants a relationship including kinky sex, who wants to be on top. If you really need that submissive urge scratched right now, then yeah, maybe go for it. But otherwise I'd hang on.
There's no shortage of people out there in this wide world.
leighannste17
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It's important to do your reading. Before you go into this sort of lifestyle. Don't feel bad, I'm fascinated with the idea of being a Dom. I always wanted to find a mistress to teach me the ropes of it. I think it would be awesome. My only problem is, I'm only into women as teachers, rather then lovers. I'm a heterosexual, so dick has always been my thing.
If I had to be her sub for awhile, I wouldn't mind, I live with an older woman, she's like my mom, she orders me around constantly. But she has her reasons for it. Older women are amazing teachers. I'm not talking about a woman my age either, I'm only 28, I still have my learning to do with it. But if you find a woman of her 40's, count yourself lucky because they can teach you a lot about how to talk, what to wear, how to be a gentlemen in public. They are very brilliant. Not all of them are, but for the most part they are great about teaching you things, that I wouldn't have even thought of doing.
I should know, my roommate taught me all of that, I'm getting more mature with age, but I still have my learning to do with it.
She's taught me all kinds of things my real mother never taught me at all. Like today, if I don't do the dishes, before she comes back, there will be hell to pay.
Good luck to you though!
If I had to be her sub for awhile, I wouldn't mind, I live with an older woman, she's like my mom, she orders me around constantly. But she has her reasons for it. Older women are amazing teachers. I'm not talking about a woman my age either, I'm only 28, I still have my learning to do with it. But if you find a woman of her 40's, count yourself lucky because they can teach you a lot about how to talk, what to wear, how to be a gentlemen in public. They are very brilliant. Not all of them are, but for the most part they are great about teaching you things, that I wouldn't have even thought of doing.
I should know, my roommate taught me all of that, I'm getting more mature with age, but I still have my learning to do with it.
She's taught me all kinds of things my real mother never taught me at all. Like today, if I don't do the dishes, before she comes back, there will be hell to pay.
Good luck to you though!
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So should I just keep going out and doing my thing and talking to girls I bump into to find a girl who's kinky and would be my girl friend...or should I put my self out there on a bdsm personals site and see where that takes me...?
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