Should I post?

[oceaned]

I'm a long-time reader here, but not so much of the forums, so please move this post if it's in the wrong spot.

I've been writing erotic stories for several years now. Some are based on real-life, or near real-life experiences, and most involve my wife. Some reach further into the fantasy world. I would love to share these with a larger community and get feedback. And, hey, if I can turn on a few people in the process, all the better

But my personal challenge comes in that I would like to share this experience with my wife. Posting this kind of 'from the heart' kind of stuff behind her back is exactly the kind of 'sneaky online stuff' that's landed me in hot water before.

However, we've had an up-and-down sex life, and it's currently in a trough. I've slowed down writing new stuff recently, but have instead been refining some older works. I think I've good a half dozen or more decent stories ready to publish now.

Anyway, my question to the group -- how should I handle this? There are many options -- waiting out the trough, posting anyway, letting her know I'm writing and want to post, and various permeations. The last option is of course the trickiest, but likely the best. Of course, starting that conversation could be tricky.

Any opinions or suggestions?

 

[sr71plt]

I'd say you are asking the wrong people. Especially as you seem to have a history behind this, I think the first and only person you should be consulting is your wife.

 

[Stella_Omega]

I'd say you are asking the wrong people. Especially as you seem to have a history behind this, I think the first and only person you should be consulting is your wife.

I'm inclined to agree.

You might be able to suggest to her that you'll file off the serial numbers-- her name, yours, the city they take place in. Submit them under a pseudonym and they will have no links to you or her.

 

[sun_sea_sky]

I think a number of people here haven't told their partners that they write for this site. However if you post something I would make damn sure that it isn't obviously you and her, if someone happened to draw her attention to it. Like, if she stumbles across your computer one day when you are out/sick/whatever and finds you have been posting. Not too bad. But if she looks at what you have posted and it is obviously yours and her life story, without permission, bad.

Pure fiction should be OK, that is, something that clearly didn't happen in real life. Or, if it is your life, sufficiently disguised that you could say "no, no, that was just a fantasy".

If you are getting on reasonably well with her, I would discuss it with her. Maybe say something like that it is an outlet for your sex drive or something.

 

[TinyBeth]

Agreed. At first I was nervous to tell my husband that I was writing, but he not only accepted it he was happy. Talk to her.

 

[oceaned]

Thanks for the feedback folks. The challenge at the moment is that she's in a low point but my mind/fantasy world still runs at 100 mph. Bringing up the subject at all has a little risk to put her off. She's read a couple things before and liked them, but that was years ago.

The names have been changed to protect the innocent, and nobody beyond me and her would have enough details to connect the stories to anything real. So I'm not too worried about that side.

I mostly write when I travel and stuck in hotel rooms, so maybe the next trip in a couple weeks will provide an excuse of sorts to bring it up again.