should I, HELP, or would I regret not doing it

[assmenow]

I'm happily married and have great sex. (not as often as I would like to but...)
My wife loves anal when she's in the mood (extremely intense orgasms) regular sex, again when she's in the mood which I try to get her often (in the mood) and giving oral in the shower because that's where I cum quickest. This whole thing I described might be once every 2 weeks. I on the other hand wonder what all these different areas would feel like if the rolls were reversed. I don't consider myself gay or Bi but would like to experience the feelings at least once in my lifetime. There is this guy who is well hung with 8" who wants me to suck and be screwed by him but I know nothing about him other than he says he is very clean and not getting it at home. Should I try it? I know this sounds crazy but has anyone else gone down this road?

 

[bifocal]

Try not?

If I were you, I would sit him down and contemplate that question with his cock in your mouth. It should all seem pretty clear by then.

If you've never tried cock, how do you know you don't absolutely love it?

 

[azsaguaro]

I'd hate to let a nice 8" cock go to waste, so I'd at least suck him and see if I'm interested in taking it any further. Like up my ass.

If you're already thinking about it, you'll probably regret it more if you don't.

 

[human_male]

Personally I wouldn't if I was in a relationship. And there are dangers with meeting anyone you don't know for sex.

 

[liv2lik]

I gotta chime in here. I'm a married guy and I share all the curiosities that you speak of. The difference is that a few days ago I decided to give it a try. I gave my first blowjob. I totally loved it! Perhaps its just a novel fixation, but, it was everything a vulva is not.
If you are concerned about feelings of guilt afterward, I'll tell you this. I woke up the next morning thinking about how hot it was when he came in my mouth. I ended up stopping by for a follow up visit to further my tutorial. I'm glad I did it and I'm a little sorry that I did'nt do it sooner.
It did'nt change my life, but it was a lot of fun

 

[KokopelliRises]

Does your wife know about your fantasy? That's be the first question I'd ask. Talk it over with her if you haven't already. Maybe she'd be okay with it.

I guess I'm a little old-fashioned when it comes to things like this, but I don't think cheating is such a great thing to do (especially on a person you are "happily married" to) and that's what it sounds like you're contemplating doing.

If you were single I'd say go for it, but your marital status prevents me from advocating that path now.

 

[slutsophie]

Does your wife know about your fantasy? That's be the first question I'd ask. Talk it over with her if you haven't already. Maybe she'd be okay with it.

I guess I'm a little old-fashioned when it comes to things like this, but I don't think cheating is such a great thing to do (especially on a person you are "happily married" to) and that's what it sounds like you're contemplating doing.

If you were single I'd say go for it, but your marital status prevents me from advocating that path now.

I agree with this 100%. In my case I am married and my wife is aware of my desires to give a guy a BJ. We are not into involving others in our play, but she is interested in this desire, supportive of it and curious of my reaction when the guy explodes in my mouth, Actually, she is going to arrange for it to happen.

My advice if you love your partner, tell them and see where it goes. You might be surprised.

Sissy Sophie
sissysophie.blogspot.com

 

[doorman1227]

I think you should try it.Why waste the rest of your life wondering what it would be like. It may not be what you imagine but at least you will know.

 

[nowitzki41]

its not worth your marriage

 

[lostsoul1974]

I can't say either way.

I am married, quite happily, for 11 years now. She knows I am bi, and doesn't seem bothered by it.

Our sex life has always been an issue, tho. She doesn't want to make love very often (2-3 times/month). I want it 3-5 times/week. So we compromise and have sex 2-3 times/month.

Long story short, I used this as the rationalization for having anonymous sex with men at an adult bookstore. The first few times were having my dick sucked, then I graduated to sucking a dick or two before getting off (it was a BIG beautiful dick that made me decide to blow someone else). I have done this dozens of times now, getting more involved with the act each time I go.

This all culminated this past weekend in an overnight trip to the bookstore where I play. I ended up sucking one guy to completion through a gloryhole, and then three other men sucked or were sucked by me in the "theater" room during the two hours I was there.

I always feel a build up of the lust for weeks, even months, until I cannot take it any more and head off to the "playground".

Afterwards, I am always wracked with guilty feelings. I cannot meet the wife's eyes when I first get home. I am a liar, cheater and all around scoundrel. I feel terrible about my weakness. I feel lousy for cheating on her. I feel terrified about stds. I am horrified that she and all my friends will find out that I am not really the uber-macho guy that they think I am.

In my opinion, it ain't worth it. It can cost you everything, even self respect.

In fact, I swear off cock after every BINGE I go on. To be honest, I get closer and closer to really giving it up each time too. I feel disgusted with myself for being so ruled by my basic nature that I actually found myself kneeling in a puddle of old cum in the middle of a dark x-rated theater sucking on some old man's dick while another man I have never even seen has walked up and is now rubbing his dick on my cheek. I was grossed out even then (but I still kept sucking). I didn't leave until I knowingly let some disgusting old troll suck me off.

Don't do it. Stick with your wife.

And, dear god help me get it right this time.

 

[erodream351]

xxxxx

 

[neon_noodle]

Hey, you're not a bad person. You haven't hurt anyone, or made the world a worse place. You just have an addiction that you can't control.

Please find someone to talk to about this - friend, therapist, counseling, whoever you trust. Get some help, and find out what is driving you to do things that you arn't comfortable with. Best wishes and PM me if you need someone to talk to.

I am married, quite happily, for 11 years now. She knows I am bi, and doesn't seem bothered by it.

Our sex life has always been an issue, tho. She doesn't want to make love very often (2-3 times/month). I want it 3-5 times/week. So we compromise and have sex 2-3 times/month.

Long story short, I used this as the rationalization for having anonymous sex with men at an adult bookstore. The first few times were having my dick sucked, then I graduated to sucking a dick or two before getting off (it was a BIG beautiful dick that made me decide to blow someone else). I have done this dozens of times now, getting more involved with the act each time I go.

This all culminated this past weekend in an overnight trip to the bookstore where I play. I ended up sucking one guy to completion through a gloryhole, and then three other men sucked or were sucked by me in the "theater" room during the two hours I was there.

I always feel a build up of the lust for weeks, even months, until I cannot take it any more and head off to the "playground".

Afterwards, I am always wracked with guilty feelings. I cannot meet the wife's eyes when I first get home. I am a liar, cheater and all around scoundrel. I feel terrible about my weakness. I feel lousy for cheating on her. I feel terrified about stds. I am horrified that she and all my friends will find out that I am not really the uber-macho guy that they think I am.

In my opinion, it ain't worth it. It can cost you everything, even self respect.

In fact, I swear off cock after every BINGE I go on. To be honest, I get closer and closer to really giving it up each time too. I feel disgusted with myself for being so ruled by my basic nature that I actually found myself kneeling in a puddle of old cum in the middle of a dark x-rated theater sucking on some old man's dick while another man I have never even seen has walked up and is now rubbing his dick on my cheek. I was grossed out even then (but I still kept sucking). I didn't leave until I knowingly let some disgusting old troll suck me off.

Don't do it. Stick with your wife.

And, dear god help me get it right this time.

 

[limplizzard]

Quit wasting time and do it, hell you might find that it is even more enjoyable than your wife.

 

[bifocal]

What a great discussion: The guilt wracked on one side and the lustfully guilt-free on the other. Don't know where I weigh in on this one, but an glad to have read your opinions.

Is masterbation disloyal? I don't know, but I hope not. I used to feel really guilty when I masterbated. That was when i was younger. Used to not be able to look people in the face the next day. Now... hell it's a fact of life and I love loving myself. Doesn't seem to be any of my wife's business.

But I have strong cravings to be with another man's cock. Oral, manual, anal, I don't know but I am anxious to try. Will I feel guilty? I don't know. I get close and pull away. Someday I'll go through and see.

I hope I never meet a troll to make me feel so ashamed.

 

[kalalau]

I love being with men and I'm "lustfully guilt-free" with it. Acting on my bi feelings has increased my happiness level substantially!!

 

[Bill3250]

To: lostsoul1974

Sex every 21/2 weeks? That doesn't sound like a happy marriage to me, unless you're pushing 100. For the first thrity years my wife and I had sex virtually every night. After that we tappered off to three or four times a week, mostly oral which I prefer giving and receiving.

 

[good_bi]

my feelings exactly

 

[tonethebone]

I hid my bi feelings for 15 years before acting on them. And the only reason I did was because my closest friend of 20 years was in the same boat. The details I've posted before. But let me tell you this, I kick myself in the ass for not doing it sooner

Did I tell my wife? No.

Why not? I'm still working on it.

I say find a close friend and give it a try.

 

[bipat69]

I think you should tell your wife your feelings. Much easier when things are in the open.

 

[bi_asian_guy]

*****

 

[good_bi]

 

[bi_asian_guy]

*****

 

[bi_asian_guy]

*****

 

[ms.read]

Our sex life has always been an issue, tho. She doesn't want to make love very often (2-3 times/month). I want it 3-5 times/week. So we compromise and have sex 2-3 times/month.


Hmm.... that doesn't sound like a compramise to me.... thats sounds like the wife is just getting her way with you.