should i go for it

[bifemukuk002]

firstly i am bi but havnt been with a women for a long long while i am interested in a woman friend and i know shes is interested in me i have had four kids and feel consciuos off my body i feel i am not attractive my husband and friends husband wants to watch us having sex but wat if it all goes wrong i would have to face them as our kids go to same school as my kids i want to do this but am afraid off being laughed at if it goes wrong wat should i do my husband says i am attractive and should go 4 it ?

 

[firefighter02]

I have always lived with the rule that if I wasn't comfortable with it, don't do it.

Having said that, perhaps doing it without an audience would be a place to start, then inviting the drooling masses in would be ok if things went well.

Best of Luck!
FF

 

[sheath]

firstly i am bi but havnt been with a women for a long long while i am interested in a woman friend and i know shes is interested in me i have had four kids and feel consciuos off my body i feel i am not attractive my husband and friends husband wants to watch us having sex but wat if it all goes wrong i would have to face them as our kids go to same school as my kids i want to do this but am afraid off being laughed at if it goes wrong wat should i do my husband says i am attractive and should go 4 it ?

If you have any questions about it at all, don't do it.

I'm wondering...was this YOUR idea, or your husband's idea?

S.

 

[bifemukuk002]

this was my idea my hubby is up 4 it though its also my fantasy

 

[sheath]

this was my idea my hubby is up 4 it though its also my fantasy

In that case, start slow. Start with maybe going to a strip club with your woman friend...going to a porn shop...something to help ease you into a sexual relationship. Then rent a hotel room out of town and go for it, just the two of you. If you are comfortable with each other, then allow the men into the game as well...just move slowly. SLOWLY. That's the big thing here.

Good luck...

S.

 

[Cazper]

I have to agree with the above statements... obviously this is coming from the other viewpoint me being male and all. But I feel that going slow and starting off with just the two of you would make for a much more comfortable environment. Have you discussed it with your female friend? What are her feelings about it and or you? It could be a very interesting thing for both of you... but if gone about the wrong way could turn you off of it for good. Good luck

 

[WallyLlama]

It probably doesn't matter...

But I'm confused about who wants to watch. (Besides me )

I thought it was the friend's husband who wants to watch. I don't know that it makes much difference, really, because I agree that a lot of caution is in order here. It sounds complicated and I sense some vulnerability. If it's the friend's husband who wants to watch... well, that makes it potentially more of a "recruiting" thing than a case of two women being attracted to each other.

No matter, as others have said - do nothing until you are absolutely certain you're ready.

 

[lovechild27]

why do the husbands have to watch?

 

[houseman]

why do the husbands have to watch?

In my opinion, if I am not in the room to watch or participate, I consider it cheating.

 

[lovechild27]

In my opinion, if I am not in the room to watch or participate, I consider it cheating.

good point

if that is the case I would say dont do it if your so uncomfy with the idea...

 

[houseman]

good point

if that is the case I would say dont do it if your so uncomfy with the idea...

Now, my true feelings are that I wouldn't be bothered at all if she wanted to explore on her own if it was with another woman.

More often than not I'd like to be invited to watch/participate but I actually wouldn't consider her a "cheater" if she wanted some alone time without me there.

I have no jealousy issues.

A
Edit: mistype.