Should I give my girlfriend a hall pass.

[Massagemanwpg]

My girlfriend and I are late 40s. We have an incredible sex life. I’ve told her that I would like to have another man join us some night. I’m Bi curious, she is pretty straight.

She recently told me about meeting a guy who is in town for a few days. She clearly enjoyed his company. I suggested that she may want to go for a drink with him while he is in town. She didn’t say yes or no.

In thinking about going a bit further and telling her that she is welcome to sleep with him if she wants to, provided she tells me about it after. I just have a feeling she would enjoy this. Am I being stupid?

 

[cubbyfire04]

My girlfriend and I are late 40s. We have an incredible sex life. I’ve told her that I would like to have another man join us some night. I’m Bi curious, she is pretty straight.

She recently told me about meeting a guy who is in town for a few days. She clearly enjoyed his company. I suggested that she may want to go for a drink with him while he is in town. She didn’t say yes or no.

In thinking about going a bit further and telling her that she is welcome to sleep with him if she wants to, provided she tells me about it after. I just have a feeling she would enjoy this. Am I being stupid?

I wouldn't lead with  telling her she is welcome to sleep with him. If it's something you're serious about (and I mean very serious about), I would  ask her if that's something she's even serious about. Without being accusatory or sounding jealous...

"Hey babe, you know it really seems like you enjoyed (this guy's) company. Are you interested in something more with him?"

 

[curioustxn]

My girlfriend and I are late 40s. We have an incredible sex life. I’ve told her that I would like to have another man join us some night. I’m Bi curious, she is pretty straight.

She recently told me about meeting a guy who is in town for a few days. She clearly enjoyed his company. I suggested that she may want to go for a drink with him while he is in town. She didn’t say yes or no.

In thinking about going a bit further and telling her that she is welcome to sleep with him if she wants to, provided she tells me about it after. I just have a feeling she would enjoy this. Am I being stupid?

I have no doubt she would enjoy it, but will it lead you to what you want. If you want a threesome, that has to be your objective. If you give her a "hall pass", it could lead to her finding someone she likes better than you. Then where would you be?

When you told her that you are bi-curious, and you wanted a threesome with her and another man, what did she say?

 

[Massagemanwpg]

I wouldn't lead with  telling her she is welcome to sleep with him. If it's something you're serious about (and I mean very serious about), I would  ask her if that's something she's even serious about. Without being accusatory or sounding jealous...

"Hey babe, you know it really seems like you enjoyed (this guy's) company. Are you interested in something more with him?"

I appreciate your advice. I think your suggestion makes a lot of sense. I’m going to try it. Thanks again for responding.

 

[jckontharocks]

I appreciate your advice. I think your suggestion makes a lot of sense. I’m going to try it. Thanks again for responding.

How did it go?

 

[Bbeeler707]

any updates?

 

[incest_gets_me_hot]

My girlfriend and I are late 40s. We have an incredible sex life. I’ve told her that I would like to have another man join us some night. I’m Bi curious, she is pretty straight.

She recently told me about meeting a guy who is in town for a few days. She clearly enjoyed his company. I suggested that she may want to go for a drink with him while he is in town. She didn’t say yes or no.

In thinking about going a bit further and telling her that she is welcome to sleep with him if she wants to, provided she tells me about it after. I just have a feeling she would enjoy this. Am I being stupid?

Do you trust your girlfriend? The thing is that once that genie is out of the bottle, it can be very difficult to get it back inside again. She might enjoy it too much if you know what I mean. And she might loose respect for you too. No offense meant, but I have seen this happen a lot.

 

[Massagemanwpg]

any updates?

We are continuing to explore the fantasy. She seems to be more and more excited by the thought and our sex life seems to be better than ever. We have been using a couple of dildos to enhance the fantasy combined with increasingly dirty talk about another guy.

 

[Bbeeler707]

Nice it sounds like you guys are on the right track

 

[Massagemanwpg]

I have had several threesomes and they are the most erotic sex ever. As you explore your fantasy more, try this…. When you are making love and your cock is deep in her pussy ask her to close her eyes and imagine that the cock in her belongs to the man she has the hottest sexual fantasies about. Use his actual name and then thrust as hard and fast as you can. When she has an orgasm, think how it compares to others you have given her. Then set plans to make one happen. I could not believe how good it was when I had my first one.

I love this idea! Thanks for the great suggestion.

 

[TarnishedPenny]

I might suggest that, after making love sometime, in that happy snuggle time, you let her know that: a) you love her and treasure her and want to make her happy and b) you trust her and c) you’re open to and are willing to accept almost anything she’s interested in. Let her take it from there. Be receptive, not suggestive.

Good luck.

 

[Dreamer110]

Oh just give her the hall pass. Trust me, when she gets home you'll both love the reclaiming.

 

[Dcoppered270]

My girlfriend and I are late 40s. We have an incredible sex life. I’ve told her that I would like to have another man join us some night. I’m Bi curious, she is pretty straight.

She recently told me about meeting a guy who is in town for a few days. She clearly enjoyed his company. I suggested that she may want to go for a drink with him while he is in town. She didn’t say yes or no.

In thinking about going a bit further and telling her that she is welcome to sleep with him if she wants to, provided she tells me about it after. I just have a feeling she would enjoy this. Am I being stupid?

No, you are not stupid. That is actually a very hot concept and I just posted a similar question. Rest assured, you are not alone in this quandary. If it were me I would give her the hall pass but with some restrictions.

What I would suggest based upon my limited experience and research on the Hot Wife lifestyle is that you encourage her to go ahead and arrange to fuck the guy (assuming you both want that) but to make it a short term event and NOT spend the whole night. She should also be willing and able to verbalize all the intricate details on the coupling to you afterward (I assume you would want that) which many consider to be a very hot 'thing'. The objective here should be straight forward sexual pleasure on the part of all involved, NOT a new long term love affair. Hopefully you can become comfortable enough with time to have a MFM threesome with both of them, that would be the ultimate if I were you.

How does that sound????

Coppered1660@outlook.com

 

[Dcoppered270]

Oh just give her the hall pass. Trust me, when she gets home you'll both love the reclaiming.

 

[Dcoppered270]

I agree with dreamer101. That would be my ultimate fantasy!

 

[lc69hunter]

I have always believed in hall passes. Not as a license to screw around. Just a license to occasionally scratch an itch (for both parties). My second wife and I went to different conferences and conventions. For those not aware there are many women there without their husbands, and many men there without their wives, many of both looking for a little strange. It was a given that both of us had hall passes when we went to one. A one-off like that is not a threat to a marriage. In fact, it can spice it up if done right