She's no longer there...

[ABSTRUSE]

Very sorry to hear that sweets.

 

[Liar]

I was prepared for the event - in August she let me know she only had months left; it was the way of discovering that it had happened that hit me in the guts: an impersonal 'account does not exist on this server' email bounce message in reply to mine trying to tell her of some good news (I've been accepted on a course to retrain - yet again - to teach Physics). There I was, bouncing with excitement, and expecting to hear her rejoice for me, then...

I'll put all your flowers into a wreath for her.

Yes, that's one thing that is chilling about this digital areana of connections. There is no human toug´ch to the system except what peers provide. And often, that's email adress the only means of contact you have. And when it's cut...there is no way left of finding out exactly what is going on. Lost a good friend a few years ago in a similar way...mails started to bounce, and all I had to go on was a very common name, and assorted references to his life. It took me two weeks of detective work to find out that he had been killed in a car accident. It's a shitty way to find out.

Here's more for the wreath. Both for you and your friend.