She's no longer there...
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rgraham666
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Jesus, I'm sorry, fifty.
*HUGS* for you.
*HUGS* for you.
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Colleen Thomas
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Condolences fifty 
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fifty5
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Thanks, my friends.
I never met Roberta, but she was a kindred spirit who helped me on numerous occasions.
A fortnight ago I went to an aunt's funeral - but I knew she was old; and the presence of other people (both family and friends) at the funeral let me know that I was part of many who will miss her. And her daughter, my cousin, rang me to let her know. Sadness, but in community.
In both cases, there was genuine affection and love - and in both cases the event wasn't entirely unexpected - but for my aunt I had the opportunity to express my sorrow and to share it with her/my family.
With Roberta, I sometimes exchanged messages several times in a week, sometimes it was months between - we're were both involved with other things. To send a message, get it automatically bounced, then read her blog, saying, two months ago, that she wouldn't post again, shocked me far more - and I am alone: I never knew any of her friends or family.
Thanks again for your sympathy - and to the AH for giving me the opportunity to voice my grief.
I never met Roberta, but she was a kindred spirit who helped me on numerous occasions.
A fortnight ago I went to an aunt's funeral - but I knew she was old; and the presence of other people (both family and friends) at the funeral let me know that I was part of many who will miss her. And her daughter, my cousin, rang me to let her know. Sadness, but in community.
In both cases, there was genuine affection and love - and in both cases the event wasn't entirely unexpected - but for my aunt I had the opportunity to express my sorrow and to share it with her/my family.
With Roberta, I sometimes exchanged messages several times in a week, sometimes it was months between - we're were both involved with other things. To send a message, get it automatically bounced, then read her blog, saying, two months ago, that she wouldn't post again, shocked me far more - and I am alone: I never knew any of her friends or family.
Thanks again for your sympathy - and to the AH for giving me the opportunity to voice my grief.
Tom Collins
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Your loss saddens me to tears. Other's pain always trips a tender trigger in my heart. es
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I'm sorry.
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so sorry!
dr_mabeuse
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I worry about the same thing. What if something would happen to me and no one would know, or what if something happened to an online friend? The anonymity of the web cuts both ways.
Did you try googling on her name? If something's happened, it might show up.
My deepest sympathies, fifty.
Did you try googling on her name? If something's happened, it might show up.
My deepest sympathies, fifty.
fifty5
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Thanks again...
... to all.
I did google, but all the traces left refer to things she did before her health went down the tubes. Current things, like her blog, have simply disappeared - presumably because she no longer pays the relevant subs...
I was prepared for the event - in August she let me know she only had months left; it was the way of discovering that it had happened that hit me in the guts: an impersonal 'account does not exist on this server' email bounce message in reply to mine trying to tell her of some good news (I've been accepted on a course to retrain - yet again - to teach Physics). There I was, bouncing with excitement, and expecting to hear her rejoice for me, then...
I'll put all your flowers into a wreath for her.
... to all.
I did google, but all the traces left refer to things she did before her health went down the tubes. Current things, like her blog, have simply disappeared - presumably because she no longer pays the relevant subs...
I was prepared for the event - in August she let me know she only had months left; it was the way of discovering that it had happened that hit me in the guts: an impersonal 'account does not exist on this server' email bounce message in reply to mine trying to tell her of some good news (I've been accepted on a course to retrain - yet again - to teach Physics). There I was, bouncing with excitement, and expecting to hear her rejoice for me, then...
I'll put all your flowers into a wreath for her.
rgraham666
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Add one from me, fifty.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
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We had a friend online who was terminally ill... he had written emails as "goodbyes" to online friends, and had his girlfriend send them out postmortem. It was a little strange, but also very beautiful to receive that letter, to know that he was gone...
my heart goes out to you... it's hard to not be able to say goodbye.
