She loves me, she loves me not!

Angel

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All I can say is talk to her.
Being a woman, I can tell you, most likely you aren't the problem.
Maybe she's feeling unattractive for some reason, or maybe something is stressing her that is causing her to turn away.
She could just be having a lull..I've gone through a phaze where I really didn't feel like putting the effort into having awesome sex everytime, and even once when I had no desire at all. She could feel this way but be still wishing to please you and give you pleasure even though she's not in the mood.
Of course she might be bored, or as you said cheating, but don't automatically jump to that conclusion. You really need to take her out to a nice dinner and have a quiet evening talking or something. Show her you care and let her talk to you.
 
I am having a problem with sexual relations with my wife. We have been married for 7 years, together for 12. I love her more then anything and really enjoyed sex up until a short while ago.

Problem is, she used to be relatively kinky and enjoyed sex and showed that she enjoyed sex. We have experimented with toys, had numerous 69's and went as far a doing it outside.

Now, it seems like she just wants to get it over and done with. She lays down in bed with her back to be. Reaches behind, fondles me then points it to her pussy and pushes back to get me to enter.

I try to touch her, kiss her, hug her, instigate fourplay in other words. I would love to go down on her but she doesn't give the opportunity.

What is wrong.

I am really starting to take this too heart and starting to feel self concious. I have a 6 inch pecker, is this too small to be enjoyed? Is she messing around? Does she not love me no longer? Someone please tell me what i should do!.
 
I'll take a stab at this one.

Wish-I-Knew , I have been married for almost 13 years now and learn every day. I love my wife more and more everyday and sex has never been better but like a fair amout of the older folks here will say there are ups and downs , alot can make this happen .
In our house there has been times I was not intrested in sex and the wife thought it was her.I went through a kidney transplant and had no sex drive at all then I was transplanted and the darn pills would cause low sex drive.
Stress is a big cause also my wife has suffered from this .....the i'm not intrested deal, but like Angel stated talking is the key !!! Talk to her see whats up maybe try something different !!!
Don't know if you guys have kids but we have two and the kids maybe on her mind..hell it could be anything......

I assure you it is not the "I have a 6 inch pecker" hell all the girls here will tell you that is just stuiped to say that!!

We have done the toys, Bondage, inside outside, you name it we have tried it or may.

Maybe plan a nice weekend getaway at a hotel where you can be alone and get crazy....I like that one some time without the kids just my wife and I.

Now I'm babbeling so thats just my advise hope it helps some.

Just work through it man , I think this happens from time to time with alot of folks.
 
I have to agree with wizard, communication is the key to identifying and solving the problem. Maybe the two of you talking heart-to-heart can figure it out. You may have to resort to a professional, marriage counsellor, sex therapist, etc.

From your post, it's obviously bothering you and she needs to understand that as well. It will seriously undermine the realtionship if it's not resolved. She should be aware of that but you need to make sure she knows.

And by all means, when you try to talk to her, don't frame it so she can interpret it as if you're blaming her for something. Address your concerns to her in the quietest possible venue and in terms of kindness and understanding.

Best wishes toward resolving this situation.
 
It doesn't sound like you're the problem to me. If she really wants to salvage something of this relationship then I think she should work with you--perhaps a counselor might be in order. However, if you try and work and do everything you can think of to make things better, and she still doesn't want to play, then I say walk. Life's too fucking short to waste on another human being who doesn't respect you.
 
My best advice to you is listen to the rest here and talk to your wife she may be feeling something that you are not aware of and she doesn't know if you care enough to be informed of take some time and talk to her about how she is feeling maybe she is feeling overwhelmed right now or unloved. Even though it is not true a lot of women go through this it is just sometimes we need to be told that we are important and that you do love us. It may be an insecurity and as you said you have had a great sex life and I am sure you will continue just give her some time to open up to you and work it out together.

Maybe try planning some time alone with the her where you to can be alone to just talk and get back the life you two
have just take it slow and don't rush her she will be more open to discuss it with you if you are understanding and willing to listen no matter what. Don't be judgemental and try to be loving and caring as possible I am sure she loves you very much and she may be just going through something that is hard to explain. So take it easy and I hope you get everything resolved good luck to you and your wife.
 
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