Sharing

[PoetessEm]

I am curious from a male perspective if/what a guy finds erotic about seeing his significant other with someone else. I am looking for intelligent conversation, not smut. But if you feel you can add something intelligent to the conversation I would really like to hear from you. Especially those that have experimented in this. Granted I think it is extremely erotic, but I would like to know what the driving factor is for a guy.

I would also be curious to hear from other women that have either dabbled in this, or fantasized about it. I have recently experimented with it and would enjoy a dialogue with any / all perspectives.

 

[Kinkster101]

"with someone else" has so many connotations. The most I have done is let my lady flirt with other attractive males or guys with a sense of arrogance in a social situation but only if i could keep an eye on her. It gives me this feeling of an incredible rush that she has an immediate wooing effect over these guys... they want her, she knows they want her, i know they want her but i also know they cant have her and she is mine. Its hard to put it into words. And online I have ventured a little more deeper..

 

[blooflame]

I think, for me, it's not the sharing of _her_ per se, but the voyeuristic (with attendant aural and olfactory stimulation too) aspects of it.

 

[flasubm]

This is a big fantasy of mine. I want to see my wife enjoy something(one) new. I want to watch her from the sideline as she takes and enjoys a new and strange cock. If you want to get more into more details, pm me and we can talk about the little details I find appealing in this area

 

[Opedia]

I don't think my man would enjoy seeing me with another man but I also think it depends on where he sees us. Sex with someone you love can take on many angles but it is dangerous to share what you have with another. I think it will ultimately ruin the intimacy.

Sorry for not staying on the task of your question.

 

[eroticardr]

Sharing her was one of the most erotic things a I have ever done! AND watching was so amazing, if there wasn't a woman already getting me close, woudl've made me cummmmm immediately!
It's not for everyone, but when it's right, it's SO right!!

 

[synr1999]

My wife and I...

I would have to say that I encouraged my wife to explore. I played a lot before we were married and, aside from kissing a few guys, she had never been with another man. I wanted her to experience that. It was the biggest turn on for me and still is. I love seeing her pleased, I love watching her cum, and she says it turns her on to have me watch her.

 

[LindsayRae]

You may find This thread interesting. Cutie asked the men their opinion.

 

[PoetessEm]

Very interesting takes on this. LindsayRae, thanks for posting the other thread, I hadn't seen that - it's very interesting to me.

 

[readinggp]

What turns me on about the idea is my wife being sexual, after years together I feel sometimes that she may be doing it just to please me, rather than for her own actual sexual wants. So if she were to go out and find her own sexual satisfaction I find that erotic.

And for me, I'd rather hear of the details after rather than be there. Knowing that she was doing what I was imagining would be so hot, then to hear the details after from her while I got to enjoy her is the ultimate turn on.

 

[JayinCA]

I haven't seen my wife with another man, but I've seen her with another woman (and participated), and it's sooo hot. Obviously, I think she's beautiful and sexy, and when we're having sex and her face is flushed and her lips parted, it is such a lovely sight, it turns me on even more. When she is playing with someone else, I can see it from different perspectives, different angles, even pull back from the action and let them go to town on each other. I love watching her take pleasure in raw, physical sex. I love seeing her mouth on another woman's breasts (especially if she's on one and I'm on the other). And another woman can do things to her that I can't--she can't take my entire fist, for instance, but she can a woman's smaller one, and it makes her cum and squirt like nothing else. And the sight of a woman eating my cum off her breasts or out of her pussy is just heavenly.

Threesomes in general are a lot of fun, but sometimes the fun is in standing back and watching her enjoying erotic play.

 

[LindsayRae]

Very interesting takes on this. LindsayRae, thanks for posting the other thread, I hadn't seen that - it's very interesting to me.

I'm glad you could enjoy something you hadn't previously seen.

 

[Ken65B]

watching

I have always enjoyed seeing my wife enjoy sex. Either alone or with others. You must have self confidence to see her have sex with others. If you think that swinging will heal a bad union, you could not be more wrong.

 

[PoetessEm]

True

Thoughts go through a person’s head. Such as I wonder if this is to somehow show what it is like to be with another… or see what I am like with another.. perhaps a look to the past of what I was like with others.. Or perhaps, it is to erase the curiosity factor..

There are many bizarre and erotic points of view one can take from the whole experience. Not to mention what provokes all sorts of emotions – before, during, and after! It was VERY intense doing it. Honestly I think my reality check was not sure if it was really happening or not. And after…hmmm.. as erotic as it was, the occasional emotion comes over a person such as “did he just offer me to his friend”.. and so on.

Bottom line.. it is VERY erotic. Probably not for everyone.. and leaves you asking more questions than answers it provides!

 

[bearsrams35]

My perspective

For me the eroticism is driven by the fact that I'm a giver. To share her, to see receiving pleasure from another is just a gift that brings me great pleasure.

Now honestly we've not gone down that path in reality though she is quite aware of my 'fetish' to share her. The fantasy of it has provided some of the hottest sessions for us in our 13 years of marriage. She is likewise heavily arroused by the thought of it but alas we've not found the right playmate.

And his my perspective (minus any 'smut'.)

 

[PoetessEm]

Although unplanned, and a little off the cuff. Back in early May I did end up going all the way with my bf's best friend while he watched. It was more sensual erotic, but indeed mindblowing that it happened. I think the underlying eroticism is that it kinda felt right.

I heard some on a forum I can no longer find - say something about 'primping'.. I find this interesting. He had asked me to get a wax prior to this, and got a very cool lingerie for the encounter.. I am guessing.. this is primping of some sorts. I just find it a turn on.