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[43nascar]

how can i get my wife to have sex with another man. she loves role playing. and loves reading about it. could she be afreid of the way her feelings might change
after. i love her with all my heart
and i would like to do this for her if she wants to do it. help. please thanks

 

[Lynxie]

Do a search for posts about threesomes and swinging - there have been tons. I think you'll find some ideas and suggestions that'll help you out.

 

[Bobmi357]

Your wife has a truly legitimate concern. There are a lot of things said in the throes of passion, which in the clear light of day never come to pass. And for your wife this may be one of those things.

For every couple on this board that has experienced some sort of threesome, you will find 10 others that have not, or have and have come to regret it.

Introducing a third party to your duet can seriously interupt the dynamics of your relationship. This is not something to jump into lightly, nor should your wife do this just because you want her to do it. I have never wanted this myself, and fail to understand those that do. But if you're going to do this, you better be damn well sure you both are capable of handling this, both during and after or your relationship could suffer for it.

For myself I have never seen any appeal in watching some guy boff my wife. In fact I'd probably knock his block off well before he got started. The intimacy we share is something private and something that I alone can give her and she alone can give me. To add a third party to the mix cheapens the act. Point in fact I'd feel the same way about a MFF. I'm man enough to admit I would be sorely pressed to satisfy two women simultaneously.

But thats just us. My wife (fortunately for me), feels the same way about this issue. Those that can engage in this and manage to keep their marriages on an even keel are, I think, the lucky few. I suspect that for every one couple that tries this, there are a fair amount that try it and fail to hold together because of it.

 

[MissTaken]

Talk with her about her interest.

Sometimes, fantasies should remain fantasies to enrich your own sex life.

 

[MissTaken]

In response to your poll, when I was single I did sleep with a friend's husband with her permission.

Now, neither of us have any desire to fuck anyone else. We have engaged in soft swinging, but no fucking. Further, our "swinging" is not about making him happy or making me happy. The focus of swinging is on us, as a couple. It is something we share and use to enrich our relationship. I think a mistake some people make when they enter into swinging is to do so to meet the needs of one or the other, not both.

Some even swing to try to "save" a marriage by allowing some outside interaction. This is a big mistake.

You have to keep your relationship with your wife as the first priority.

 

[millieteases]

I voted maybe - but that's firmly in my fantasy life.

You don't get your wife to do anything.

You discuss with her your fantasies and desires, and listen to her tell you hers if she wishes to do so.

And then you set boundaries and respect them.

And, from time to time, you might review those boundaries and try things.

But on this one, I'd wait for her to express an interest before even thinking about it.

 

[JoseIsWild]

It depends on how well we know each other. If we all feel comfortable then probably so.

 

[Meat Whistler]

Talk with her about her interest.

Sometimes, fantasies should remain fantasies to enrich your own sex life.

I tend to agree with this train of thought.

In addition, do you really want to "talk" her into doing this or would you rather her come to you with her interest in realizing the fantasy? I suggest allowing her to come to you, rather than pushing the issue.