Sexually Frustrated?

[dr_mabeuse]

This may be naive, but do you think that most of us who hang around on Literotica are sexually frustrated in one way or another? Is sitting down at a computer and taking the trouble to write out and edit and submit a story something a sexually satisfied and complacent person does?

By 'frustrated' I don't necessarily mean that we aren't getting any or we aren't getting enough. You can have a complete sex life and still be frustrated. Maybe you're not getting eactly what you want, or you have nagging fantasies.

What made me think about this was an incidence of outraged feedback someone got on a Loving Wives story in the Story Feedback board. She posted some of the feedback, and they were of the general, "What a whore that woman was. Her husband should shoot her and divorce her," and I started thinking, "Well, what do you expect of someone hanging around on a porno site reading fuck stories? This guy can't exactly be a whiz with the ladies."

And then it occurred to me that I hang around on a porno site and not only read fuck stories, but I write them too.

Are we all slightly bent around here or what?

---dr.M.

 

[minsue]

Yes

 

[ABSTRUSE]

You could be on to something there doc!

 

[pop_54]

What Mother Goose said


Serious note though Mab's, over active minds and the guts to do something about it I think could sum a lot of us up. I can't speak for everyone, but I've had more than my fair share of the real thing, having gone through the 60's and 70's as a single sexually mature male, and then marrying a very sexually active young woman 10 yrs my junior to boot, (she'll love the way I put that over).

You're right about the idiots who come to a porn site then complain about the content, Ummm... Mr Angry... if you find tales of debauchery with married women disturbing... don't fucking well read loving wives tales.

There are a lot here with a higher than average level of intelligence and learning, people who just crave to use their skill and write something... anything... and have it in print as it were, just happen to like writing about sex that's all.

As for some of us being twisted up, of course some of us probably are, but I prefer the term dysfuntional bunch, to gang of perverts.

pops......................................

 

[Guest]

I'm rarely sexually frustrated. When I feel aroused I know what to do if I'm alone, and often enough I just ignore it. I don't read for stroke so I don't read much here. As for the AH I enjoy a few persons' ideas, and sometimes get interested enough to post my own.

Before Lit. I only occasionally read erotica. I have a good life in reality, and as long as the virtual one doesn't get boring or difficult I'm glad to have both.

Perdita

 

[rgraham666]

It's been 12… no 13 years since the last time I got any. So of course I'm frustrated.

In fact I'm mad, mad I tell you! Muhahahahaha!

 

[SeaCat]

It's been 12… no 13 years since the last time I got any. So of course I'm frustrated.

In fact I'm mad, mad I tell you! Muhahahahaha!

Join the club, I haven't gotten any since this afternoon and I'm more than mad. (Mad as a hatter?)

Honestly though, what's the definition of sexualy frustrated?
I write about things I have participated in, or would like to participate in. Maybe all of us write about things we wouldn't tell our spouses or S.O.'s we want to do, maybe we don't. I know that I do.
There are times even with the most liberated couples when you have a hard time bringing up a subject with your S.O. Writing can bridge that gap. I can write about something and my wife will say, "Hey that sounds like fun" or she could say "That's something I would never do." Either way it openes up another avenue of talking. Sometimes my wife will bring up a story line and have me write it out, then change it around to her point of view. Again this opens up another avenue. (Very few of my stories have appeared here. Most I don't think are good enough to post.)
As for me being sexualy frustrated? Nah, I prefer the title Twistedly perverted.

SeaCat

 

[dr_mabeuse]

I hate to hijack my own thread, and I think this has been discussed plenty before, but it seems that the “Loving Wives” category attracts more than its fair share of “troubled” people, and I just can’t help wondering what sort of person goes to a porn site and reads porn and then complains about the characters’ morals. I mean, isn’t that like going to the opera and complaining about all the singing? Or are they really just looking for stories of fine, upstanding, wedded sex?

I doubt that last one, so what’s going on? Then I had an image in my mind of some angry guy who’s wife or girl has left him for another man, poring over the site not for erotica, but for stories of revenge, where the bitch gets what’s coming to her, and getting really angry when he sees stories where the woman totally gets away with it.

Anyhow, that made me wonder about what the average reader was really like. I’m not talking so much about people on the AH board, who generally do more socializing than they do pornographyzing (you know what I mean), but the general Literotica reader. It just seems to me that they porobably aren’t that successful in their sexual lives, otherwise they wouldn’t be wasting time here.

---dr.M.

 

[SeaCat]

I hate to hijack my own thread, and I think this has been discussed plenty before, but it seems that the “Loving Wives” category attracts more than its fair share of “troubled” people, and I just can’t help wondering what sort of person goes to a porn site and reads porn and then complains about the characters’ morals. I mean, isn’t that like going to the opera and complaining about all the singing? Or are they really just looking for stories of fine, upstanding, wedded sex?

I doubt that last one, so what’s going on? Then I had an image in my mind of some angry guy who’s wife or girl has left him for another man, poring over the site not for erotica, but for stories of revenge, where the bitch gets what’s coming to her, and getting really angry when he sees stories where the woman totally gets away with it.

Anyhow, that made me wonder about what the average reader was really like. I’m not talking so much about people on the AH board, who generally do more socializing than they do pornographyzing (you know what I mean), but the general Literotica reader. It just seems to me that they porobably aren’t that successful in their sexual lives, otherwise they wouldn’t be wasting time here.

---dr.M.

You know Doc. You could very well be right. Some of the comments I received about a story I posted on Loving wives were quite surprising. (My story was about a woman who thinks she's cheating on her husband, but finds she's cheating with her husband.) Many of the comments were along the lines of How could he be amused by her trying to cheat on him? Or why would he allow her to do so? At first I couldn't figure out where these people were coming from, maybe now I know? (The most humorouse comment I received from this story was an E-Mail I reveived. It was from a male who wanted to know if my wife wanted to cheat on me with him. Heather almost died laughing when she read that one.)

SeaCat

 

[Guest]

going along with dr's hijack

I truly think that Lit needs to add two categories....

cheating wives

and

impregnation

my reasons are fairly simple:
We have alot of loving wives stories that are not really loving wives but cheating wives or fucking for revenge or whatnot... wouldn't that be better suited in cheating wives then in loving wives...

the other... well there are alot of people that want to read about impregnation... enough said

as for the topic...
I think that we are all highly sexed individuals to actually read the site... those of us that actually write for Lit... well... I am sure there is some bigger title for us

 

[Mysteryjj]

I hate to hijack my own thread, and I think this has been discussed plenty before, but it seems that the “Loving Wives” category attracts more than its fair share of “troubled” people, and I just can’t help wondering what sort of person goes to a porn site and reads porn and then complains about the characters’ morals. I mean, isn’t that like going to the opera and complaining about all the singing? Or are they really just looking for stories of fine, upstanding, wedded sex?

I doubt that last one, so what’s going on? Then I had an image in my mind of some angry guy who’s wife or girl has left him for another man, poring over the site not for erotica, but for stories of revenge, where the bitch gets what’s coming to her, and getting really angry when he sees stories where the woman totally gets away with it.

Anyhow, that made me wonder about what the average reader was really like. I’m not talking so much about people on the AH board, who generally do more socializing than they do pornographyzing (you know what I mean), but the general Literotica reader. It just seems to me that they porobably aren’t that successful in their sexual lives, otherwise they wouldn’t be wasting time here.

---dr.M.

Why don't you just say it as it is Doc, they're a bunch of wankers with little or no real sex life

 

[NoJo]

I was really frustrated when I joined lit. I'm not anymore. In fact I have no reason whatsoever to be here. In fact I'm waiting for a couple of bouncers to escort me gently but firmly out into the street , where I will resume my habit of accosting passing strangers and explaining arcane aspects of science to them. Like fractal geometry, how to make an A-bomb, and how the universe is topologically equivalent to a donut.

 

[Green_Gem]

Originally posted by dr_mabeuse

'Anyhow, that made me wonder about what the average reader was really like. I’m not talking so much about people on the AH board, who generally do more socializing than they do pornographyzing (you know what I mean), but the general Literotica reader. It just seems to me that they porobably aren’t that successful in their sexual lives, otherwise they wouldn’t be wasting time here.'

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Doc, I think the average reader is pretty 'average' in terms of his/her sex life. Coming to Lit is a way of living vicariously through the stories. I mean, getting immersed in a story that explores your favorite fetish or fantasy can be very sexually satisfying, especially if you have no way of realizing those fantasies in real life. Hell, you can even find fantasies you didn't know about and are more exciting than even your wildest ones I look at the number of readers who are fascinated with the Incest category and that just tells me that there is lots of 'taboo' appeal there. I don't for one minute think that the majority of people who read that stuff, and get off to it, actually participate in or condone incest, but there must be some kind of secret nasty sexual thrill that can be enjoyed while looking in on it otherwise it wouldn;t be so popular.

I must admit that the Loving Wives category remains a mystery to me. I simply don't understand the reaction that so many of the stories evoke there. Maybe there are some deep insecurities that lurk in the people ( husbands) who get so freaked by them. It might be that they look at their own situations and fear/wonder if their wives would ever contemplate what the 'loving wives' do. Lets face it, a lot of those stories have the cuckolding theme, the wife is bored with her sex life, or wants to get things spiced up, the 'other man' or 'men' are always hung like horses. They're able to make the wife climax endlessly, and, to add insult to injury, the authors often throw in a big black dude with the mammoth dick.


I have a story unfolding that will go there ( without the cuckolding or the big black dick) but frankly, after getting two nasty feedbacks to a recent Non Consent story that I submitted, where I was berated for 'condoning' forced sex and rape, I dont know what to expect when it goes up. I can't explain why people are drawn to stories that they know will upset or offend them. It's way to big for me to understand.

Green_Gem

 

[Liar]

Are we all slightly bent around here or what?

---dr.M.

Everyone in the world is slightly bent sexually frustratred and more or less perverted. Of the people who I have an insight into their sex-life, I'd say that I'm the least unbalanced one.

I'd say the people that come here are not more sexually frustrated, or even more sexually deviate, than anyone else.

#L

 

[shereads]

And then it occurred to me that I hang around on a porno site and not only read fuck stories, but I write them too.

Yes, you do. Thank you!

 

[Guest]

 

[Guest]

I may be in the minority here, but Lit acutally improved my sex life. ...

Ditto for me, but not for the same reasons.

I look at it this way (at least for most of us I know, here on the AH). I don't think many of us are sexually frustrated, but I do think we have much higher than average libidos. Sex is like a drug to me, and I'm addicted. I really cannot get enough. I'm just relieved my man has got the stamina to keep up with me.

Lou

 

[rgraham666]

The lucky dog!

 

[English Lady]

I don't think in general that I am sexualy frustrated and if i am posting here on the threads I am probably not achingly aroused,Im just out for some intellectual stimulation or a bit of a good flirt.

If I am writing or reading erotica I probably am slightly frustrated ie hubby is asleep and I am awake and horny. Its not a mass frustration its just a little of the "hear and now I want it but I can't have it so I need to distract myself with something" frustration.

I am pretty certain i'm not an average visitor to lit though. I wonder how many read the stories and never venture onto these boards? I know I was reading lit stories years before joining the forums.

 

[Black Tulip]

Sexually frustrated? Yes, of course!

The good part of it is that we all seem to be able to sublimate. Aren't we clever little devils?
Venting our excess sexual energy in a way that provides entertainment for the masses, however moronic they/those (?) may be.

Has it improved my sex life? Definitely: a treasure trove of stories and a constant stimulus to my imagination.

 

[neonlyte]

To begin to answer the Doc's question, you need to put yourself into the mind set of a first time visitor to Lit. something many of the posters on AH might find difficult to recall with the passage of time.

It can probably be assumed that a first time visitor, unless seriously seeking specific erotic catagories, is looking for sex in their lives - for what ever reason. Loving Wives sounds like a nice gentle introductory way into the world of erotica, i.e. love and sex.

Perhaps they are 'shocked', the cuckolding and 'betrayal' not what they were expecting at all by the Loving Wives tag.

Once in, it is 'open season', does a desire to be wilfully critical replace the sexual desire that brought them here in the first place?

NL

 

[shereads]

I may be in the minority here, but Lit acutally improved my sex life.

Lalalalala...

 

[oggbashan]

Writing stories for Literotica has improved my sex life because more of it happens in my brain. Not everything (or anything?) I write turns me on, but some of my writing seems to turn others on. That I find erotic.

I don't find reading other people's stories erotic. I spend too much time thinking how I would have written that story or wondering whether the story inspires me to write. That makes it difficult for me to give feedback. By the time I have read the story I have too many ideas about further development, alternative plots, different methods, to assess the story fairly. A good story is the worst of all because it stimulates so much thinking on tangential matters. Even a bad story with a clever premise can do that. Once that happens I can no longer comment on the story objectively.

I made the mistake of writing a story for the 'Loving Wives' category that was about a loving wife. How naive can you be? It was panned.

Og

 

[Black Tulip]

Lalalalala...

Tiny threadjack: nice to see you again She.

 

[Sunnie]

This may be naive, but do you think that most of us who hang around on Literotica are sexually frustrated in one way or another? Is sitting down at a computer and taking the trouble to write out and edit and submit a story something a sexually satisfied and complacent person does?

That's an excellent question. And under regular circumstances I would say, Absolutely. However I know that in my case, most of my submissions (or ideas for submissions, since I've only got 6 ) are exact replicas, edited-for-content, or very loose versions of my own personal encounters. In every one of my stories where it mentions the female main character having a boyfriend, that's me and my husband.

Secrets! haha. But, my Teacher's Pet series is sort of an outlet for an unfulfilled fantasy... See, my hubby used to be a high school teacher, and he was teaching at around the same time I was in high school. We always giggled to each other that if he had ever been my teacher (as it happened, we were on opposite ends of the state), I would have tried to seduce him, and he would have let himself be seduced. So, the Teacher's Pet series was born.

Anyway. Bottom line is, I firmly believe in "you write what you know", and that's exactly what I do.

As an aside, Doc, you're one of my favorite Lit authors, I've read a few of your submissions and I got hooked. I don't know if I ever commented, but WOW.