Sexual Pace-Setting

[lucky-E-leven]

[threadjack] Lucky! Gawd, I've missed you, woman! [/threadjack]

Awww... That just made my night.

I've missed you too, sexy. (Lovin' the new AV, btw.) Life's running at hyperspeed these days, and until I get on that plane this Friday, it doesn't look like it's going to be slowing down at all. Not really any time for sleep, let alone for Lit.

One little tidbit of good news, though. I got my letter of candidacy for the Nursing Program at school today. If all goes well at my review, I'M IN!!! *crosses fingers*

~lucky

 

[cloudy]

I'll go throw some tobacco around in the morning for you, babe.

You'll do fine, I know you will.

 

[Dar~]

I lost my virgintiy to my husband. I can say that in our relationship the sex has become more mundane. We started off makinglove whenever we could, wherever we could. Now its more prdictable. Don't get me wrong the spice is still there, but the rampant,raging,all-encompassing, romance book, thirst for it is gone. We've actually gone a couple of weeks without it.
One downfall for me is that as I get older I realize my tastes are a little more . . . expansive than his. I am definitely the less traditional of the pair. THis at times turns him off. I think its great that I am my husband's one and only and that he is mie, but at times I wish that I'd had more sexual experiences before him, just so I could have tasted what I now only fantasize about..
If that didn't answer your question, I'm sorry.

 

[elsol]

I'm sexually goal-oriented... with that goal being "She lets me do it again!"

Therefore, I'm off the Chris Rock School of Letting It All Hang Out.

Thus I have a preference... it's called the Holy Trinity.

She gets an orgasm from my hands, then from my tongue, and from my dick.

This hopefully gets her thinking in a couple of ways.

a) "Hmm... okay, he can be in charge... A LOT!"

b) "I don't really like him, but there's something to be said for a guy that you KNOW can get the job done... his number needs to go in the super-secret special section of my book that none of my friends have access to."

c) "It gets better?!?"

As for me... if she can't have all three orgasms then more than likely we're not psychologically compatible.

By that I mean... I trade orgasms for the important things in life

1) Control of the Remote
2) Being allowed to play video games in peace
3) Time alone with my porn (in this is included the right to look at a particularly fine pair of boobies while walking the mall)
4) "I don't want to be friends with your friends!'


Sincerely,
ElSol

 

[Poussin]

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[DrFreud]

1) I prefer books, you can have the TV
2) As long as there is a computer and a game console we can both play in peace. I'll let you play if you let me play.
3)We can synchronise your time alone with my time alone (and I do need a lot)
4)Good I like to keep my friends for myself! This means you can keep yours as well. I'll agree to smile and be pretty for them once in a while if you need to brag and show me off but I'll negotiate something else in exchange.

Now that I've agreed to all your conditions how to I go about finding one like you?

* stunned silence *
Poussin you are too good to be true. Also you need an AV.

 

[Poussin]

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[Joe Wordsworth]

How much do you feel the first sexual encounter with a new partner sets the pace for your future sex life?

I mean, if it's slow and tender, does that make it harder to break bad later on? Conversely, if it's up against the wall fucking ... or in public ... or some other non-mundane thing ... does that make the gentle stuff less likely? (Do you even care?)

In your relationship history, what has been the trend in this regard? With hindsight being 20/20, how would you prefer a NEW sexual relationship to begin?

I think it sets the pace pretty authoritatively. Something awkward and unpleasant might ruin the desire for more intimacy, giving fewer chances and esteem-building events to correct the problem with. I think that if it's intense and kinky--that's best.

I think it'll make even "vanilla" sex excellent.

The trends in my relationship history has favored fairly intense and creative sex at the onset--I'm not shy and I'm kinda dominant, so it's often upon me to initiate and carry the "moment". I don't mind, though, it means I get to do what I like. And I like perverse things.

 

[English Lady]

I have only had one first time, it was 8 years ago and I'm still with the guy now.
I had all my firsts with him, my first sexual experience was with him in public(ish) under a chestnut tree in the park, a bit unusual I guess. Our first time was long, slow and loving. Lots of foreplay and massage oil and bloody hell it was fantastic!

We made love and every time we fuck we still do. It's not always long and drawn out or slow and sensual but it's always loving. We always make love in many different guises. Even when he calls me slut and whore and such wonderfully evocative names he does it lovingly (weird eh...but it's true. I know he does it 'cos I love it!) and when he's spanking me (or vice versa) it never feels anything but loving.

It's addictive. Sex has always been an important way of showing each other love and so it's still a very important part of our relationship. SO yeah, maybe the first time did set the tone a bit.

Now I'm gonna think of Joe in combination with perverse things.

 

[impressive]

I think it sets the pace pretty authoritatively. Something awkward and unpleasant might ruin the desire for more intimacy, giving fewer chances and esteem-building events to correct the problem with. I think that if it's intense and kinky--that's best.

I tend to agree with you, Joe. If it starts slow and tender, it's harder to shake it out of that mode -- especially if your partner is "reserved" -- unless, of course, you've just connected with your soul mate. Then, anything & everything are possible.

 

[Softouch911]

I'd have to say no, it doesn't set the pace for the future sex life. It might but... had I not gone back for a second helping and relied on my first sexual encounter with him, I would have missed out on the best lover I've had so far. That would have been a shame.

We had known each other for a while and he really liked me. As a result he was so intimidated the first time that he couldn't stop shaking and the more he shaked the more embarassed he felt and, of course, at one point I just burst out laughing. I swear I wasn't laughing at him but it was just too much, I couldn't help it. Turns out there was something that would pass between us when having sex that I never found again with anyone else, it was raw, intense. We seemed to trigger and bring out something in each other that was otherwise burried so deep, that's the best way I can put it, Sorry!

Even though the relationship was a mess, I'm glad I gave the sex another chance.

Wow -- that, with appropriate character devel. and identity burial, sounds like a terrific EC story! (Or have you already done it and I just missed it.)

Softie -- liking what life give you

 

[Softouch911]

I think that in general men are pretty much sexually compatible with just about anything that walks upright .... Ewwww! How could you?" And we guys shrug our shoulders. "Why not?")

--Zoor

Thinking about that "walking upright" requirement. Hmmm.

I recall a time in teen years when a fence post with a hole of the right size would have been fine in an emergency. And given that females were pretty much unavailable there were frequent emergencies for ... mmm... my friends. Sigh...

Softie ... good longterm memory

 

[rgraham666]

Thinking of a line from Buffy.

Xander: I'm a seventeen year old boy. Linoleum makes me think about sex.

 

[elsol]

Thinking of a line from Buffy.

Xander: I'm a seventeen year old boy. Linoleum makes me think about sex.

Which is better than the fourteen-fifteen, where there didn't need to be a cause...

Your dick just got hard.

Sincerely,
ElSol

 

[Softouch911]

Which is better than the fourteen-fifteen, where there didn't need to be a cause...

Your dick just got hard.

Sincerely,
ElSol

And then there was that time just a little younger ... 13, 14 ... when you didn't even know what caused it.

Poor little Rosalyn Gabbert "developed" a little early (around 12), sat ahead of me in school ... She was forced to wear a uniform front button white blouse that was open about to the top of the breast bone ... and no one at her house ever thought to buy the poor kid a bra.

My gawd, every boy in grade 6 must have been walking around with a woody (as we called it then). I know I was ... I sat behind her and every time I stood up and she was leaning over to write on her desk, or every time she turned around to say something too me ..... and I remember wondering why my pants felt so damn tight.

That summer my dad took me out to watch the horses. And by the next year all the boys understood what was happening to Rosalyn -- nothing sophisticated, mind you, but it was clear -- "She's got tits!!!"


Softie -- thinking maybe cold weather causes it.

 

[Poussin]

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[TheEarl]

I don't mind, though, it means I get to do what I like. And I like perverse things.

<sniggers> I do like your ability to bring out that kind of line Joe.

The Earl