Sexual Intimacy
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LukkyKnight
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Sharing which arouses.
Sensual intimacy, such as massage, does not necessarily have the same affect on desire.
Sharing need not be physical contact even though you specified intimacy. If the intent or effect is sexual arousal, as from a suggestive look across a table or a crowded room, and it is not part of some public exhibition but a connection between two, it is intimate to my way of thinking.
Intimacy is the cessation of the barriers one erects between self and others. Intimacy is open trust, the honest communication on all levels, encompassing much more than sexuality. In most cases for a (close, loving) relationship to thrive intimacy is more important than sexuality, but sexual sharing is often indicative of the health (for want of a better term right now) of the overall intimacy.
Sexual intimacy is a look that tells, a caress that excites, and at its best when one finds one's own arousal is tied to the arousal of one's partner.
Sensual intimacy, such as massage, does not necessarily have the same affect on desire.
Sharing need not be physical contact even though you specified intimacy. If the intent or effect is sexual arousal, as from a suggestive look across a table or a crowded room, and it is not part of some public exhibition but a connection between two, it is intimate to my way of thinking.
Intimacy is the cessation of the barriers one erects between self and others. Intimacy is open trust, the honest communication on all levels, encompassing much more than sexuality. In most cases for a (close, loving) relationship to thrive intimacy is more important than sexuality, but sexual sharing is often indicative of the health (for want of a better term right now) of the overall intimacy.
Sexual intimacy is a look that tells, a caress that excites, and at its best when one finds one's own arousal is tied to the arousal of one's partner.
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Bravo, LukkyKnight. I am in complete agreement. Stimulate my mind and the rest of me follows. <Toasting LukkyKnight and thoughts of intimacy>
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My personal definition would be:
being able to be totally open w/ a receptive partner about your sexual needs and desires. being able to trust someone totally in a sexual manner. being totally in tune w/ another person. i've been learning a bit about tantric sex, that interests me & i feel may be a path to a higher level of sexual intimacy.
your question about whether i am happy w/ the inimacy level in my relationship- I wish it were higher. We have great sex, and do connect on some levels, but there are things i would like to explore that don't interest my husband.
being able to be totally open w/ a receptive partner about your sexual needs and desires. being able to trust someone totally in a sexual manner. being totally in tune w/ another person. i've been learning a bit about tantric sex, that interests me & i feel may be a path to a higher level of sexual intimacy.
your question about whether i am happy w/ the inimacy level in my relationship- I wish it were higher. We have great sex, and do connect on some levels, but there are things i would like to explore that don't interest my husband.
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Sexual Intimacy..............
Mmmm. I would have to say I think more on the physical level.
Hours and hours of foreplay. The gentle tracing of your lips and tongue over the bare soft smooth skin of your lover. Kissing, holding, caressing, exploring, getting to know your partner's body better than they do. Learning and exploring their deepest fantasys. Learning what truly excites your lover. Satisfying their physical and mental needs. Just two passionate animals left trembling and exhausted. Their body's as one.
It is not the quantity of the love making. It's the quality of the love making
Jaded1, CT
Mmmm. I would have to say I think more on the physical level.
Hours and hours of foreplay. The gentle tracing of your lips and tongue over the bare soft smooth skin of your lover. Kissing, holding, caressing, exploring, getting to know your partner's body better than they do. Learning and exploring their deepest fantasys. Learning what truly excites your lover. Satisfying their physical and mental needs. Just two passionate animals left trembling and exhausted. Their body's as one.
It is not the quantity of the love making. It's the quality of the love making
Jaded1, CT
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Sexual Intimacy......
My favourite thing to do is to kiss the eyes of my lover, nothing is more intimate....You must travel into the personal space of that person, and touch an area most people are very jumpy, squimish about....When those walls are down, all doors are open, TOTAL, trust and intimacy.......
My favourite thing to do is to kiss the eyes of my lover, nothing is more intimate....You must travel into the personal space of that person, and touch an area most people are very jumpy, squimish about....When those walls are down, all doors are open, TOTAL, trust and intimacy.......
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For me there are levels of sexual intimacy. There is the ultimate intimacy in which lovers lower there fear created walls and allow you to see them as they are on an emotional level, and by doing so they help you find those physical delights they share only when they trust completely.
There is intimacy in a one night stand as well. The knowlege that it is just for that night can lead to a physical sharing that is may not be found in long term relationships.
There is some intimacy in an act of cyber-sex. In some ways you may find yourself more open with your thoughts and desires than you could ever be in RL.
The problem with the second two examples is that they cannot compare to the first and if you have had the first you ache for it. I suspect its human nature. We all strive for security and love. The kind of intimacy described in the first example reinforces the proof that you have found it.
There is intimacy in a one night stand as well. The knowlege that it is just for that night can lead to a physical sharing that is may not be found in long term relationships.
There is some intimacy in an act of cyber-sex. In some ways you may find yourself more open with your thoughts and desires than you could ever be in RL.
The problem with the second two examples is that they cannot compare to the first and if you have had the first you ache for it. I suspect its human nature. We all strive for security and love. The kind of intimacy described in the first example reinforces the proof that you have found it.
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My definition of intamacy.
It can be anything, It's mroe a feeling or state of mind then something physical.
Reading a poem, Kissing them gently, shit even bringing them soup when they are sick and feeding them is in my mind somthing intamat.
Am I happy with my leval of intamacy in my relationship?
Not in a relationship, Never been intamat with anyone.
It can be anything, It's mroe a feeling or state of mind then something physical.
Reading a poem, Kissing them gently, shit even bringing them soup when they are sick and feeding them is in my mind somthing intamat.
Am I happy with my leval of intamacy in my relationship?
Not in a relationship, Never been intamat with anyone.
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sexual intimacy
Speaking to each others souls with your bodies.
Speaking to each others souls with your bodies.
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Well said, LukkyKnightLukkyKnight said:
For me sexuality starts in my mind, then I feel it in my heart, and ultimately just "feel" it. Intimacy is being open enough to get as close to the one you love as possible. Honesty and trust are the catalysts for me.
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When I breathes, she breathes
When we speak, it is the same thing at the same time
We have the same thoughts at the same time
When we undress, we watch each other with hunger
We find things to be funny together
A touch in a public place is electric
I will stop there, I think
When we speak, it is the same thing at the same time
We have the same thoughts at the same time
When we undress, we watch each other with hunger
We find things to be funny together
A touch in a public place is electric
I will stop there, I think
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Re: Sexual Intimacy..............
I agree with Jaded1. While the mind is perhaps one of the most important sexual organs, true sexual intimacy for me requires physical contact--which is why cybersex has never done it for me.
There's a comfortable oblivion which comes in a brief moment when the uninhibited desire consumes me and my mind is subsumed beneath my animal nature. Later the fluidity of the afterglow wash over me and it feels to me as if the depths of the well of my unconscious mind have been measured. There's a little while when I am oblivious to any sort of physical faults, and a calm acceptance of my partner melts into a sense of trust and attachment that lingers long after.
Jaded1 said:Mmmm. I would have to say I think more on the physical level.
Hours and hours of foreplay. The gentle tracing of your lips and tongue over the bare soft smooth skin of your lover. Kissing, holding, caressing, exploring, getting to know your partner's body better than they do. Learning and exploring their deepest fantasys. Learning what truly excites your lover. Satisfying their physical and mental needs. Just two passionate animals left trembling and exhausted. Their body's as one.
It is not the quantity of the love making. It's the quality of the love making
Jaded1, CT
I agree with Jaded1. While the mind is perhaps one of the most important sexual organs, true sexual intimacy for me requires physical contact--which is why cybersex has never done it for me.
There's a comfortable oblivion which comes in a brief moment when the uninhibited desire consumes me and my mind is subsumed beneath my animal nature. Later the fluidity of the afterglow wash over me and it feels to me as if the depths of the well of my unconscious mind have been measured. There's a little while when I am oblivious to any sort of physical faults, and a calm acceptance of my partner melts into a sense of trust and attachment that lingers long after.
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Sexual Intimacy is about pleasure....
It is a very well know fact that the mind is were all sexual pleasure is recorded. The body itself is a maze of sensors that transmit responces to the brain. I enjoy hours of slow, teasing, sensual, erotic love making. Leaving her completely sexually exhausted. Extreme pleasure if you wish. I want to be the first thing in her mind when she wakes up and her fantasy as she sleeps. I want to see her smile when she see me. To know I fore fill her every need
Jaded1, CT
It is a very well know fact that the mind is were all sexual pleasure is recorded. The body itself is a maze of sensors that transmit responces to the brain. I enjoy hours of slow, teasing, sensual, erotic love making. Leaving her completely sexually exhausted. Extreme pleasure if you wish. I want to be the first thing in her mind when she wakes up and her fantasy as she sleeps. I want to see her smile when she see me. To know I fore fill her every need
Jaded1, CT
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LukkkyKnight.......
What you said above = PERFECT!
Wish I had said that! Well put!
What you said above = PERFECT!
Wish I had said that! Well put!
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sexual intimacy
The melding of two individual wills in a sensual dance of pleasure, where both lead...and each follows...as the distinction of the two is lost in the passion for oneness.
I looked into the blinking wells of her soul and felt the hunger of a thousand empty nights. Storms of passion, violently pressing their will upon the burning desires of my need. Surging adrenaline, pounding in my ears like the stormy surf of an unnavigable darkness, and we, desperate sailors riding the wild tempest of the raging sea of emotional nakedness. Breathless hearts grasping for salvation as crushing waves bury our consciousness in irresistible lust. Surrendering to the aching fury of ravenous love - without compass or hope - I find myself...clinging only to the life that dances in her eyes.
The melding of two individual wills in a sensual dance of pleasure, where both lead...and each follows...as the distinction of the two is lost in the passion for oneness.
I looked into the blinking wells of her soul and felt the hunger of a thousand empty nights. Storms of passion, violently pressing their will upon the burning desires of my need. Surging adrenaline, pounding in my ears like the stormy surf of an unnavigable darkness, and we, desperate sailors riding the wild tempest of the raging sea of emotional nakedness. Breathless hearts grasping for salvation as crushing waves bury our consciousness in irresistible lust. Surrendering to the aching fury of ravenous love - without compass or hope - I find myself...clinging only to the life that dances in her eyes.
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SEXUAL intimacy
It seems like most of the people who have replied, didn't read the first word. Or maybe they gave to much weight to the second. Most of what I read seemed to be about personal intimacy.
I have had incredibly sexually intimate relationships with people that I had little personal intimacy and vice versa. Obviously, it is best when they coincide, but how often are we so lucky?
To me, sexual intimacy requires a willingness to be honest about what arouses you. Even if it's weird and/or embarassing. And listening to your partners strange sexual peccadilloes and then trying them together. This is not the same thing as being sexually open. Sexual intimacy requires that you want to help the partner with their fantasies or fears.
I remember one woman that I had a sexual relationship with that I didn't even like. She didn't like me either, but we had a sexual relationship that was incredible. Nothing was out of bounds. I won't share her fantasies, but they were way out there (to me), but we knocked quite a few of them down and she did the same for me. While I didn't enjoy some of the things we did, I enjoyed watching her do them and get off on it.
Personal intimacy is different. I think that requires love.
It seems like most of the people who have replied, didn't read the first word. Or maybe they gave to much weight to the second. Most of what I read seemed to be about personal intimacy.
I have had incredibly sexually intimate relationships with people that I had little personal intimacy and vice versa. Obviously, it is best when they coincide, but how often are we so lucky?
To me, sexual intimacy requires a willingness to be honest about what arouses you. Even if it's weird and/or embarassing. And listening to your partners strange sexual peccadilloes and then trying them together. This is not the same thing as being sexually open. Sexual intimacy requires that you want to help the partner with their fantasies or fears.
I remember one woman that I had a sexual relationship with that I didn't even like. She didn't like me either, but we had a sexual relationship that was incredible. Nothing was out of bounds. I won't share her fantasies, but they were way out there (to me), but we knocked quite a few of them down and she did the same for me. While I didn't enjoy some of the things we did, I enjoyed watching her do them and get off on it.
Personal intimacy is different. I think that requires love.
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thank-you Enchanted
"...when one offers a loving embrace and it's returned with passion..."
The excitement of the unexpected! Yes, I do think that intimacy and particularly sexual intimacy is very open to serendipity. It's not a formula to be followed; more of a feeling that leads us. Trusting ourselves into that moment, can open delicious doors.
"...when one offers a loving embrace and it's returned with passion..."
The excitement of the unexpected! Yes, I do think that intimacy and particularly sexual intimacy is very open to serendipity. It's not a formula to be followed; more of a feeling that leads us. Trusting ourselves into that moment, can open delicious doors.
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Sexual intimacy:
a touch of the mind or body that evokes a sexual reaction, the intensity of which engulfs your being.
A look can seethe with sexual intimacy from someone you have never touched.
You can spend all night fucking someone without achieving intimacy. You can spend a lifetime never touching someone with whom you have shared a sexually intimate moment.
For me, I have finally found sexual intimacy. I have no words to describe it but can say that when we share these moments or hours, everything else ceases to exist.
Particular touches include finger tips upon my face.
Hmmm my thoughts are scattered as I am rushed.
a touch of the mind or body that evokes a sexual reaction, the intensity of which engulfs your being.
A look can seethe with sexual intimacy from someone you have never touched.
You can spend all night fucking someone without achieving intimacy. You can spend a lifetime never touching someone with whom you have shared a sexually intimate moment.
For me, I have finally found sexual intimacy. I have no words to describe it but can say that when we share these moments or hours, everything else ceases to exist.
Particular touches include finger tips upon my face.
Hmmm my thoughts are scattered as I am rushed.
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Then, why, oh why, did it take me 20 years of screwing to find it????
And why, for God's sake, is He all the way down there and I am up here? (Temporary whining issue )
The point is, that one must know themselves well before achieving said intimacy.
Now...I am out of this thread before I really start feeling lonely or .................
Merry Christmas!
And why, for God's sake, is He all the way down there and I am up here? (Temporary whining issue
)The point is, that one must know themselves well before achieving said intimacy.
Now...I am out of this thread before I really start feeling lonely or .................
Merry Christmas!
