Sexless marriage?

[pplwatching]

One of the things I realized when I was at the bottom of the pit of despair was that if I gave up, then nothing would ever change. As much as I didn't want to do it sometimes, I just kept on chipping away at the stone. There were never any guarantees. Really I was lucky that my wife is dedicated to our marriage, and able demonstrate her commitment and love by making the effort to get things right in the bedroom. I knew that I loved her, and that she was a good woman, but that didn't make the sun rise on the dark days. If she had been unwilling to make the effort, then I probably would have eventually begun to question how a "good woman that I love" could be so cold and unfeeling towards my hurt and loneliness.

All that I can suggest is continuing to let her know that you will not stand by and watch your marriage in a death spiral. I never felt like divorce was an option, but I made it clear that our marriage was at risk. If she knows that, and still won't work with you to find a way to bring sexual intimacy back into the marriage, then it really is on her when the kids are gone and you walk. There's only so much time we can spend pushing the stone up the hill.