Sex

[Andreina]

those of you who are "overall gay" - have you ever slept with anyone from the opposite sex?
did it even cross your mind?
if you did, how did it feel for you?
just curious.

 

[Chicklet]

okay so I'm not homosexual, but bisexual, but hey I have lots of gay and lesbian friends! Anyways from what they have told me, I think most *have* slept with people from the opposite sex. Hell, I know a lot of *straight* people who've experimented with the same sex.

So an additional question: Straight people, have you ever slept with a member of the same sex?

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[Etoile]

My girlfriend was married to a guy for ten years, but they were both always bisexual. Personally, I plead the fifth. (For those of you not familiar with the U.S. Bill of Rights, that means I refuse to answer based on the fact that my answer may incriminate me. It doesn't mean I have, and it doesn't mean I haven't. It just means I ain't tellin'.)

 

[lark sparrow]

I am a lesbian. It's untrue in my experience that most lesbians have slept with men. Some have, some haven't. Or perhaps I just have a knack for picking "virgin" lesbians - by virgin I mean they have never had intercourse with a male, not that they are bi-curious and I turn them out. I don't seek "virgin" lesbians out but I can easily say over half of my serious girlfriends have never had sex with a man.

I have slept with two men a total of once each - one when I was about 17 years old. I was going through a particularly difficult time with my family, and I can honestly say I did it in a twisted way to "hurt" or spite them and myself. There was also a sense of okay, let's see what the big freaking deal is about heterosex. my experiences with kissing men equaled kissing a piece of white bread - there was nothing there. I had been kissing girls as long as I had been kissing and experimenting with boys, and I had a sense then that my feelings were different then those of my friends at a very early age. I always preferred girls though lesbianism became a conscious awareness at about 15/16 years old.

The sexual intercourse experience with a man at 17 years old was about the same as the kissing experiments - there was nothing wrong with him as a lover, it just did absolutely nothing for me. I've never had a romantic relationship with a man, never been even remotely in love with one - I knew by the time I was a freshman in highschool that I was lesbian, had my first girlfriend in my sophmore year and came out to my family at 18.

The second time I tried having sex with a man was when I came out into BDSM at about 31 years old - as I noticed that through D/s and SM the gender bias was not as strong for me. I found again that sex with a man, though there was nothing wrong with him as a lover, did absolutely nothing for me. I can 'play' with men to a certain degree in BDSM but sexual/romantic involvement and activities are a hard line - I am simply and honestly not wired that way. I've never been molested or abused by a man, I've never been romantically or sexually hurt by a man... it simply doesn't work for me. I love women sexually and romantically as naturally as any die-hard heterosexual loves the 'opposite' sex. So, I can say, yes I have tried hetero sex - and I can also say, I still just don't get the appeal even remotely.

 

[mistresssilkeng]

REverall gay

I am a lesbian, i guess that makes Me overall gay lol. I have not had intercourse with a man, or had any interest in doing so. I did not realize i was a lesbian till i was 24, before that i kept making excuses as to why i wasn't attracted to men. Hadn't found the right one? wait till i graduate focus on My studies? all excuses i made up. I am sure it is an idividual expereince. I have only been out a few years so cannot speak for everyone. I have nothing against men they just don't turn Me on physically or mentally, and women do in both ways. I have only slept with women.
Hmm not sure if that answers the question, the idea occurred to Me but more like in the abstract, as 'yeah i can see how it would work' but not in a 'i want to do that way'.

Silken

 

[pinksateendream]

My experiences have been very similar to Mistress', though I have slept with men. I thought it was me, that I just wasn't confident in myself, or that I was preoccupied with other things in my life, I just didn't know why I didn't get as excited my men as I did when I thought about women. After having my first experience with a woman I understood exactly what was going on... I am a lesbian. I wanted so much to be "normal", that I tried to go along with the relationships and sex with men even though it felt wrong. I am so happy to now know who I am and what I enjoy in life... what I love... and who I love. I am glad that I had the experience, but I find that I don't enjoy sex with men. I would never want to test those waters again.. I am quite content.

 

[ithaqua]

All right, All right, so I had sex with a woman.

Don't rub it in.

The first time it was because of an emoutional attachment that goes beyond words. Um, The sex was ........

Ok, so moving on.

The second time, I was fantasizing about Blake Harper during the whole thing and kept my eyes closed.

 

[sunshineme]

okay so I'm not homosexual, but bisexual, but hey I have lots of gay and lesbian friends! Anyways from what they have told me, I think most *have* slept with people from the opposite sex. Hell, I know a lot of *straight* people who've experimented with the same sex.

So an additional question: Straight people, have you ever slept with a member of the same sex?

yes i have and it was wonderfully, it was three years ago and still waiting for the next time.

 

[revolution724]

I was married to a man (this is stretching the definition) for a while, although I identify as lesbian (or "overall gay," as you put it) now. Thinking back about the sex makes me cringe, honestly; sometimes it was fair, more often, I experienced it as negative, sometimes traumatic. So, how did it feel? Not good, as a general rule. I don't think I was ever able to separate it fully from a rape in my mind, to be very honest.

It's a puzzling thing, sexual and affectional orientation. Affectionally, I like men very much, even more than women in general. Sexually, I can't deal with the male body, at all.

So there you are - hope that's helpful for you.

 

[Chicklet]

heh...

this was funny. in three years i've changed my sexual orientation - I no longer think of myself as bisexual, but straight, however i still like sleeping with girls

I had this funny conversation with two of my coworkers, who are both gay, about this very subject... neither of them have ever had sex with people of the opposite sex. I always had this idea in my mind of the confusion of teen years, trying this and that to discover your orientation, and it sorta weirded me out that they hadn't.

Then a few days later, one co-worker says to me, "well, maybe I'd try it some time." threw me off, really it did.

 

[SophiaY]

Simply no physical chemistry. Which puzzled me briefly when I was very young. Kissed a few boys, and there was absolutely nothing -- all it felt like was a slightly more awkward handshake.

Then I kissed a girl...

 

[lord_bob]

Simply no physical chemistry. Which puzzled me briefly when I was very young. Kissed a few boys, and there was absolutely nothing -- all it felt like was a slightly more awkward handshake.

Then I kissed a girl...

and the rest we say is history, that's sweet

 

[robbie_boy1]

thank God for both sexes

I was hetero for the longest time and then when I turned into my forties I found that I liked both, slept with both- together and alone and will again..

It's all good...

 

[BitterIchor]

Yes, I've slept with a man. I wish it never happened though. It was with a nice guy, very sweet and everything, but it was still an unpleasant experience. It was a pretty long time ago, but I still remember how empty it felt, no emotional or physical attraction was present. And even if I sleep with a woman that I'm not attracted to, there still is a certain something there that can make the experience fairly enjoyable. But not there. I did it as a last, desperate attempt to convince myself I was straight or bisexual. Needless to say, it didn't work.