sex mentors?

[obg]

Only thought of this in context of a short, short story submitted today (and then I subsequently posted to a thread):

How many out there have had a sex "mentor"? Someone that taught you more than you taught them? And someone that was eager to do so (teach I mean)?

I can imagine there being so many variations on this answer that it would be hard to categorize. But still, is there one former or current lover that took you under their wing and taught you things you've not forgotten?

 

[domjoe]

Ooh, me first!

I had a mentor called ladyphoenix who posted some great stories here. She taught me a lot. I was a smartass, who didn't know how to write. Now I'm just a smartass.


(edited)
Oops, you were talking about sex, weren't you? Not writing. Actually come to think of it , the above is still pretty much true.

 

[Guest]

Until recently I never learned anything new from a lover, but even then it wasn't a matter of purposely 'teaching', he just plumbed the depths further than all the rest (and I mean that beyond metaphor).

I was mentor-like once to a man 20+ years younger than me, but again I would not have called it teaching, just showed him what I'd 'learned' in my longer-lived time. It's a matter of connection and communication, not technique or rules.

Perdita

 

[Guest]

It's a matter of connection and communication, not technique or rules.

Perdita

Yep, very well said. I've never been a mentor, or had a mentor, as such. But, together, we've both learned more about ourselves, sexually.

Lou

 

[domjoe]

My first sexual encounter was with a girl who was as inexperienced as me. It was awful. My second sexual encounter was with someone a lot more experienced as me. It was better. Since then, I've always gone for experience over anything else.

 

[she_is_my_addiction]

Only thought of this in context of a short, short story submitted today (and then I subsequently posted to a thread):

How many out there have had a sex "mentor"? Someone that taught you more than you taught them? And someone that was eager to do so (teach I mean)?

I can imagine there being so many variations on this answer that it would be hard to categorize. But still, is there one former or current lover that took you under their wing and taught you things you've not forgotten?

Sort of. Never forgotten, would be nice if I could.

 

[Guest]

I've never been a mentor

Lou,

I suspect there are numerous young boys in your town that would love having you for a mentor, you lovely MILF.

Seriously, I was first captured by Michener's "Hawaii" when I was a wee lad about 13. I loved the parts with the young couple in Tahiti who were already experienced lovers in their late teens, because the society provided with them sexual mentors when they came of age. The father's even built their daughters small houses for privacy.

Alas, I wonder now if those stories were accurate or based on Margaret Meads now often challenged (turns out teenage girls might have lied to her. I'm aghast.).
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Margaret_Mead#Coming_of_Age_in_Samoa

But how sweet this world would be if an attractive, experienced person helped you over the bumps at the beginning of sexuality.

Shouldn't sexuality have the same import as learning to drive?

 

[she_is_my_addiction]

"wee lad"?

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!

 

[Guest]

 

[OhMissScarlett]

When I was about twenty, an older girlfriend taught me all I needed to know about the female orgasm, I'm eternally grateful.

 

[obg]

Maybe it's my perception. Wasn't thinking necessarily of blackboards and pointers, but I think perdita's put it in best perspective.

When I was young, I had a lot to learn. As I got older, I had more to give. The one's I learned the most from were not always when I was younger.

 

[she_is_my_addiction]

Maybe it's my perception. Wasn't thinking necessarily of blackboards and pointers, but I think perdita's put it in best perspective.

When I was young, I had a lot to learn. As I got older, I had more to give. The one's I learned the most from were not always when I was younger.

Huh?

 

[carsonshepherd]

When I was about twenty, an older girlfriend taught me all I needed to know about the female orgasm, I'm eternally grateful.

And internally grateful, right?

The rest of mankind thanks her....

 

[obg]

Huh?

Everybody brings something to the table. If there's a connection, everyone benefits the most they can. If not, the benefit is less.