sex drive
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i doubt that is right, they might admit to once a week but it has to be more...
as for men, the average male has 11 erections a day. can get an erection from age 10 to 70. that is roughtly 250,000 erections in a life time.
i dont know perameters of what is and isnt. i just heard it on the morning radio show.
as for men, the average male has 11 erections a day. can get an erection from age 10 to 70. that is roughtly 250,000 erections in a life time.
i dont know perameters of what is and isnt. i just heard it on the morning radio show.
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You're not going to get a response from "typical" women here. Lit women are generally more sex-positive than the general population. Or they're men pretending to be women.
As a woman who was not particularly interested in sex near the end of my first marriage, I'm going to say that a problem with sex most likely has its roots outside of the bedroom. It's probably not what you want to hear, but given what you've posted in your other thread, I'd say this is the case with your relationship as well.
As a woman who was not particularly interested in sex near the end of my first marriage, I'm going to say that a problem with sex most likely has its roots outside of the bedroom. It's probably not what you want to hear, but given what you've posted in your other thread, I'd say this is the case with your relationship as well.
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too funny
what made me laugh today you made me laugh with that statement lol
If thats true...Im either broken or a man with a vagina
what made me laugh today you made me laugh with that statement lol
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since recently, i find that i think about sex more if i'm having somewhat regular sex. maybe because i'm at a certain stage of maturity or something scientific like that. but the thoughts have started to increase as have certain desires. its a daily thought for me. at least once a day it's on my mind. even if i'm not having sex there will be moments when i think about it. or i'll have a thought like "damn i wish i was having sex tonight/right now"
i doubt that is right, they might admit to once a week but it has to be more...
as for men, the average male has 11 erections a day. can get an erection from age 10 to 70. that is roughtly 250,000 erections in a life time.
Show me a 70 year old who can get 11 erections a day. Most of my contemporaries also admit to a lot fewer woodies than 50 years ago, and they don't often just pop up out of nowhere like they did in junior high when you got even a little glimpse of Mary Ellen Poontang's training bra strap. Maybe I'm worse off than I thought but all I know is what used to be ready to rumble again in 20 minutes now takes two hours to come back for a rematch. I must REALLY be heading down the one way river to a dirt nap.
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I cannot believe for one second that the average woman only thinks about sex once per week!
I also have trouble with the 11 erections a day on average stat.
You want to get a woman thinking about sex more than once per week? If you're already in a sexual relationship, then here's what you do:
flirt with her
tell her how gorgeous she is
compliment her in other ways, compliment her in every way
tell her how much you care about her when you're not having sex or not about to have sex
give her little gifts occasionally and tell her you just thought she'd like it, you both know the truth
take her out
make her dinner, keep it simple if you're a lousy cook but still put some effort into it
make her laugh
when you're out with her hold her hand or put your arm around her, and kiss her, sneak kisses if you have to
keep her in her comfort zone
Lastly, I'm definitely no Casanova and the above probably won't work on every woman.
I also have trouble with the 11 erections a day on average stat.
You want to get a woman thinking about sex more than once per week? If you're already in a sexual relationship, then here's what you do:
flirt with her
tell her how gorgeous she is
compliment her in other ways, compliment her in every way
tell her how much you care about her when you're not having sex or not about to have sex
give her little gifts occasionally and tell her you just thought she'd like it, you both know the truth
take her out
make her dinner, keep it simple if you're a lousy cook but still put some effort into it
make her laugh
when you're out with her hold her hand or put your arm around her, and kiss her, sneak kisses if you have to
keep her in her comfort zone
Lastly, I'm definitely no Casanova and the above probably won't work on every woman.
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Genius!!!! Bravo! On the flip side, a woman should be doing most of those things for her man too!
Personally I think my sex drive is stuck in overdrive. Some days it's all I can think about, others maybe 10% of what I think about, but it's usually simmering close by.
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You definitely heard this from a man with little or no experience. Women think of sex just as much as men, and I'm not just speaking for myself.
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I think about sex a lot. Not random sex as much as sex with particular people.
I could be talking with someone or thinking of them and wonder what sex with them would be like unless I already know what it's like and want more!
This is pretty much how I have been since my teens, with the exception of about 18 months after surgery and when healing from injuries when I couldn't have had sex anyway.
I could be talking with someone or thinking of them and wonder what sex with them would be like unless I already know what it's like and want more!
This is pretty much how I have been since my teens, with the exception of about 18 months after surgery and when healing from injuries when I couldn't have had sex anyway.
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I think your mother must have been the one who told you this.
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You were told wrong.
There are a lot of sex myths out there, that's one of the most common ones. Just because someone out there said it, doesn't make it true.
Thinking about sex isn't going to increase her libido in a significant way, especially if she isn't enjoying the sex she's having. I think your better question would be how can you gracefully bring up a significant difference between your libido and hers, and how you can increase the quality and amount of sex in a way that is considerate to both your and her needs.
I think about erotic things (why stop at just sex?) constantly, but I know I'm almost a nympho and nowhere near typical. Once a week sounds really low to me, the true figure had got to be higher. If you want a woman to think about sex more communicate with her!
First make sure there aren't other reasons why her sex drive is low i.e medications, stress, being the mother of small children etc. If these are factors then you'll need to work on them. After that try sharing some fantasies. I'm sure there's something hiding away inside her that really gets her going that she hasn't told you. When she's in a playful mood tell her your biggest fantasy (or one that isn't going to really squick her if you're that way inclined) on the provisor that she tells you hers. Once you know what it is you can talk about it and hopefully work some elements of it into what you regularly do.
That being said try the stuff on nicecthulhu's post before any of this. Not feeling loved or appreciated will quickly make even my nympho libido plummet so if you aren't doing that kind of stuff on a regular basis you're not only not going to get sex but you may eventually lose her altogether.
Good luck
First make sure there aren't other reasons why her sex drive is low i.e medications, stress, being the mother of small children etc. If these are factors then you'll need to work on them. After that try sharing some fantasies. I'm sure there's something hiding away inside her that really gets her going that she hasn't told you. When she's in a playful mood tell her your biggest fantasy (or one that isn't going to really squick her if you're that way inclined) on the provisor that she tells you hers. Once you know what it is you can talk about it and hopefully work some elements of it into what you regularly do.
That being said try the stuff on nicecthulhu's post before any of this. Not feeling loved or appreciated will quickly make even my nympho libido plummet so if you aren't doing that kind of stuff on a regular basis you're not only not going to get sex but you may eventually lose her altogether.
Good luck
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Im 43 yrs old. Havent gone through menapause yet. I think of sex all day and all night. It does help I have a man in my life who drives me insanely horny everyday. I think every woman is different. Now about 15yrs ago i could care less about sex. Now. I want it probably more than my man does and he is 3yrs older than me. lol
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No, it's not normal. I recently read an article on this. She should see a doc.
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I too believe that the women here on Lit (unfortunately) aren't the average woman. Most people wouldn't be on a site like this unless they had a healthy appreciation of sex. I don't believe my wife thinks about sex very much. I'm sure she has better weeks and worse weeks but on average she lets her life run her intead of her running it, not having the time or the inclination to think about sex very much. When we do it she usually always has multiple strong orgasms and enjoys it very much but then she is satisfied and I don't think it crosses her mind again for quite a while. I always hoped that the better times she has the more times she would want to do it but it seems to work quite the opposite with her. Once she is satisfied it will last her for quite a while.
