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[anythingonce20]

Hey everyone,

Im recently considering joining a swingers club, and I just wanted to hear about peoples experiences, both men and women! i would like to know what the environments are like, what its like for single people? and couples as well?

again id like to know from both men and women

 

[LWulf]

Hey everyone,

I'm recently considering joining a swingers club, and I just wanted to hear about peoples experiences, both men and women! i would like to know what the environments are like, what it's like for single people? and couples as well?

again I'd like to know from both men and women

I've tried almost every venue imaginable at least once. I travel around a lot and my "radar" goes up when I move into an area to know what swinger's clubs are about, strip bars, B&D clubs, etc etc etc.

In my youth, I used to frequent Deeny's Hideaway, which was a swinger's club in my area. Perhaps by bad luck, but my experiences have been that swinger's clubs are more geared for couples than single men. Single women are more easily accepted, but are extremely rare finding them.

The reason single men are less accepted is because they don't know how to act properly. They go in thinking "me" instead of "we". The concept of sharing and "waiting" is not first and foremost in their minds.

Okay enough concept more substance.
I used to know this couple, older man/younger woman. He was straight, she was bisexual (more try-sexual, but that's besides the point). Their preference was to hook up with single women because, while he didn't mind (and actually enjoyed) a dude using his foxy woman, they seemed to always try to control or take over. They (single guys) expected she was there to service them.
At which point, she would would look at her Papi and he knew she wanted to leave, and they did.

If you go, understand you are persona non grata (an unwelcome person (They charge more for single males generally)). You can still mix in and be welcomed, just put your transmission in neutral and ask. It might feel like you are being submissive (which most guys don't like to feel) but that's the best thing you can do.

Flirt by all means, but don't take acceptance to your flirting to mean "no holds barred" (anything goes). Don't be afraid to say "it's my first time". It might give more understanding (not acceptance).

Okay, let's say you are with some hottie and she has green lighted your flirting. You don't have to verbally ask "can I do this?", "can I do that?" but DO try to use a "gentle touch" with a glance to her eyes to see if she is agreeable. Ask with your eyes. EVEN if you have met Ms Hottie a second or third time.

She might be "slutty" (god bless her if she is) but that doesn't mean she's your whore and is there to fulfill your needs. Women in such situations don't like to be taken for granted.

oh, and never listen to another dude inside. "hey, see that hottie over there looking at you? She likes you dude go for it!"

It's my experience that some guys get off on making you look stupid" In such a situation, listen to him, he might be telling you the truth, but fall back on what I said before. Use the gentle touch and ask with your eyes. If she feels relaxed enough with you, she might just say "use me as you like" (fantasy world there dude, but possible), but don't take a situation for granted without her expressed permission.

Sorry, another thing, DON'T get competitive/jealous/possessive if another guy joins in. She might easily green light him because;

• she has met him before
• she knows him
• or she goes home with him (spouse)

Some women like to go in alone while their spouse is already there. Yeah, some couples like to play the game of "let's act like we are single and don't know each other."

Again, use the gentle touch and search her eyes if it's okay. If she doesn't plainly give you a green light, try something else or wait until she does (or lean in an whisper in her ear). Politeness goes far.

Don't play the gallant knight. If another guy comes up and joins, look to her and ask her "is (she) okay?" Women like to speak for themselves. Speaking up for her is just as likely to piss her off.

Oh and another thing, it's "public" in a sense, but don't take two girls frolicking to be a green light to watch. Don't be embarrassed to ask "can I watch?" If they start in the main room or at the bar (if there is one), it's sort of accepted that they are "performing for the masses", but if they start in another room alone, they want some "privacy". However, don't be shy, ask to watch, they might just say "watch? hell, join in!" (again, fantasy world there dude, but possible).

It might be a sign of my age and growing up at a different time (different rules), but bisexual guys are the least accepted at swingers clubs.

Silly to mention, but just to add; don't take out a cell phone and take pictures. This is an unacceptable taboo as far as I know.

...oh, and, enjoy yourself!

 

[blksoldier]

I've tried almost every venue imaginable at least once. I travel around a lot and my "radar" goes up when I move into an area to know what swinger's clubs are about, strip bars, B&D clubs, etc etc etc.

In my youth, I used to frequent Deeny's Hideaway, which was a swinger's club in my area. Perhaps by bad luck, but my experiences have been that swinger's clubs are more geared for couples than single men. Single women are more easily accepted, but are extremely rare finding them.

The reason single men are less accepted is because they don't know how to act properly. They go in thinking "me" instead of "we". The concept of sharing and "waiting" is not first and foremost in their minds.

Okay enough concept more substance.
I used to know this couple, older man/younger woman. He was straight, she was bisexual (more try-sexual, but that's besides the point). Their preference was to hook up with single women because, while he didn't mind (and actually enjoyed) a dude using his foxy woman, they seemed to always try to control or take over. They (single guys) expected she was there to service them.
At which point, she would would look at her Papi and he knew she wanted to leave, and they did.

If you go, understand you are persona non grata (an unwelcome person (They charge more for single males generally)). You can still mix in and be welcomed, just put your transmission in neutral and ask. It might feel like you are being submissive (which most guys don't like to feel) but that's the best thing you can do.

Flirt by all means, but don't take acceptance to your flirting to mean "no holds barred" (anything goes). Don't be afraid to say "it's my first time". It might give more understanding (not acceptance).

Okay, let's say you are with some hottie and she has green lighted your flirting. You don't have to verbally ask "can I do this?", "can I do that?" but DO try to use a "gentle touch" with a glance to her eyes to see if she is agreeable. Ask with your eyes. EVEN if you have met Ms Hottie a second or third time.

She might be "slutty" (god bless her if she is) but that doesn't mean she's your whore and is there to fulfill your needs. Women in such situations don't like to be taken for granted.

oh, and never listen to another dude inside. "hey, see that hottie over there looking at you? She likes you dude go for it!"

It's my experience that some guys get off on making you look stupid" In such a situation, listen to him, he might be telling you the truth, but fall back on what I said before. Use the gentle touch and ask with your eyes. If she feels relaxed enough with you, she might just say "use me as you like" (fantasy world there dude, but possible), but don't take a situation for granted without her expressed permission.

Sorry, another thing, DON'T get competitive/jealous/possessive if another guy joins in. She might easily green light him because;

• she has met him before
• she knows him
• or she goes home with him (spouse)

Some women like to go in alone while their spouse is already there. Yeah, some couples like to play the game of "let's act like we are single and don't know each other."

Again, use the gentle touch and search her eyes if it's okay. If she doesn't plainly give you a green light, try something else or wait until she does (or lean in an whisper in her ear). Politeness goes far.

Don't play the gallant knight. If another guy comes up and joins, look to her and ask her "is (she) okay?" Women like to speak for themselves. Speaking up for her is just as likely to piss her off.

Oh and another thing, it's "public" in a sense, but don't take two girls frolicking to be a green light to watch. Don't be embarrassed to ask "can I watch?" If they start in the main room or at the bar (if there is one), it's sort of accepted that they are "performing for the masses", but if they start in another room alone, they want some "privacy". However, don't be shy, ask to watch, they might just say "watch? hell, join in!" (again, fantasy world there dude, but possible).

It might be a sign of my age and growing up at a different time (different rules), but bisexual guys are the least accepted at swingers clubs.

Silly to mention, but just to add; don't take out a cell phone and take pictures. This is an unacceptable taboo as far as I know.

...oh, and, enjoy yourself!

that was some of the best advice I've ever heard good job

 

[John_Whittaker0826]

I've tried almost every venue imaginable at least once. I travel around a lot and my "radar" goes up when I move into an area to know what swinger's clubs are about, strip bars, B&D clubs, etc etc etc.

In my youth, I used to frequent Deeny's Hideaway, which was a swinger's club in my area. Perhaps by bad luck, but my experiences have been that swinger's clubs are more geared for couples than single men. Single women are more easily accepted, but are extremely rare finding them.

The reason single men are less accepted is because they don't know how to act properly. They go in thinking "me" instead of "we". The concept of sharing and "waiting" is not first and foremost in their minds.

Okay enough concept more substance.
I used to know this couple, older man/younger woman. He was straight, she was bisexual (more try-sexual, but that's besides the point). Their preference was to hook up with single women because, while he didn't mind (and actually enjoyed) a dude using his foxy woman, they seemed to always try to control or take over. They (single guys) expected she was there to service them.
At which point, she would would look at her Papi and he knew she wanted to leave, and they did.

If you go, understand you are persona non grata (an unwelcome person (They charge more for single males generally)). You can still mix in and be welcomed, just put your transmission in neutral and ask. It might feel like you are being submissive (which most guys don't like to feel) but that's the best thing you can do.

Flirt by all means, but don't take acceptance to your flirting to mean "no holds barred" (anything goes). Don't be afraid to say "it's my first time". It might give more understanding (not acceptance).

Okay, let's say you are with some hottie and she has green lighted your flirting. You don't have to verbally ask "can I do this?", "can I do that?" but DO try to use a "gentle touch" with a glance to her eyes to see if she is agreeable. Ask with your eyes. EVEN if you have met Ms Hottie a second or third time.

She might be "slutty" (god bless her if she is) but that doesn't mean she's your whore and is there to fulfill your needs. Women in such situations don't like to be taken for granted.

oh, and never listen to another dude inside. "hey, see that hottie over there looking at you? She likes you dude go for it!"

It's my experience that some guys get off on making you look stupid" In such a situation, listen to him, he might be telling you the truth, but fall back on what I said before. Use the gentle touch and ask with your eyes. If she feels relaxed enough with you, she might just say "use me as you like" (fantasy world there dude, but possible), but don't take a situation for granted without her expressed permission.

Sorry, another thing, DON'T get competitive/jealous/possessive if another guy joins in. She might easily green light him because;

• she has met him before
• she knows him
• or she goes home with him (spouse)

Some women like to go in alone while their spouse is already there. Yeah, some couples like to play the game of "let's act like we are single and don't know each other."

Again, use the gentle touch and search her eyes if it's okay. If she doesn't plainly give you a green light, try something else or wait until she does (or lean in an whisper in her ear). Politeness goes far.

Don't play the gallant knight. If another guy comes up and joins, look to her and ask her "is (she) okay?" Women like to speak for themselves. Speaking up for her is just as likely to piss her off.

Oh and another thing, it's "public" in a sense, but don't take two girls frolicking to be a green light to watch. Don't be embarrassed to ask "can I watch?" If they start in the main room or at the bar (if there is one), it's sort of accepted that they are "performing for the masses", but if they start in another room alone, they want some "privacy". However, don't be shy, ask to watch, they might just say "watch? hell, join in!" (again, fantasy world there dude, but possible).

It might be a sign of my age and growing up at a different time (different rules), but bisexual guys are the least accepted at swingers clubs.

Silly to mention, but just to add; don't take out a cell phone and take pictures. This is an unacceptable taboo as far as I know.

...oh, and, enjoy yourself!

Amazing & spot on!