Sex And The Single Submissive

[LusciousLoralie]

My Daddy Dom very recently broke up with me and besides the usual heartbreak that is felt at the end of any relationship, I also feel empty, for lack of a better word, as a submissive.

I miss being dominated sexually. I want to be choked, slapped, spanked, and forced to cum. I want to suck cock, to get my face fucked, and to have my head pushed down so I can as much cock into my mouth as possible. As great as masturbation is, these things that I crave cannot be done alone.

Even more than that, I miss having a Dom. I love having rules, structure, and being told what to do. Although we were primarily into DDlg, he opened my eyes to Master/slave, which I used to be against because of my own foolish misconceptions. The greatest joy I ever felt was when he would allow me to do things for him, as small as they were, like rub his back and bring him something to drink. I feel like my purpose in life is to please and to serve, like I was born to be submissive. I now feel lost not being able to express such a huge part of myself.

A lot of what I'm saying here is just me venting but I would appreciate any sincere input. I don't know what I'm supposed to do to fill this literal and metaphorical hole. How do I prevent myself from feeling aimless when there's no one to guide me?

 

[Iamsubmissive]

I can truly understand your feeling of being lost and needing that guidance, structure, and rules to feel like you have purpose. I hope that you meet someone new that can fill that void for you. I know it's hard but you just have to get yourself back out there, like with the end of any relationship. I know nothing comes close to the real thing, but in the meantime you could find a good online DD that could provide you with a lot of the non physical things you are seeking. Check the personals section, or place a personal yourself. You could also go on fetlife to search for people or meeting groups in your area. Just don't rush into anything and use good judgement when dealing with strangers. Public group meetings are a good start. Good luck to you and I hope everything works out.

 

[cookiecat]

My Daddy Dom very recently broke up with me and besides the usual heartbreak that is felt at the end of any relationship, I also feel empty, for lack of a better word, as a submissive.

I miss being dominated sexually. I want to be choked, slapped, spanked, and forced to cum. I want to suck cock, to get my face fucked, and to have my head pushed down so I can as much cock into my mouth as possible. As great as masturbation is, these things that I crave cannot be done alone.

Even more than that, I miss having a Dom. I love having rules, structure, and being told what to do. Although we were primarily into DDlg, he opened my eyes to Master/slave, which I used to be against because of my own foolish misconceptions. The greatest joy I ever felt was when he would allow me to do things for him, as small as they were, like rub his back and bring him something to drink. I feel like my purpose in life is to please and to serve, like I was born to be submissive. I now feel lost not being able to express such a huge part of myself.

A lot of what I'm saying here is just me venting but I would appreciate any sincere input. I don't know what I'm supposed to do to fill this literal and metaphorical hole. How do I prevent myself from feeling aimless when there's no one to guide me?

Bolded part = too easy.

The thing is, you just have to do stuff. Stop being aimless because no one is there to make you do it.

The greatest joy you felt was when he allowed you to do things for him? Your purpose is to please and serve?

Then go out and please and serve someone. Why does it have to be sexual? Sure, it's more fun getting a spanking in return. And yet, if joy fill your heart because of service, then serve a friend. Do something small and sweet and nice for someone else JUST BECAUSE.

Being aimless because no one is there to guide you is kind of absolving yourself of responsibility, just a little bit, right??

I feel like I can say this because I used to think like this. But in the end, you're responsible for you. Go take a walk. Watch porn. Volunteer. Read a book. Find an online person to monkey around with. Whatever. The ball is metaphorically in your court.