Sex and friendship

[ClubIrish]

It can

It can work and it can be awesome. I have had it witrh several differenet people and I still talk to all of them and there have never really been any problems. I wouldn't hesitate to call any of them for some fun any time.

 

[glorfindale39]

I have had a friend in the past who I had regular off and on sex with. She is married now to a dear friend of mine, and I have been to there house many times. There is no strangness, but I think that this is a unique situation. As a gerneral rule I would say sex and friendship don't mix well, but there are always exceptions.

Everything in moderation including moderation.

G.

 

[penguindance]

 

[Azwed]

My two roommates recently hooked up just for sex one night. I had been kind of suspicisous for a while but did not know for sure till this weekend when my original roomate, the guy, told me. They seem to be ok but ever since my guy roommate hooked up with a girl we met at octoberfest this past week she has been a little cool to him.

I think she might be a little jealous but not really mad. I have no clue why my roommate would want to hook up with some not so attractive random girl when he has a gorgeous roommate who is attracted to him sitting at home.

I really don't get him sometimes.

 

[Manhunter]

Best way to screw up a friendship I think.
You even look at each other differently afterwards. You avoid eye contact. Then you slowly grow apart and that great friend that was there to talk to, laugh with, and have a shoulder to cry on is not the same. I found myself avoiding his calls. Not that the sex was bad. Quite the contrary.
At times I could cry, I miss his friendship a lot.

 

[nasty1]

I remember fooling around,(can't have sex, per say,) with a friend of mine when I was 16, or, 17. I think that's why he doesn't hang out with me, anymore.

 

[LordOfDarkness]

Okay, this is driving me crazy.

My husband and I had this argument this weekend about whether or not you can sleep with a good friend not screw up the friendship. Looking at his past, you'd think it was possible. But that has something to do with the fact that he lacks emotions... a whole other story.

My experience has been that it is a good thing to avoid, of course.

What do you guys think? Any experiences to back up either side?

It happened to me a few times. Good friends having good sex. No jealousies and no smothering. I still have a few friends of the opposite sex, and anytime I want to, I'd always find a warm bed and coffin.

 

[penguindance]

 

[Draco]

Funny you should mention this...I was just chatting on ICQ with my lover about the same thing. I have a strict "NO SEX WITH FRIENDS" policy. I recently moved into a new flatting situation with a former client who has become a firm friend. We get along like the house on fire and she's a real sassy wench, never short of a smartass comment. That one of many reasons I like "S" so much. If I was not in a committed relationship, I'm sure we would be dating each other. We click, on all levels.

But, as I am betrothed to my sweet, I know I will never even contemplate making a move on "S".

 

[MissTaken]

Betrothed???

And I missed the memo!

Congrats! hugs and kisses to you both.

I do think you can have sex with a friend with clear and concise communication.

I will add that it isn't a good idea to do in a clandestine fashion.
It may not be a good idea at all.

Sex with a friend is nice, but still leaves you empty. IT depends on what your needs are.

You also need to feel confident about you, your self image and who you are. Having sex without emotion can be hard on one's self concept.

 

[LibraStud]

When you say sex, I am assuming you mean intercourse.

I had a girlfriend (and still do) with whom I had great
foreplay and experimenting. We would do all the things that
our respective lovers didn’t want to try. She moved far away
so we don’t get the chance to see each other. We still talk from
time to time. The spark is still there.

 

[bknight2602]

I think if you are open and honest about the relationship, what it means what each seeks, then it doesn't have to ruin it. You've got to communicate up front and be honest.

 

[Countess DeWinter]

It really depends...

In younger years, it never worked. Screw a friend, screw a friendship.

As I've gotten older, I've discovered that if you happen to find a like minded individual who's just interested in the sex as you are, the friendship can still thrive. I'm still good friends with a guy who I slept with nearly 20 years ago when we were teens. Also slept with him as part of a threesome.

And I'm still best friends with my best girlfriend, despite having wild sex with her in the back seat and hood of her van on my birthday!

 

[Draco]

Betrothed???And I missed the memo!Congrats! hugs and kisses to you both.

I had to dig thru the search function for this one...it was quite a while ago

http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?threadid=62934
http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?threadid=62850

 

[vffan]

Screws it up big time. Avoid it at all costs.

J

 

[crystalizedjoy]

Id like to add my two cents.. although it is gerneally a friendship killer, I managed to pull it off.. we became even better friends after we stopped sleeping with each other, and shes one of my best friends now..

 

[vffan]

crystalizedjoy- Good for you! A very rare fate indeed. I wish I had been as lucky

J

 

[bashfull]

Sex between friends can either add or detract to the relationship. Spontaneous sex can lead to issues of avoidance and jealousy. However, if discussed before (probably while sober lol), with the understanding of "the ground rules for after", then it is my belief and experience that it can enhance the friendship. Sharing physical intimacy bonds can bond the friendship. Also, provides some of the physical contact that going it alone lacks.

So much for my opinion.