Serious Question for Gay guys

ak2002usa

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I'm a 53 y/o mwm. Begining at age 9 my sex life have involved both male and female partners. I've never been attracted to men but I've alwaysenjoyed their oral attentions. I've never fully reciprocated, though, I've tried from time to time. I just couldn't get into it. Most of there partners dont' seem to mind the absence of reciprocity, not even a hand job. I've seen this allot at video booths and one-one meetings with men found on the net. No emotional invlovment, attachment or release.

The question is, what is the satisfaction these partners receive when they are the ones performing the act with me being a very passave receipent and when it's over I or they leave. I know they like it because they keep coming back. But why?
 
ak2002usa said:
The question is, what is the satisfaction these partners receive when they are the ones performing the act with me being a very passave receipent and when it's over I or they leave. I know they like it because they keep coming back. But why?
The same reason you keep coming back. There doesn't have to be reciprocation for satisfaction. "Servicing" you might just be enough for these men. They got what they wanted (dick) and you got what you wanted. It's sort of like eating your favorite food, it didn't reciprocate after you ate it, right? Stupid comparison, I know, but that's the best I can think of at the moment. I hope that made sense...



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You will see, that everything in life can be surprisingly simple... ;)

Why do so many suck and lick their partners? It's for sure not only trading one service for one. There are many people whos greatest satisfaction is making other people happy... :)
 
ak2002usa said:
It can't be that simple. Can it?
Yes it can be as Little Bird so eloquently stated (above). Unless I detect a sense of guilt (?) on your part, why ask why? Keep enjoying it. :)





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ak2002usa said:
I'm a 53 y/o mwm. Begining at age 9 my sex life have involved both male and female partners. I've never been attracted to men but I've alwaysenjoyed their oral attentions. I've never fully reciprocated, though, I've tried from time to time. I just couldn't get into it. Most of there partners dont' seem to mind the absence of reciprocity, not even a hand job. I've seen this allot at video booths and one-one meetings with men found on the net. No emotional invlovment, attachment or release.

The question is, what is the satisfaction these partners receive when they are the ones performing the act with me being a very passave receipent and when it's over I or they leave. I know they like it because they keep coming back. But why?

Tops like to receive and bottoms like to give, those that wear two hats like it all. Myself, I would rather have someone that is into it as much as I am whatever their ilk. If it boring I tend to get bored. :)
 
My experience of sucking other men

The first time I gave another man a blow job it was more that I wanted to please him. I knew he was bisexual and he had been very good to me. When i realized that he would like that I was happy to give it. The pleasure I got from it was nothing like the pleasures I got from sex normally, the feeling of sharing a delight.
The pleasure was more like when you have given a gift that was highly desired.

When I first came to San Francisco and began enjoying the blow jobs of gay men I met I was surprised to find that many had little or no interest in being sucked in return. Like you I was surprised by this. Several told me that they prefered masterbation to having fellatio performed on themselves. None discuss it any further with me at that time.

When I began to find men who enjoyed being sucked I found that for me there was a pleasure (maybe similar to other men who prefered to receive) and it was similar to what I had found with that first man I had been with. A desire to give pleasure. Whether the man expressed any great enthusiam for my efforts or not there was always a sense of having given him a great deal of happiness.

As I had more experiences in sucking I found that I had developed a appitite to suck men that was more physical (the smell and the feel and taste of a penis in my mouth). I did not develop a liking for the taste of semen but i did of the sensations of a penis coming in my mouth.

When I talked to other men who enjoyed cock sucking now that I was enjoying it I found that others seemed to agree with me on their feelings for it. I suppose if I had continued in that recreation I would have become like some of the men I knew who were willing to pay to suck or visted the booths in the adult threaters to do not only strangers but men whose face they never saw.
 
Thanks Gary. That helps. Please review my first post and here's another question. In years past I've enjoyed being on the receiving end of anal sex. Last time was about 11 years ago. I'd like to try it again but its been difficult to find a willing partner. Many guys have been into oral but not anal. What's up with that?
 
finding anal

Originally Posted by ak2002usa
In years past I've enjoyed being on the receiving end of anal sex. Last time was about 11 years ago. I'd like to try it again but its been difficult to find a willing partner. Many guys have been into oral but not anal. What's up with that?*****************************************************

It is easy to find men for oral sex or mutual masterbation but I always found that it was harder to find those who enjoyed doing me anally. I had the most luck with men who were the married type, the ones I never found (or rarely) in the gay world (parties or gay bars). I am not sure why this would be since I had heard from other men they had found as many as three or four new possible men to fuck them in a week. I suspect it is that having been a rather large man, I was an amateur boxer in the heavy weight (or unlimited division). It seemed that I attracted the more receiving side of the gay guys. Several men I had sex with multiple times when I asked them about this told me that they liked being done anally now and then but to give it made the man with them move into the category of being a "sister" and they instantly felt much less desire for that person. Interesting because my sucking sure never lowered their desires for sex with me at later dates.

Most of the other men who enjoyed the passive side of it could find suitable men in the gay parties and finding those were simply by going to a few gay bars and intiguing guys to invite you to the next parties. The far more risky is one nighters from bars, clubs, bath houses or the parks, NOT SOMETHING I WOULD Advise. The men you meet at parties and had seen a few times before there is sex in my experience tend to be a bit more responsible and the risk is much lower.

The men I met who would accept the chance to do me were more through business, my hobbies and the gym.

The first time I had had a relationship over a few months with a man who was very happy to do me anally was a man I had met while doing a contract that involved investigation of fraud on the docks. Like most of the men I found who enjoyed fucking other men, from all appearances straight in every way.

The only other way I was involved in being on the recieving side was the last method I would suggest but if interested contact me at GCOU@AOL.com
 
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