Seperation Anxiety

[SheDevilShay]

I didn't know if there was any threads on seperation Anxiety, (and couldn't find them specifically relating to my issue)

Does anyone have issue's with seperation Anxiety when you are away from your Dom??

The house is clean, the kitchen's done.. Im about to go toss in more laundry but there's nothing really to "do" around the house that would please him... its already been done.. so I have nothing to keep me busy... (And my child's ignoring me watching a movie.. he's been up since 6am...)

I live on 4 acre's and have not yet been collared (which may be some of my anxiety issue's since I am away from him.)

out in the country, anyone could pretty much just go down our drive way and bug us... (the rottweilers, knives and shovels we have on our property you know.. probably would keep my safe, but its just not the same.. the anxiety I have is lessoned with my Master/Dom here.. and it makes me Miss him incredibly...)

can anyone relate to this and give me some feed back?

 

[Chicklet]

my kitten has that. he cries whenever i leave, and my roommates tell me he continues crying until i come back.

but no, seriously. my boyfriend a couple years back always left a huge empty spot within me when he left. it didnt' have anything to do with him being my dom - i think that would only come if i had a huge dependency on him for comfort and such that i don't let into my bdsm relationships. but i loved him, and when he was gone i felt... torn apart. it went away over a little time.

since i have social anxiety, i can definitely tell the difference between missing someone and having an anxiety attack over something. i think i mostly just missed my man = )

 

[catalina_francisco]

He doesn't have to go away for an extended time, just to work for a few hours and I miss him. Interestingly though, I can always find something that needs doing. LOL, probably something to do with my not liking to be totally idle...if nothing else, my mind and creative side comes to the rescue soon enough. As to the safety thing....I don't think I would like him to be placed in the position of having to physically defend us against anyone and have lived almost 2 decades (and a few years before marriage in my 20's) alone with the thought I would do what I had to to defend my children, but if it happened I lost out, it would not be from the want of trying to succeed. I tend to think where children are involved especially, a woman can find supreme strength, not to mention smarts, when it becomes necessary.

Catalina

 

[SheDevilShay]

my kitten has that. he cries whenever i leave, and my roommates tell me he continues crying until i come back.

but no, seriously. my boyfriend a couple years back always left a huge empty spot within me when he left. it didnt' have anything to do with him being my dom - i think that would only come if i had a huge dependency on him for comfort and such that i don't let into my bdsm relationships. but i loved him, and when he was gone i felt... torn apart. it went away over a little time.

since i have social anxiety, i can definitely tell the difference between missing someone and having an anxiety attack over something. i think i mostly just missed my man = )

I also have social anxiety bad.. but when my Dom is with me, I feels tronger and can face my fears... and that means in public as well... I think I miss the comfort and strength he provides me that I have trouble occasionally finding by myself.

But mostly.. I just get bored and I miss him... (I think)...

 

[SheDevilShay]

He doesn't have to go away for an extended time, just to work for a few hours and I miss him. Interestingly though, I can always find something that needs doing. LOL, probably something to do with my not liking to be totally idle...if nothing else, my mind and creative side comes to the rescue soon enough. As to the safety thing....I don't think I would like him to be placed in the position of having to physically defend us against anyone and have lived almost 2 decades (and a few years before marriage in my 20's) alone with the thought I would do what I had to to defend my children, but if it happened I lost out, it would not be from the want of trying to succeed. I tend to think where children are involved especially, a woman can find supreme strength, not to mention smarts, when it becomes necessary.

Catalina

I have no doubt that I could protect my child if nessicary, I know my rottweilers would "die" for my child.. though they look to me to defend them (the god damn babies...)

 

[FurryFury]

My anxiety is usually just worrying that he might get hurt or killed while he is gone. When the kids are not with me, I think about them in this way too. When I'm gone instead the same thoughts flit through my mind about me. I have to force my mind to a more useful place. I can almost always find something that needs doing but that often leads to me goofing off instead.

I'm most comfortable when we are all together. The worst was when my lil girl was with my very fucked up ex and was far to little to talk or even, reason through the crap he did to her.

The bottom line is that I'm getting them ready to fly away from home and make their own lives though. It's also that my husband must work. I work because I want to, it makes me happy. So life is not going to have us all together all the time and even with loss issues, we have to cope.

 

[Netzach]

I get blue and isolated because I work alone all day. It makes me a little squirrely.

I've been out of town for about 2 weeks, when I was working in NYC. That's our longest stint apart. I came home and he'd gained 8 pounds. On candy. I've never been so happy to see anyone in my life. When I was in the hospital for seven days I thought I was going to lose it and so did he, because eventually he had to get home and get some rest at some point. Not sleeping with him and being in pain and sick and terrified? Hell is if you put me in that situation and made everything smell of rotting chicken. That is my vision of hell.

 

[ecstaticsub]

My husband has been deployed twice so far and will deploy again soon--he is not my Dom but I naturally have serious separation anxiety when he is gone. Especially since there is the real possibility that he may not return home.


As far as separating from my Dom--We are in a long distance relationship so we don't get to see each other as often as we would like, every few months. When he leaves me off at the airport each time I have a great deal of difficulty. I think it is more like sub drop than separation anxiety though.

 

[His_pita]

We are very fortunate that we get to spend a great deal of time together most days. I'm sort of dreading when I finish school and will be working 8 to 10 hours a day. I know that I will miss him terribly!!

 

[lil_slave_rose]

Master and i are in an LDR and have been for 4 years. yes, i have separation anxiety and even though we live 2000 miles apart. especially now that i've started working 8 hours a day. we have a 3 hour time difference so by the time i get home from work, we get a couple hours and then He's off to work and i'm off to bed. i miss Him terribly but it something i have to deal with because right now, there is no other choice. the worst was the times He came here to visit and then had to leave.....*sighs*

 

[graceanne]

I don't know about 'seperation anxiety', but if he doesn't call me during his lunch break I get down right cranky. Partly cause I enjoy touching base during the day, but also cause I try not to call him about trivial things during the day. I dont' know if he's on his hands and knees coating a floar, and I don't want to bug him.

As for when he's gone, like when he was in basic training, I was a basket case for several weeks after he left. I adjusted, though. I'm sure the same will happen when he goes to Afghanistan.

 

[Bandit58]

Because of Master's health issues I am often anxious when we are apart. Not that I don't think He can look after Himself (He points out that He survived for a lot of years before I came along!) but there's always the chance of a diabetic hypo, or a problem with the dialysis machine, or cannulation or excessive bleeding, or a drop in blood pressure.....see I am a worrywart.

He wants me to go back to NZ next year, to see my family....I am in two minds about whether to go or not. We may have to see if He can get dialysis in a hospital for the time I am away, that would ease my mind a lot.

If we are apart during the day for various reasons (shopping, gym, appointments, visits with friends), we do miss each other but it's a good thing to have a little "me" time, and when we are back together again it's all the sweeter