seeking suggestions!

[bratgirl365]

I want to be completely honest with my Sir, I want to obey him as I should, but I'm finding it hard to take him serious.
The reason for me not being able to take him serious is because he has no time, I mean with a wife, children and a full time job, there is no time to devote to us, hence making it hard for me to do the right thing. He is well aware of my feelings and does nothing to change anything. Which leaves me feeling wild and free to do as I please, am I wrong?
Any suggestions?

 

[liberatedslave]

I'm assuming his wife doesn't know about you? Sounds to me he has no time because he's having his cake & eating it too. It seems to me he's using you for kicks & has no need to be bothered about the time you spend apart. Sorry for my harshness.

 

[bratgirl365]

I'm assuming his wife doesn't know about you? Sounds to me he has no time because he's having his cake & eating it too. It seems to me he's using you for kicks & has no need to be bothered about the time you spend apart. Sorry for my harshness.

thank you...and yes you would be right in asuming his wife doesn't know about me!

 

[Kailey_86]

I want to be completely honest with my Sir, I want to obey him as I should, but I'm finding it hard to take him serious.
The reason for me not being able to take him serious is because he has no time, I mean with a wife, children and a full time job, there is no time to devote to us, hence making it hard for me to do the right thing. He is well aware of my feelings and does nothing to change anything. Which leaves me feeling wild and free to do as I please, am I wrong?
Any suggestions?

i think that this sort of relationship takes a lot of time and effort. There needs to be communication. There needs to be trust. If He isn't able to commit the time and effort that this takes, i don't think He should have a sub. i don't think it's fair for you as His sub. your submission is special and He doesn't deserve it. Sorry for my harshness as well.

 

[CutieMouse]

Yes.

Dump him and work on developing a relationship with an honest, trustworthy person who does have the time, energy, and desire to be with you, which show him to be worth taking seriously.

 

[bratgirl365]

i think that this sort of relationship takes a lot of time and effort. There needs to be communication. There needs to be trust. If He isn't able to commit the time and effort that this takes, i don't think He should have a sub. i don't think it's fair for you as His sub. your submission is special and He doesn't deserve it. Sorry for my harshness as well.

no...thank you...i appreciate the honesty, and i agree with you!

 

[myinnerslut]

i agree with everyone who has aleady posted. i am in a long disance relationship and we are both busy, but without steady time and effort our relationship wouldnt hold up.

 

[Betticus]

Run for your life girl!

 

[danimouse]

Run for your life girl!

I would have to second that.

 

[MasterPhoenix]

Run for your life girl!

I would have to second that.

I third it...

sounds like nothign but a player.

 

[lil_slave_rose]

so his wife knows nothing about you, yet he expects you to trust and believe in him when he can't even be honest with his wife?? yea...i'd say run, fast..and find someone more deserving of your submission and time.....

 

[cinnamonstick]

He sounds like a total ass. If he can lie to the wife he is going to lie to you too. Dump him ASAP.

 

[Bandit58]

Been there, done that, in a vanilla situation. I ended up very hurt emotionally. No more married guys for me.

Trust me, it will all end in tears. A BDSM relationship should be based on trust, honesty and respect. Find someone who has the time to devote to you, and whom you can submit to with pride. Sneaking around behind someone's back is no fun.

 

[catalina_francisco]

I want to be completely honest with my Sir, I want to obey him as I should, but I'm finding it hard to take him serious.
The reason for me not being able to take him serious is because he has no time, I mean with a wife, children and a full time job, there is no time to devote to us, hence making it hard for me to do the right thing. He is well aware of my feelings and does nothing to change anything. Which leaves me feeling wild and free to do as I please, am I wrong?
Any suggestions?

Well I know others have apologised for being harsh, so I will do the same up front as I am likely going to be a little more harsh then they were. Let's see, you are having a relationship with a married man, you feel you cannot submit to him (even though presumably you agreed to) because he doesn't give you what you need to take him seriously...right so far? So I gather from the way you wrote this that the 'he does nothing to change anything' is that you are waiting for and expecting him to leave his wife and children so you can then become the sub you feel you are and he wants?

Wake up...he is getting some sex on the side, he obviously isn't trustworthy or he wouldn't be lying to his wife, and he isn't that concerned about you either because you tell him how you feel and nothing happens, and he has it good so it is not likely he is going to leave his primary relationship which includes children just to fulifl your needs, and you also are not that trustworthy because you know he is married and cheating and you want him to give you more...how do you expect to ever have a successful D/s relationship on these terms? His needs are already more than fulfilled, why should he put himself out for you? You need to spend some time thinking about what submission is, what it is you really want, and thentake whatever action you think apporpriate...hopefully getting out of the relationship and finding someone who doesn't already belong to someone else.

Catalina

 

[Evil_Geoff]

I will join the litany...

Sorry you are in a bad situation with this guy.
Get out now before wasting any more of your time, energy or emotion on him.

Finding a compatible partner takes time and effort, and every bit you waste on this fellow now, delays your recovery and search for someone better suited to meet your needs that much longer.

Good luck!

 

[Etoile]

I'm just gonna quote Dan Savage: DTMFA!

 

[Noor]

I'm just gonna quote Dan Savage: DTMFA!

Ditto!