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[mlady_france]

Okay, I was reading the thread by sincerely_helene asking if men fantasize while masterbating. This got me to thinking about my own masterbation. I think I've mentioned this before,but I've only reciently started to fully experimant with my sexuality. Infact, it was my ex that taught me to masterbate just after we were married. However, I never really fantisezed while doing it. I have written out fantasies, but Even when I work my self up to the point I can't stand not to masterbate, the fantasy stops and I'm just alone enjoying myself. Am I missing something? Does it make the experence more powerful, or is it more enjoyable? Give a newbie some advice, please?

 

[Salvor-Hardon]

Honestly, its up to you, what you enjoy most.

I like the mental images and fantasies because I am a graphic thinker in general, and the things inside my head are almost as real to me as reality. One dear friend is such a realist she has to focus on her body and forgo teh fantasy to concentrate on what feels good other wise she gets wrapped up in the fantsy and forgets to masturbate.

Don't worry about what anyone else does other than the "oooh heyIlike that, let me try that" and if it works for you, awesome, if not, well now you know.

 

[TheEarl]

Okay, I was reading the thread by sincerely_helene asking if men fantasize while masterbating. This got me to thinking about my own masterbation. I think I've mentioned this before,but I've only reciently started to fully experimant with my sexuality. Infact, it was my ex that taught me to masterbate just after we were married. However, I never really fantisezed while doing it. I have written out fantasies, but Even when I work my self up to the point I can't stand not to masterbate, the fantasy stops and I'm just alone enjoying myself. Am I missing something? Does it make the experence more powerful, or is it more enjoyable? Give a newbie some advice, please?

The fantasy makes everything far more powerful to me. I don't think I'd get off as much if I was just a guy in a room. However, that's just the way my sexual mind works.

The Earl

 

[mlady_france]

Don't worry about what anyone else does other than the "oooh heyIlike that, let me try that" and if it works for you, awesome, if not, well now you know.

that was more what i was looking for. just some ideas to play around with. Things to try.

 

[Colleen Thomas]

I would advise you try it with a fantasy. Pick something you find interesting, sexy, or hot. Makes some time when you know you won't be interrupted and enjoy the fantasy as you masturbate. For me, the fantasy is just about vital to really enjoy mastrubation.

 

[TheEarl]

that was more what i was looking for. just some ideas to play around with. Things to try.

Well my advice would be to just concentrate on the actions.

The guy you're thinking about trails his fingertips across your chest and you follow them with your own hand. He kisses you and you move your lips with him. His cock presses against your pussy, slowly opening you, thrusting in ever so firmly - you do that with your fingers/toy. Make it so it's not about you in a room, it's about someone else doing those wicked, wicked things to you.

The Earl

 

[English Lady]

I'd say close your eyes, lie back and fantasise. Pick a quiet time, unplug the phone, put on some sexy music if silence isn't your thing, get yourself comfy and just think yourself a fantasy, as the fantasy gets hotter and hotter, let your fingers wander around, keep fantasising as you stroke and touch and see if you can keep the fantasy going till you erupt...well tryit, at least

 

[lucky-E-leven]

I had to be really comfortable with the masturbation process (physically speaking) before I ever began incorporating fantasies into my personal play. If you're still learning about your body and what you can wring out of it, it makes sense to me that the fantasy would be unimportant. The self-exploration alone was enough for me to be enthralled and heated up.

If this is not the case, and you're just in the habit of blanking out your mind and letting sensation take over, but would like to incorporate fantasy into things then I'd suggest printing off a story or two and reading it until you're good and wet. Then, as you read, begin the masturbation. Like The Earl said, it's much more powerful to imagine someone else touching you whilst your hands roam your body and bring it to a fevered pitch. In effect, you're putting yourself into the story as the character being administered to. It's an idea, at least, and has worked for me on many occasions.

Good luck, and don't be afraid to try anything, even if it seems awkward at first. The things that drive me most wild are things I forbade myself to venture into for a very long time.

~lucky

 

[mlady_france]

Well my advice would be to just concentrate on the actions.

The guy you're thinking about trails his fingertips across your chest and you follow them with your own hand. He kisses you and you move your lips with him. His cock presses against your pussy, slowly opening you, thrusting in ever so firmly - you do that with your fingers/toy. Make it so it's not about you in a room, it's about someone else doing those wicked, wicked things to you.

The Earl

That deffinitly perked my interest.

 

[mlady_france]

I had to be really comfortable with the masturbation process (physically speaking) before I ever began incorporating fantasies into my personal play. If you're still learning about your body and what you can wring out of it, it makes sense to me that the fantasy would be unimportant. The self-exploration alone was enough for me to be enthralled and heated up.

If this is not the case, and you're just in the habit of blanking out your mind and letting sensation take over, but would like to incorporate fantasy into things then I'd suggest printing off a story or two and reading it until you're good and wet. Then, as you read, begin the masturbation. Like The Earl said, it's much more powerful to imagine someone else touching you whilst your hands roam your body and bring it to a fevered pitch. In effect, you're putting yourself into the story as the character being administered to. It's an idea, at least, and has worked for me on many occasions.

Good luck, and don't be afraid to try anything, even if it seems awkward at first. The things that drive me most wild are things I forbade myself to venture into for a very long time.

~lucky

I think it's just more habbit than anything. I've been focasing on myself, what feels good, what feels better, to the point that I blocked everything else out, just trying to figure out what it is that I really like. But the intensity has weakened. I tried to read some stories here before, and found myself withdrawing from them once I got to the point of masterbation. And I do think there are some things I've been holding back on, because I think they are too weird, eventhough I find them exciting.

This has been helpful so far, please keep discussing.

 

[Belegon]

for me, the fantasy is absolutely essential. the physical sensations are appealing, but without the mental play I might as well be rubbing my own shoulders. see, I like to get neck rubs too and enjoy those physical sensations... what makes it sexy to me and makes me want to bring things to a certain point is the people I am thinking about...I'm not addicted to "sex". I am addicted to people, and to having sex with them (even if only in fantasy)

 

[lucky-E-leven]

I think it's just more habbit than anything. I've been focasing on myself, what feels good, what feels better, to the point that I blocked everything else out, just trying to figure out what it is that I really like. But the intensity has weakened. I tried to read some stories here before, and found myself withdrawing from them once I got to the point of masterbation. And I do think there are some things I've been holding back on, because I think they are too weird, eventhough I find them exciting.

This has been helpful so far, please keep discussing.

Well, if the stories don't work for you, perhaps a good cyber session would get things moving. I don't really require anything to set off a mental fuck session anymore.

One thing I was always weirded out about was making any kind of noise. For some reason, it just felt strange to be vocal when I was alone.

I got over it, and ... YUM!

~lucky

 

[impressive]

One thing I was always weirded out about was making any kind of noise. For some reason, it just felt strange to be vocal when I was alone.

I got over it, and ... YUM!

~lucky

AGREE! I speak to my fantasy lover just as I would if s/he were there!

 

[lucky-E-leven]

AGREE! I speak to my fantasy lover just as I would if s/he were there!

Amen! Fucking hot, no?

 

[TheEarl]

That deffinitly perked my interest.

Glad to help. The price is updates on your progress.

The Earl

 

[mlady_france]

Glad to help. The price is updates on your progress.

The Earl

You give a little, I'll give a little.

 

[AppleBiter]

Maybe I'm out of line here, . . . but what's wrong with a little visual aide? Personally, I prefer that over fantasy, believe it or not. *shrugs* You could give it a shot, at least. See if it does anything for ya.

 

[sincerely_helene]

I would say if it ain't broke, don't fix it.

I tend to work up a good scenario in my head, and will go with it over and over again until I am sick of it. Once I hit the part that tells me I'm about to burst, I will pause the fantasy there and rewind, and rewind, and rewind, until the ole' vagina volcano finally errupts.

There really is no right or wrong way.

 

[OhMissScarlett]

I didn't start masturbating until I was about 20, which is pretty late compared to most women I know. At that time, I didn't really have so many elaborate fantasies of my own(not like I do now anyway), so it helped to to get going by reading some other women's fantasies.

Those Nancy Friday books of women's sexual fantasies can be purchased in just about every mall bookstore's "relationship" section and there's something for everyone in them. happy wanking

 

[sincerely_helene]

I didn't start masturbating until I was about 20, which is pretty late compared to most women I know. At that time, I didn't really have so many elaborate fantasies of my own(not like I do now anyway), so it helped to to get going by reading some other women's fantasies.

Those Nancy Friday books of women's sexual fantasies can be purchased in just about every mall bookstore's "relationship" section and there's something for everyone in them. happy wanking

I still remember the first time I had a go when I was about ten. I had never even heard of the term "Orgasm," and didn't know a thing about sex, let alone masturbation.

Needless to say, the climax scared the crap out of me. I kept getting real close, but would stop because I thought I was going to pass out. I kept promising myself that I would never dare go any further, but my curiousity got the best of me.

I think I was addicted for a while after that. I still had no idea what I was experiancing, only that it felt fan-fricken-tastic!