Seducing You

[pogogirl]

Ok I have a funny question for the Lit guys out there? You and me we are at a bar. You are single and available. How could I seduce you? What could I say that would give you hints that I might be interested in coming home with you that night? I am being serious. I have been wanting to go to a bar for quite sometime now and suduce a guy just to see if I could do it. Also for some fun but I am nervous on how to go about doing this because I am a little shy. I am thinking I will need to get a bit buzzed on some drinks before I try anyway. Just wanted to get a man's perspective on this.

 

[MastrJ]

I wish I could help, but I tend to be just a little dense when it comes to things like this. It took my sub and I almost three months of this before we really hooked up. Kind of funny, but I really wish I had picked up on the signals a bit earlier.

 

[ABN_Ranger]

Well... if it was me... dropping subtle little hints never really worked, The girls I used to go home with when I was a man slut just kinda walked up to me and told me, granted they usually watched me for a bit to see who I was pulling recon on, and well they'de let them know that I was on their menu, so to speak. But I like any self respecting paratrooper, was as easy as a cheerleader on the bus full of football players, no disrespect ment to cheerleaders. But hey, us Airborne types are easy... especially when beer is involved. Oh yeah, subtle flashings usually worked great.


J

 

[ReadyOne]

Go up to him (sit down beside him). Act like his is a friend.

If you're in a group (you sat down beside him at a table with others), talk specifically to him, as well as the group.

Pretend that you and he share a secret.

Touch him. The bigest signal a girl can send a guy is to touch him, many times, and not hesatently or fleetingly. It's the one sign a guy can see that tells him the she is comfortable inside his personal space and wants him to be inside hers.

And that's most of the game. Get him comfortable inside your personal space, heads close enough to kiss.

Then you invite him somewhere by himself, kiss him a couple of times (slow dance with groping? Trip back to the restrooms?).

Finally you invite him to bed. Use words, and make sure he knows that you really want to. While first you communicate with body language, follow it up with words. Then he has no question about your intentions.

And before you go off to bed (leave the place), talk about sex. You can even talk about sex before you tell him flat out that you want him for a lover.

Talking about sex sets reasonable expectations for the encounter. If you like it doggy style, ask him what his favorite position is, and tell him yours is doggy. If you do anal, tell him how you like lots of lube and being stretched before being entred. Tell him how much pain is "neat pain" and how rough is too rough. If you want it rough, ask him if he's ever just thrown a girl across the back of a sofa and taken her.

Exchange fantasies. Set some limits; if you don't do anal then tell him the back door is exit only. Give him information so he will know what he can do with you, and he will feel a lot more comfortable.

And when it's clear to both of you that you are going to go off and fuck, mention birth control, condoms, etc. Carry some with you and before you leave a public place (or take his pants off), make him promise to use them.

Think about where to take him. Do you want him to know where you live? And arrainge to call a friend every so often with details (you've got a cell, right?) so he can be tracked, where you're going before you leave, and your safe arrival when you get there. Leave a trail so people can find you in the morning, or find him if you don't come home.

Finally, trust your instincts!!!! If anything feels the least bit wrong, abort! There are other people and other times.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

This is like asking for advice on breathing...a woman wants to pick up a guy, if he is available he is picked up, it is just that simple. Of course, that could just be me, because I rarely turn down a woman...any woman.

 

[Bobmi357]

Pogo,
Let me make this painfully clear. MEN, myself included, are IDIOTS when it comes to hints.

Walking over to a guy and dropping hints just won't cut the mustard. Your comment about wanting to win some free balls in pinball might be cute, but it will go over his head. Your eye contact will seem totally non-erotic to him. The laughter and a quick arm squeeze will get you no where.

Men are incapable of picking up subtle clues from women. Which explains why the wife is always upset around christmas when she opens up a box with a new toaster oven. Next time the woman will not use the "bun in the oven" hint to tell her man she's pregnant!

If you want to really show your interest, why don't you just tell him "Lets go somewhere a little more quiet?" Or "How about we leave this place and grab a bite to eat?" or if you want to go slower, just ask for his phone number?

Guys really do like it when a girl shows more than a causual interest in them. Getting him into a situation where its one on one, and I don't mean sexually, but one on one talking is the first thing a guy likes. To us it means you find us interesting enough to leave the party scene and go somewhere where you can talk and just enjoy each other's company.

And if that doesn't work, caressing his crotch and asking "Is that for me?" would probably work also.

 

[MastrJ]

And if that doesn't work, caressing his crotch and asking "Is that for me?" would probably work also.

That's about what it took for me to realize my sub WAS interested in me. Except it was a combination of grabbing my crotch and clipping my cell phone to her panties and then letting me pull my cell phone out.

 

[Astrum]

I'll admit I'm an idiot when it comes to hints. My current, or was current girlfriend was dropping hints (this was about three years ago) that she liked me. Of course being the dense imbecile I am I didn't pick up on it. So I started going out with some other girl who told me as we were breaking up that her friend (who apparently had the hots for me too) told her that my current girlfriend liked me...

Damn that still confuses even me .

Anyway, the girl that I went out with before didn't drop hints... She actually dropped herself in my lap. I admit, I was a bit... Uhh... Drunk . Anything sex related will seduce me when I'm drunk...

 

[TheFrenchGuy]

Hints ? What hints ?

Okay guys, men like us don't get hints except when they're slapped right in our faces.
But what if there's no hint ???
I met a woman at work, I sort of seduced her by pouring her Champagne the way it ought to be. We had a great evening chatting about us and our common interests. Our second meeting, we spent a whole night at her place talking. Yes, I said talking, from 8pm to 7am. We were having a nice time, but no hint ! And I wouldn't have made a single move without a signal.
Third meeting was about to end up like the second except that in the middle of the night I finally took the plunge and told her I wanted to kiss her madly. But still without any clue whatsoever, except that she had agreed on coming to my place for diner.
I could have been slapped but it turned out ok... and it still does.

Talk about shy girls...

 

[quickfoot]

One thing that I read about somewhere that a few woman liked doing was having writing their number on a card and after talking with a guy they would like to take home for a while they would hand him the card that contained a more explicit invitation.

Of course you probably should feel comfortable talking about it but if you aren't its an idea!

Most guys are going to go for being picked up no matter what you say so if that is what you are looking for you shouldn't have much trouble.

 

[VSE]

Let me make this painfully clear. MEN, myself included, are IDIOTS when it comes to hints.

I'll second that, DONT hint. If you're interested come on over and talk to me. Ask me for a light or something to break the ice. If its in a club and I'm dancing, dance with me, just make it obvious that its me you are interested in and take it from there.

The last girl who succeeded probably tried dropping hints for a while (yes I had noticed her, yes I did think she was cute, no I had no inkling whatsoever that I'd be spending the night in her hotel room) before finally come out with the ol "got a light" line and follow up that got us talking, then going out for the evening, then going back to her room. The one before that tried hinting for weeks before giving into exasperation and just asking me straight at the end of a night out if I wanted to go back to her place (I thought she fancied my mate so I was more than a bit surprised).

 

[CelticFrog]

Um. I never successfully picked up a guy at a bar. Or anywhere else, for that matter. I cheated. I used the internet.

Of course, almost four years later (3 married), we're still going strong. And having more fun than ever.

Seducing him now generally doesn't take much more than flashing him.


Ang

 

[jfb4548]

Um. I never successfully picked up a guy at a bar. Or anywhere else, for that matter. I cheated. I used the internet.

Of course, almost four years later (3 married), we're still going strong. And having more fun than ever.

Seducing him now generally doesn't take much more than flashing him.


Ang

Haha I think you might be over thinking it Pogo. Just paying attention to a guy. Start by catching his attention...Flash him a shy but sexy smile...a bit of small talk...work your way up close to him...Unless he's not into women your on your way If all else fails buy him a beer and flash him some skin!