Secrets that you keep from your spouse/so

[TN_Vixen]

I was listening to a radio talk show yesterday morning and the topic of conversation was twofold.

First the men hosting the show were adament that there is no way to tell your wife or g/f that she needs to lose weight.

Second, what secrets do couples keep from one another?

Some of the responses ranged from wives not telling their husbands how much money they spent on something to husbands not telling their wives about their jobs not going well.

What secrets do you keep?

 

[miles]

Getting tied up at the office.

 

[Vivid Blossom]

My online activities and my lover

 

[sexy-girl]

there's only ever been two secrets i kept from my girlfriend it was were when we first met and both were embarrasing in a non sexual way i wanted to make a good impression so i lied to cover them up ive sense told her those two things and she was perfect with them and dealing with the fact that i even lied ... we tell eachohter everything including previous sexual experiences online activities i know being 100% open isnt for everyone but im lucky that we both are very alike and its worked out so far

 

[Angel]

I've never kept a secret from him. I can't.

I've lied by omission at times wiht others in the past, but not maliciously - more of a not knowing how to go about it. I always get it out eventually though. I'm the type that can't handle knowing there is a secret I'm keeping. It eats away at me.

 

[livin_simple]

I'm with Angel. I can't keep a secret from a significant other and I can't lie.

I don't get blown back and forth with emotional changes due to the changing circumstances of life, but at the same time those changes and their effect on me are pretty much right there. Used to be the calm, stoic type that kept everything inside and erupted later - usually in a disproportionate manner to the provocation. But that stuff is unhealthy for myself and the people around me, so I've changed.

But even in my stoic, keep-it-bottled-up-inside time, I was simply unable to lie or deceive.

 

[beckbabe]

I'm really bad at lying to my husband, whenever I try it I break down and confess within an hour. I can pretty much do whatever I like anyway, so I don't feel too much pressure.

 

[teresafannin]

The only secret I have from my sweetie is the time I spend here. I need a place to escape from real life & this is it. I love him with all my heart, but I need some time just for myself.

 

[KillerMuffin]

Anything that will send him into a homocidal rage. Shockingly, that's a lot less than it used to be. I can now mention gun control without fragmentation grenade rage. He just turns purple.

 

[Starfish]

I have yet to keep anything from him indefinately. I have to wait till the right time, but there are no secrets.

Back when he treated my like just another ho, I really had a hard time emotionally. His best friend and I were great friends, and he always seemed to relate, cause his girlfriend of the time, did the same shit to him. We started to fall for each other, but with his having a child with his girlfriend/now wife, and David and I being more than compatable, just having a rocky time, although it was hard at times, we never gave into temptation. I told my husband about my feelings for our friend, and he said "I am not surprised, or mad, cause it seemed like back then you two were perfect for each other. So, Did you fuck him?". I was shocked that he wasn't throwing shit, and when I said no, he was shocked, and said... "I am surprised but glad you didn't. Either way, I am glad you picked me, and I snapped out of being a dick to you."


He has made up for his actions, and is a great husband. Even when he wasn't, I couldn't keep things from him.

 

[Xander]

Can't keep anything from my S.O. Nor would I.

I believe when the communication dies away and you start hiding things from one another, thats when the relationship needs a serious tune up.

 

[Weird Harold]

First the men hosting the show were adament that there is no way to tell your wife or g/f that she needs to lose weight.

Second, what secrets do couples keep from one another?

Some of the responses ranged from wives not telling their husbands how much money they spent on something to husbands not telling their wives about their jobs not going well.

What secrets do you keep?

Everyone has skipped right over the first topic. -- I disagree with the talk show hosts, and I don't think they really believed it either. If you maintain communication with your spouse, you CAN tell her she's getting a bit chunky without sleeping on the couch for it.


The secrets between couples topic probably came from a poll HNN news reported on yesterday. Surpisingly, sexual matters wwas only 2% of the things people kept from their spouses.

NOTE: The poll said nothing about lying to a spouse, just What secrets do you keep from your spouse."

Number one was "money matters," and "problems with the kids" was either two or three.

I think that both money matters and problems with the kids are more "I've got it handled" than "I've got a secret."

 

[MissTaken]

Why not?

In an open and healthy relationship, expressing concern over weight gain might be taken well if not welcome. He cares enough to notice.....or cares enough to be concerned for her health....or cares enough to be concerned that she may be over eating for emotional reasons.....

There are many different scenarios that could be played out.

Secrets from my EX husband were many:
~on line activities
~credit cards
~and my weight loss as he gained!

There are no secrets from my new love and I intend to keep it that way.

 

[nasty]

The only thing I kept from a lover

The only thing I kept secret with my last girlfriend was my deepest fetish. Anyone that read my answer to my thread on fetishes know what I mean.

 

[beckbabe]

I can't really call it a secret, but I'm very quiet about my spending habits.

 

[willfulbrat]

I don't keep a lot of secrets, but if it's a bad thing, I'll let a lot of time go by before I disclose the truth. LOL. And I do hide the shoeboxes under the bed and throw them away when Galahad's not home.

 

[SteamyChik]

How often I masturbate

I'm not sure it's a secret exactly, because if he really asked I would tell him. But, neither do I make it obvious when I'm going to do it, or have done it. Which is pretty often after all the time I spend on here!