Secret Admirer

[lastlombax]

Secret Admirer (updated)

Update : I left my letter as written I did divide it into paragraphs. I did correct some grammatical mistakes that were pointed out. Instead of signing it “secret admirer” I signed it with my name. She loved the letter and the flowers. However she did not think I would date “someone like her.” She is a woman going threw the male to female change. I admit it was a bit of a shock but we been to three dates so far and i like her more and more every day. I hope things will keep going good.


Thank you For all the advice.

 

[Hypoxia]

Wall of text. Break it down into succinct paragraphs.

 

[box13]

"...walk through my garden..." not "threw", as in throw a ball, past tense.

I think this is going to fail. Women are generally creeped out and annoyed by the anonymous lover, last I checked the dictionary. It works in Shakespeare and some bad movies. That's all.

My worthless advice: never fall in love with something you're afraid of. It's impossible to be yourself around. You can't communicate your needs. This generally leads to distrust and arguments over stupid things. Besides, you don't even know the person. They probably killed their last 10 boyfriends and took all their money.

And that's why the person is happy all the time.

 

[Jada59]

"...walk through my garden..." not "threw", as in throw a ball, past tense.

I think this is going to fail. Women are generally creeped out and annoyed by the anonymous lover, last I checked the dictionary. It works in Shakespeare and some bad movies. That's all.

My worthless advice: never fall in love with something you're afraid of. It's impossible to be yourself around. You can't communicate your needs. This generally leads to distrust and arguments over stupid things. Besides, you don't even know the person. They probably killed their last 10 boyfriends and took all their money.

And that's why the person is happy all the time.

Agree. I would be totally creeped out by that and... A person who falls in love with someone that they haven't even gone out with is kidding themselves as to what love is. Lust? Maybe. Not love.

He should just ask her out or even just hand her some flowers with his name and phone number on the card.

 

[MizShaw]

lastlombax - woman here, offering a view (not sure if I'm a lady, though)

The sentiment is appealing - the grand romantic gesture - and your words are so beautiful, but I'm afraid that I agree with Jada and Box: you risk pushing this wonderful woman away, especially if, like you say, she's had some bad times already. If she's anything like most women I know, she'll question such an intense declaration of love: infatuation, maybe, but that can be scary rather than flattering.

My suggestion: you want to make her smile, to light up her day ... but don't put your expectations and emotions on to her. Don't tell her how she makes you feel, or you what you want from her (at least not until you know how she feels about you).

I like Jada's suggestion - buy her a bouquet of flowers: you can have them delivered to keep your anonymity. I would keep the note brief, just something like "There's so much I admire about you: if you feel like chatting sometime, I would really enjoy that". Give her a name to call you, even if it's a nickname: or give her your real name if you are brave enough. Give her your phone number, or email or Skype (whatever you're comfortable with). Then the ball is in her court: if she doesn't make contact, respect her decision and her boundaries. She's making the decision that is best for her at the time.

Whatever you decide to do, I wish you all the best. Maybe you will let us know how it goes for you, xEm

 

[box13]

He should just ask her out or even just hand her some flowers with his name and phone number on the card.

That happened once, and I've always remembered it:

Star light
Star bright
How I wish I was
With you
Tonite

Of course, it's easy to remember something that only happened once. But the card wasn't someone I didn't know, that I had to deal with asking me questions or making assumptions that I couldn't take in and process. I had time to think and become curious.

And I've wished I could find her, again.

I wouldn't honestly know how to do that, myself. I'd be certain the person I'd sent the card to, or the flowers, would be boning up on their self-defense skills, upgrading their home security system, and spending more time at the gun range.

Pornhub sure doesn't treat me that way.

 

[Jada59]

That happened once, and I've always remembered it:

Star light
Star bright
How I wish I was
With you
Tonite

Of course, it's easy to remember something that only happened once. But the card wasn't someone I didn't know, that I had to deal with asking me questions or making assumptions that I couldn't take in and process. I had time to think and become curious.

And I've wished I could find her, again.

I wouldn't honestly know how to do that, myself. I'd be certain the person I'd sent the card to, or the flowers, would be boning up on their self-defense skills, upgrading their home security system, and spending more time at the gun range.

Pornhub sure doesn't treat me that way.

Gee... That's kind of sad!

 

[NightL]

Since the day I met you

How well does this person know you?
Would they remember who you are?
Is she a work colleague?
Is she single?
Are you aware of her sexual orientation?

Anonymous is just down right creepy and serves zero purpose. You will freak the person out and may contribute to them feeling at risk in their daily life.

Seriously what are you going to do after sending it - hide in a corner and masturbate furiously?

Even if she eventually found out who wrote it there is a strong possibility she will view you as an insecure jerk.

Do you honestly believe she will fall head over heals in love with an anonymous letter? It would be just a piece of paper with words that may come from a pervert or someone that could physically harm her.

If you really like this person and they are indeed within your sphere (they actually know you are a real person) and you have polite contact from time to time, all you have to do is say "I enjoy our conversations, would you consider going out for a coffee/drink/glass of wine sometime?".

If you are polite and genuine the very worst thing that could happen is to be told "Thank you for the invitation but I am not really interested" - then you would know. You won't have made a fool of yourself. There could be a multitude of reasons why they say no which may not be any slight on you or your character. They may even think "Oh, this person is single and nice, I will let my friend know".

Quit the fixation on love, say hello in person and aim for a friendship first. The best possible relationship that could ever be includes being best friends - start with that.

 

[Que]

Don't do it.

Don't think about doing it.

She will not appreciate this. Your own your unrequited love for her is juvenile and I'm not saying juvenile to be insulting in this case I mean in the sense that it is ill-formed and not matured. You can't possibly care about this woman to any great degree because you have no actual connection or attachment to her. This is mere fantasy. There's nothing inherently wrong with fantasy but you need to step out of that realm and into some version of reality.

This is not romantic, it is stalking. Just because you think that you're in love with someone who doesn't know you exist doesn't make it not stalking.

 

[ChasingAnna]

To me it reads super creepy.

Most notably, lines like this: "I get and urge to wrap my arms around you and press my lips to yours ."

In the current political and social climate, talking about an unsolicited kiss from a stranger lands more in the #metoo zone than romantic.

 

[lastlombax]

Update : I left my letter as written I did divide it into paragraphs. I did correct some grammatical mistakes that were pointed out. Instead of signing it “secret admirer” I signed it with my name. She loved the letter and the flowers. However she did not think I would date “someone like her.” She is a woman going threw the male to female change. I admit it was a bit of a shock but we been to three dates so far and i like her more and more every day. I hope things will keep going good.


Thank you For all the advice.

 

[NightL]

so 2016 wasn't a great year after all?

For me, i tould be to fuck both my step daughters at the same time. (one is 24 the other 26 my age) some times my wife will tease me or tell me to imagine is one of them im fucking. I asked if i could try to buy a pair of their again panties and said yes.

https://forum.literotica.com/showpost.php?p=81870168&postcount=468

I hope your new endeavours are fruitful in happiness. Does your new partner have children? You may want to lay off the "I want to fuck your children" fantasy this time round.

 

[lastlombax]

so 2016 wasn't a great year after all?



https://forum.literotica.com/showpost.php?p=81870168&postcount=468

I hope your new endeavours are fruitful in happiness. Does your new partner have children? You may want to lay off the "I want to fuck your children" fantasy this time round.

Yes my wife did tease me a lot. They are gorgeous women and closer to my age then my wife who was 20 years older than me. I never did get panties. My wife past away in late 2017 due to complications with surgery. One of her girls did live with me for a while. But we parted ways begging of the year.

 

[PenelopeWood]

A Romantic Gesture?

To anyone who has thoughts of doing this — DON’T.
I had this very thing happen to me recently by a friend/coworker.
He had left me messages, came on to my property and took things, and left things behind. Every time I asked if it was him, he would laugh and say no.
This had gone on for months.
I asked again and again if it was him, and he vehemently denied it.
And yes, it was him all along.