Searching for that special Lady....

[bcbbw]

Where can I find a Bi-lady that will be my first lover?? I have always wanted to be with another lady and yet I don't know where to find one. How does one approach the subject? Maybe it's a tall order but not only do I have to find my lovely teacher..... I also need to find someone who is ok with me being a big beautiful lady. Pls tell me there is hope...

 

[bcbbw]

bump

 

[bisexplicit]

You could try the personals section here, that might be a start.

 

[BDisaster]

i hear ya lady!

 

[neonflux]

finding another woman

Don't worry about being BBW, there are plenty of us out there who love ample women! The bigger problem - your lack of experience. Some of the things to remember while on your search.

Most experienced women do not want to take a chance on someone who calls themselves "bi-curious" (a term to avoid at all costs). Why?

A) Don't want to be part of an experiment;
B) Don't want to risk a lengthy investment only to find that the newby, due to fear, uncertainty, whatever, bows out;
C) Don't want to be with someone who expects to be pleasured but might not be interested in pleasuring in return, etc.

Suggestions:

1) Hand out on the boards, particularly the womem-centered ones in this (LGBT) forum, learn a little about the culture here and elsewhere.
2) Might try joining/searching at On Our Backs personals - on our backs is a lesbian sex magazine - most popular in the country and also a great place to learn about the sexual aspects of American lesbian culture.
3) If are just after the experimentation, might try a couple that includes another woman who is also "bi-curious"

Good luck!
~ Justine

 

[ddyslilfairyprincess]

How?

If we are not bi curious what are we? I to am looking for my first experience. I have had fantasies about it for years and want to fufill them. How do we approach the subject with saying bicurious?

 

[neonflux]

Re: the term bi-curious

If you are approaching a couple, the term is probably fine. If you are approaching women alone, it implies a heterosexual person who is "slumming" or will probably play with her partner's affections.

Rather than labeling yourself, try talking about your feelings for women and your desire to explore them further, your hesitancy, your hope to find someone who will not only pleasure you but will help you learn how to pleasure her, etc...

~ J

If we are not bi curious what are we? I to am looking for my first experience. I have had fantasies about it for years and want to fufill them. How do we approach the subject with saying bicurious?

 

[funwithnone]

Keep Looking

I have been in the same situation, I found myself a very nice and caring person for my first encounter with her husbands permission. I have since been in both lesbian and hetero relationships and also in threesomes with both men and women.

All I can tell you is if there was a way to canada I would probably be right in there. I am also a very cuddly person and I enjoy sex in most forms, not into bdsm, but there are people out there to take care of every fantasy, just make sure you pick the right one. Meet them first and make sure you can be friends when all is said and done.

Belinda